How Do I Get My Husband to Care About Changing Our Parenting Style? ”… I absolutely enjoyed your classes and I am now working on yourbook and cd’s. Thank you for all you have done to strengthen families. You mentioned in one class some ideas to get a husband on board…” First, he needs to […]
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At the lastTSG Couples' RetreatI had an inspiring conversation with a couple about situations they were trying to improve at their home. The father brought up a topic which impressed me deeply. As we were analyzing their relationships with their children, and making plans for how to solve family problems together, this father said, “I
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Tribute To Mothers Is there a more selfless person than a mother? From sun up to sun down mothers are serving their families, communities, church groups, schools, and neighbors. My mother was not perfect, but I remember her striving for perfection every day. She was constantly cleaning, gardening, canning, making food like home-made bread and
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Effective Parenting
Recently my friend, David Perry, the renown film maker, invited me to his home to teach his family self-government. The Perrys have two active young boys ages five and three. They are quickly becoming self-government experts.
This is a recent video of Hudson, age three, explaining
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Relationship Questions “Nicholeen, how can I change my relationship with my daughter? We are so distant from each other.” “Nicholeen, thank you for your articles and Implementation Course conference calls. I look forward to them each week. Please help me with this question. I know you said you have been through this before with your
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Have you ever had a child who won't stay on task unless you are there to make sure he does? Are you ever tempted to threaten negative consequences to try to motivate them to stay focused on their school work or chores? Positive consequences for good choices and self-government motivate children way more than the
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I don’t know a parent who wouldn’t say, “My child is so smart!” We all recognize the intelligence our children possess. But, what about when they just can’t stop themselves from blurting out all that intelligence when Mom is on a phone call, or when adults are having a conversation? Interrupting is a sign of a thinker. Smart people interrupt.
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“Londyn,” fourteen year old Paije said. “You have to clean the griddle since you used it.”
Londyn replied with, “No, kitchen is your stewardship this week. You have to do it.”
“I had to wash the griddle when it was your stewardship, so you have to wash it now.” Paije countered.
“It’s Your Turn To Clean It!” – Problem Solving Steps Read More »
I am not a stress out type person. My part ‘yellow’ personality usually keeps me rather laid back and happy no matter what troubles come my way. This has been a blessing many times in my life. But, I can feel stress, and sometimes I do. Here is my story of how I conquered the worse case of stress I have had.
Stress And Anxiety Symptoms
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All people have a desire to have a certain amount of control over their environment, and the people in their environment. Control makes people feel happy, satisfied, and safe. The problem with the kind of control explained in this question is that it is only temporary control.
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Awesome Success story of 20 month old boy doing Self-Government! If he can, anyone can! (audio recording from weekly Implementation Course Conference Call)
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Question – Chores And Allowances “Dear Nicholeen, My daughter is really struggling over money. She wants some pocket money big time so she’s telling me I have to give her money for doing chores or she won’t be motivated… She thinks she is hard done by and has fought her way out of every chore
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This video is a report of whatteaching self government has been doing lately to help teach the world self-government.And I give you a FREE gift at the end.
As you may already know, the book Parenting AHouse Untied has now been translated into Chinese. I am waiting to hear from publishers and people associated with the Chinese governnment about getting the book out to the Chinese people.
What you may not know is that the book is also tr
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For Families Who Want Support While Teaching Self-Government! I have been teaching self-government principles & skills for almost 14 years now. This whole time I have hadtwo goals.To help people understand self government principles and to present the principles in a way that families can easily adopt them to family life. I started by making
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Hopefully the moment you clicked the link to this article your computer gave you a warning that this article will have the word porn in it. That is a sign that you are trying to keep your family away from pornography by installing a security system and filter on your computer. That is a step
How to Quit Porn: A Spiritual Transformation Read More »
The best way to teach your children to live by principle is to live by principle yourself.
How To Solve Any Problem! 7 Self-Government Principles Read More »
Tunnels
I live in Utah. There are no train tunnels in Utah.
Finding The Right Tunnel Is A Lot Like Raising Children Read More »
Addiction Help
Music can be really healing for the soul, but it can also be damaging.
Every Day Addiction Recovery Stories! Read More »
What is Efficiency?
At this time of year we set goals. We resolve to change our ways and become better than we are. The most common resolutions usually have something to do with time or body size. I don’t know how many times I have resolved to get up earlier, or get up earlier to regularly exercise. Likewise, I don’t know how
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This year our family is doing a new educational Christmas Advent for the 12 days of Christmas. This advent idea was given to me by my good friend, Yvonne Averett. She has two girls ages 9 and 11, and made it for them. They are a homeschool family, and this is one of the ways that they are inviting the Christmas Spirit and Christ into their homeschool this year. I know not everyone who reads my blog is a Christian, but I am and loved this idea. So, I thought I would pass it along. I am always up for family learning and good h
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Over the years we have had a variety of Christmases. Some years we have had more money than other years, but no matter the income we have always felt like we wanted to give our children something which would encourage them to be creative. To create stories.
Stories are the bud of genius. They are the spring of inspiration.
Home Made Christmas Gifts For Kids Read More »
“…Everyone is selling something,” I said as I talked to a young girl one evening.
Her mother had just made a comment about how the outfit the girl was wearing was “too revealing” and so she would need to go change it. The fifteen year old girltilted her hip and rolled her eyes as she smirked at her mom. This smile meant, “I don’t care what you say.
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Who will end up feeling like a turkey this Thanksgiving?
Even though most people look forward to eating a traditional Thanksgiving dinner with family, there are a few who get a little anxious when they think about seeing people they haven’t talked to for a while or people they don’t feel like they get along with.
Thanksgiving Drama! Read More »
When the end of the day comes I find myself looking forward to bedtime. My bedtime is always exciting to anticipate since all my days are usually purpose-filled and very busy. However, I also look forward to the time the children go to bed each night. I love my children, and our days are filled with joy and laughter, but that quiet time after they have gone to bed, and before I go to bed is a great treat too. The quiet times to think, ponder, write and read are some of the treasured moments of my days as well.
I have noticed that some nights I don’t have a good attitude at bedtime because I am craving my quiet time so much. On these nights I get a little bit selfish and don’t really want to
Children Need Sleep! ~ Getting Them To Bed Happy Read More »
I love working with and playing with my children. But, the crying game is a game I don’t play. Many children treat the crying behavior as if it is part of a game. They are able to go in and out of the crying game all day long whenever they see it can benefit them. Children often cry simply to get attention. I know it is hard for many parents to discern whether their child is seeking attention or not. Here is a true story which is meant to help clear up some of that confusion.
If you need a self-government refocus here is a great FREE opportunity to hear a one hour class with new material!
I have been invited to speakon a Free tele-summit called Living The Joyful Life: Learn From 5 Expert Mentors onHow To Have A More Passionate Marriage, Happier Kids, Abundant Finances, Get What You Want in Life and the Truth About Beauty!
*In my class I will be talki
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This past weekend at the Teaching Self-Government couple’s retreat this story was shared by one couple. And, their daughter was there to tell her side of the story too.
Pink Hair Lesson: One Family’s Story Read More »
Just in time for Christmas! The second children’s book in the four book TSG children’s series: Porter Earns A Quarter
Londyn LaRae Says Okay inspired the childrenand families around the world to follow
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The conflicting voices in society about raising children leave many parents feeling confused about what their parental focus needs to be. Should parents focus on autonomy and let children guide their own lives and make their own choices? Or
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Math is stressful! Some people get anxiety when they do math. In fact, I bet most people have felt anxious about one math concept or another over the years. Stretching the brain can be frustrating and can even hurt sometimes. One day my eight year old son, Porter, was doing his math. It was a
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The west is on fire! Islands, mountains, and farm lands are burning all over. Even in cities where there are no fires burning there is smoke which looks like winter fog. What should we do? What can we do? Many people stop and stare. Many people complain. But, only a few are working to stop the fires from burning. As I think about fires, it occurs to me that more than the west is on fire. The world is on fire!
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About 75 years ago, ten year old Tommy Monson had a Sunday School teacher only six years older than he was named Phyllis Bowden. Even though Phyllis was young, she knew the fundamentals of being a teacher to young children and took her role and responsibility seriously. So, when young Tommy became “quite fond of spit wads” Phyllis knew how to handle the problem. When Tommy wouldn’t stop his bad behavior Phyllis sent him to the bishop’s office to talk about the issue.
It Doesn’t Have To Be That Way: Role Reversal Read More »
Nicholeen, Your peaceful parenting methods obviously work so well with older children and troubled teenagers. But, I have a house full of little children. Each day I face terrible twos, three year old tantrums, and four year old tantrums. Can children this young learn to govern themselves too? Answer: How ToStopTantrums This article is NOT
Toddler Tantrums: Positive Parenting Solutions Read More »
Dealing with conflict is tough! Some days it seems like everyone is against you. No matter what you do, someone is offended and takes it personally. Then you take it personally. Then you start fantasizing about how you are going to get even. That night you talk to all your friends about what you ‘might do’ to teach the enemies a lesson. You don’t know how to resolve a conflict, so you plan for revenge instead. Then you take action and end up making wrong choices and ruining relationships.
Miracle Anger Cure: Managing Conflict Read More »
Question
“I am a much better, calmer parent than I used to be since starting to focus on teaching myself and my children self-government, but I still have two issues I seem to constantly battle; attitude problems and whining. What do you do when the child won’t calm down, and won’t do what you tell him?
The Moment Of Truth: Correcting Attitude Problems and Whining Behaviors Read More »
“Porter, what is that?” asked my Chinese friend Phil when he was visiting our home this last week from China.
“The moon.” replied eight year old Porter as he looked at the sky.
“In Chinese the moon has a different name.” Phil went on.
Phil told Porter the two syllable word which means moon in Chinese, but Porter struggled
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Buzz, buzz! “Why won’t the flies stop buzzing around my head?” I wondered as I sat out in the mountain shade trying to digest my new book. First one, then four, all buzzing around my head. It seemed like it was a dance for them, and it looked like a dance for me. I was waving my arms every which way trying to get the pesky insects to leave me alone. I didn’t do anything to them.
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Many parents wonder what to do about problems at school. Sometimes the best behavior therapy for classroom behaviorshappens at home. The video interview below discusses what parents can do about school related behavior problems.
Other parents want to know how to prepare their children for educational success. No matter what way you choose to educate children at your house, you will gain a lot from hearing this conversation between veteran teacher and college professor, Nicholas Pond, and homeschool mother, Nicholeen Peck, about school pro
School Problems? Making Your Child A Genius! Read More »
“But, what do you do when they are screaming, and it’s time to walk out the door?” a father asked me at a recent conference. “My strong willed three year old son is very difficult at those times.”
I looked at this wonderfully dedicated father, and felt his frustration. Who hasn’t felt the anxiety build when a child has a tantrum right when you are leaving for church or leaving for work?
Toddler Tantrums At The Most Inconvenient Times! Read More »
Question:
“What do you think about those systems of parenting that teach NOT using the words consequences or punishments. I know you don’t use the word punishments and I don’t much. But it is a scripture word.
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If you loved Londyn LaRae Says Okay, you will be excited to know that the second book in the Teaching Self-Government children’s series is almost here. It is in production right now and be available for pre-sale soon.
The release date is sheduled for November. Just in time for Christmas!
In this book, Londyn’s brother Porter whines and pouts whenever he gets a no answer or something doesn’t go his way. Everyone in the st
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Were there dangers for children back in the old days? Did parents worry about keeping their children safe from social ills like we do today?
Old Fashioned Solutions For Modern Day Parenting Problems Read More »
This week I was invited back to Family Voice Talk Radio with BJ Stober, family therapist to talk about helping children overcome difficult behaviors, and strengthen relationships at the same time. ,
Breaking bad habits is no easy task. Habits are like snow flakes. They fall ever so softly, but then before you know it you have something powerful, and often destructive, like an avalanche. However, even though habits can seem p
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“I am not a teenager and here’s why…” said a group of youth one day during a discussion on the article by Dr. Michael Platt, The Myth Of The Teenager. One after one each of the group of fifteen or so youth declared why they were not or would not be teenagers.
Becoming A Youth: The Answer To Teenager Problems Read More »
One Sunday our family attended a rare, two hour long church meeting. My children are very used to sitting quietly through one hour church meetings, but sometimes they struggle a little bit on a two hour meeting.
About three quarters through the meeting this past Sunday my eight year old son asked if he could go to the bathroom.
Children Who Can’t Sit Still Cure: Problem Solving Activities Read More »
Interview with a parenting expert part 3
This is part three of the three part series on Teaching Children Self-Government I did with Family Therapist, BJ Stober, host of Family Voice Talk Radio.
In this segment we talk about helping teens figure out ways to decrease computer time. A question was asked presented stating that children are often forced to have lots of computer time by school etc. So, they wanted to know how to find a balance.
For the remainder of the call we talked about making a fam
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People often ask me how to be calm when someone else isn’t. Without calmness self-government is impossible. In part 2 of 3 parts on the Family Voice Talk Radio with family therapist, BJ Stober we talked about calmness and answered many parenting questions.
Here is a link to the video recording of the show.
Next week the show
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BJ Stober, family therapist and hostess of Family Voice Talk Radio, interviewed Nicholeen Peck on April 19, 2012 about strict parenting. This is a link to the audio/video version of the show.
Nicholeen discussed different ways to parent and how what to focus on in order to break bad parenting habits.
Be sure to listen for the 10 Things Parents Need To Know to teach their children self-government.
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Dealing with tantrums is the part of parenting which most parents dread. They hope their sweet little baby will not ever hit the toddler tantrum phase or the even worse teenage temper tantrum phase.
As a young mother, I was just as afraid of toddler tantrums as the next person.
Help My Out Of Control Kid!: How To Handle Temper Tantrums Read More »
What does “living a lie” mean? It is when we believe something that is not true and which controls our thoughts, feelings, and other beliefs. For example, when I was pregnant with our first child, I would sit in church and notice that a boy was wearing white socks with a suit, and I thought, “My son would never do that,” or a little child with a dirty face, and I thought, “My children will have clean faces in church”.
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Changing family structure can be difficult. Our parenting habits probably started in our childhood. And, even when we promised we wouldn’t do the same thing, practice the same negative parenting styles, we don’t always know a different way. There are multiples types of family structures out there to choose from.Since there are many some parents can get overwhelmed.
How do parents know if the chosen structure will actually work?
Nicholeen and Spencer Peck
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A Mother’s Question About Building Self Esteem In Children
“Emma said to me at bedtime that she thinks that she’s ugly. I’m not exactly sure where she heard this since I’m always telling her how cute she is, but what would you say to your kids if they said that?”
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The Parenting Question
Justice or mercy? That is the question. When your child gets frustrated at his sister and hits her does he need justice or mercy? When your youth comes home from a date after curfew does she need justice or mercy? How do parents balance these two truths? Which principles are the parent secrets for raising children? Is justice or mercy the key for how to become a good parent?
Positive Parenting: Justice or Mercy? Read More »
[video:http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gxex1Q6E9rY] See the book and hear what Londyn and Porter think about it. This book about teaching children self control has been a year in the making, but it is finally ready to own. Comments about how wonderful the book is keep rolling in each day.
Some parents say their children beg for it over and over again. Others say their children are happy to see another family using the Four Basic Skills.
The most common response I get from parents is:
It’s Finally Arrived! Londyn LaRae Says Okay! Read More »
Recognizing good parenting principles is the easy part! Actually living them is something else entirely.
I know none of us want to admit it, but it is really easy to become a lazy mother or a lazy father in today’s fast paced society. What can we do to keep in touch with our own parenting?
In this conference call segment I talk about the most popular kind of parenting in the world today; pedantic parenting.
Do As I Say, Not As I Do. Parenting Radio! Read More »
Situation One
A mother says, “Alice I need you to take out the garbage.”
Alice rolls her eyes and walks away. She has obviously made up her mind not to follow the instruction.
How To Correct Children: Inviting Good Behaviors Read More »
“Mom, I’m going to go to Zack’s to play basketball. Is that okay?” Quinton, age fifteen, announced this morning.
I replied, “Quin, you have things to do here at home today, so I don’t think we will have time for friends until another day.”
Quin really wanted to go shoot hoops with his friend. What fifteen year old boy doesn’t?
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There are many ways to show love for family members. However, in our family, we don’t write to each other as much as we talk to each other or do acts of service. So, for one of our family activities we decided to make a family mail system.
You’ve Got Mail! Love Note Ideas Read More »
Question:
“How do you stop children from back talking?”
Answer:
Children talking back, or sassing, to their parents seems to be a behavior many children experiment with. At different phases of development feelings of independence and intelligence emerge causing kids to talk back.
“HI Nicholeen. I have the biggest problem in implementing your method… when
you give a consequence but they refuse to do it…???then WHAT?? I can give
them all the jobs they “earned” but can’t make them do it… WHAT then???This
is my biggest difficulty in implementing what I think is an amazing method…
comments? suggestions???
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This might seem off topic, but I don’t know if it really is. I think having motivated students is something all parents work for. The question was posed to me: Nicholeen, what do you do to prepare your teenage youth for academic success?
On a recent conference call I went into great detail on the subject. As a special treat I have the recording of that call to share with you today.
OT: How To Motivate Students To Learn Read More »
This is the flage described in the article about family mission statements called: Family Mission Statement Success: One Family’s Story
For years now people have talked about making family mission statements. In books and on blogs we hear about the principles behind making a family plan and get inspired to try new things at home.
However, statistically most people don’t actually make mission statements and use them even though they are inspired by the idea. Why?
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Eleven year old, Jacob, shares his New Years Resolutions ideas. I recently met Jacob’s family and helped them learn some self-government principles. When I came to visit a second time he showed me his inspiring idea of how to keep himself motivated and focused on his self-government goals.
Nicholeen’s Implementation Course for parents has all the rest of the videos made at the visit to Jacob’s family. In these videos we learn how to do problem solving exercises, how to do proper corrections, and how to do the Four Basic Skills. They were amazing on film.
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Good Kids Books:
“Do you have any book suggestions for helping my children learn to want to be obedient?”
Answer:
I was asked this question a couple of years ago, and it got me thinking. I couldn’t answer it. I didn’t know of any must have kids books which would teach children the kinds of self-government skills they need to be happy obedient children.
Good Childrens Books? A Must Have Book For Families! Read More »
Question:
“Is it possible to spoil children at Christmas? It seems like my children never stop asking for stuff during the holidays. How do you know if your children are spoiled?”
Answer:
Spoiled Rotten? The Christmas Cure! Read More »
Off Topic: Christmas Ideas seem useful to me, so I hope they are useful to you too!
Our Love Is His Love
Christmas is about Christ. The day bares His name and should bring us closer to Him. It instills in our hearts a feeling of gratitude and reverence.
Nails For Christmas: A Neighbor Gift Idea Read More »
Be sure to read to the end for Free book details.
Question:
“Nicholeen, I have been trying to eat gluten free in order to help my child focus better. It’s really hard, and my children don’t like the food. They are super picky eaters. Are there yummy healthy food recipes for kids?
Healthy Recipes: Free Book! Read More »
[video:http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=cGKZXQd0G0I] Last week my post was about sibling rivalry. Here is a movie which shows how knowing to disagree appropriately is a skill which helps sibling rivalry.
This sibling rivalry solution video was filmed while I was doing some private self-government teaching for a family. I thought the children did very well with their new skills! It is hard to learn new stuff. But, both children will have much more happiness now that they understand that disagreeing appropriately is for their relationsh
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Questions: Children Fighting
“Any tips on dealing with sibling rivalry? Homeschooling is not productive due to this issue.”
“My children seem to fight about everything. Most of the stuff is stupid, like whose turn it is to sit in the front seat, or who gets what place to watch a movie. Is this just normal sibling rivalry they will grow out of, or is this something I can fix? Please help!”
Is is possible to be siblings without rivalry?
Answer:
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Traditions establish identity. I don’t know a person who isn’t proud of their family traditions. Those traditions make us who we are. They teach us what “the good life” looks like and create feelings of unity and love which instill desires for more family experiences and deeper relationships. Traditions give us hope for our futures.
Great Thanksgiving Traditions: Showing Gratitude Read More »
Have you ever had one of those creative conversations with your children where you all get so excited that the talking never seems to stop and the energy feels almost electric? Well, my children and I had one of those days this last spring and from that conversation, Londyn LaRae Says Okay!, a children’s picture book, was born.
Nicholeen’s New Book For Kids! Read More »
The Question:
“Nicholeen,
I have been working really hard at having self-government with my
spouse and children, but I don’t see how to have self-government with
people in my extended family who are extremely difficult. Also, I am
not their mother. How do you deal with difficult family members?
What do you suggest?”
Answer:
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The Question:
“Nicholeen,
what do you do for Halloween? It seems like such a dark holiday, and
I really don’t like participating.”
My Answer:
I love the quote, “Bring your
children up in light and truth.” That is the rule
I follow regarding Halloween.
Halloween: Two Ways To View The Holiday Read More »
A few years ago I noticed a new sign posted at our local swimming pool. The sign read, “Absolutely no cell phone use in the locker rooms!”
At first, when I saw the sign I felt like some of my rights had been taken away or something. It felt like I was being controlled.
Teenagers And Cell Phone Use: Warning! Read More »
Paying Children Allowances
At the Peck house we don’t pay allowance. We also don’t pay for chores to be done. Here’s why and what some other people think about the issue.
We have two businesses we own and offer our children real work opportunities. They help Dad dig holes at plumbing jobs and help Mom do shipping of books etc.
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“Nicholeen, I can’t seem to correct my 16 year old son without him getting upset. He rolls his eyes and looks away from me. He just seems to have a wall surrounding him that none of us can penetrate. I know I am not the calmest parent either, but there must be something I can say to get his attention or something.
Talking To Teenagers: Three Tips Read More »
“Nicholeen,
Can you share your family chore chart with us?”
My chore chart system is really quite easy. Over the years I have had different kinds of chore chart systems depending on the age of my child. I have had toddler chore charts, kid chore charts, and chore charts for teenagers.
Free Printable Chore Charts: For Children and Teenagers Read More »
Question:
“I just purchased your book online. I am excited to read it. I am a mother
of 3 boys, 16, 13, and 11. Years ago we got each boy his own alarm clock &
talked about being responsible for getting himself up in the morning. Since
Wii time in our home isn’t free for the taking, we told them that this would
be how they could earn Wii time, by setting their own alarm, getting up on
thei
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This video is hilarious, but also extremely educational for parents.
Funny Parenting: Eye Opening If You Look Deep! Read More »
Have you ever heard that old phrase about how dogs can “smell fear?” Well, dogs aren’t the only ones who can smell fear; children can too. Children know the moment they have you. They know when mom is out of ideas and dad is ready to explode. They know.
All people are born with this kind of sense about other people, so it is natural for children to consider it as valuable as seeing or tasting.
They Can Smell It: Parenting Videos Read More »
(A Story From My Life)
It’s Monday morning and mom is ready to start the week out right. After a summer full of going here and there it is time for family structure again.
“Time to clean your rooms everyone.” Mom says with a smile.
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(This article contains Nicholeen’s daily home and school schedule for this coming year & a video of how she makes a yearly plan forthe family.)
We have all heard the term “super mom” before. Some people have a positive association with the term. They think, “Wow, that lady is amazing. I want to be a super mom like her.” And, some have a negative association with the term.
Preparing For School With An Ex-Super Mom & My Homeschool Schedule Read More »
We
live in very difficult times. Many people worry about what is on the
horizon, and what future adversities will come.
No
need to worry. Adversity shouldn’t be feared. It should be accepted
and embraced.
What! Adversity is good? Read More »
Last week I talked about how there are certain skills which are important to posess for social success. These skills are different from the self-government skills I teach in myParenting A House United
Social Success: Too Little Friend Time Part 2 Read More »
Can You Have Too Little Friend Time?
“ Importance of Child Development: Are Friends Essential? Part 1 Read More »
March 2011 The writing was based on “The Myth of the Teenager” and is highly recommended Babies Becoming Teenagers By: Londyn and Nicholeen Peck My name is Londyn Peck. I am nine years old, and I refuse to become a teenager because teenagers are not happy. They may think they are doing fun things, but
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For years now people have emailed me questions about what to do about a child who won’t practice piano when told to. My children don’t have that problem because of how I began piano with them. The secret to having children enjoy practice time is in giving the child more ownership and less anxiety. This video shows how I work with my children when they are small.
[video:http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=h33Xk-fK0KY&feature=player_embedded]Getting Children To Practice Piano Read More »
Ever since the 10 Step Implementation Course was released, people have asked me if I could take monthly payments. At first we were not set up to do that. But, now we are!!!
Recently, momessentials asked me to write some posts and participate in a free book give away. The book is my book: Parenting A House United.
Here are the details to the contest:
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Last week I wrote an article which generated a lot of discussion called Can Too Much Friend Time Hurt Children? Since I received so many emails about the topic I feel it is important to address it again. Some people expressed thanks, and others confusion.
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“Nicholeen, can my child have too much friend time? I have noticed that he begs for it all the time, but doesn’t really want to play with his brothers and sisters that much. What should I do?”
As many of you know, in my Audio seminar and book, Parenting A House United, I talk about how children usually tell you exactly what they don’t need by asking for it all the time.
Just like if my child keeps begging me for junk food, I know he needs health
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By: Nicholeen Peck & Heidi Schultz (of www.franticallysimple.com )
Dont’ let this title fool you. Heidi found out principles which work for all size families! She just happens to only have one child.
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“Mrs. Peck, I am afraid I can’t believe in God.”
“What do you mean? How do you know?”
“I just don’t do things I should do and I do some things girls my age shouldn’t do…”
“What are you doing that you shouldn’t do?” I asked
“I just…spend my free time with two guys I don’t know…we just use facebook.
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Is it easier to tell children yes or no when they ask a question?
The answer to this question could depend on what kind of person you are.
Are the kind of parent who really likes to be in control of the goings on in the family and don’t like to be bothered with plans changing, outfits changing, or extra work for a new idea? If you are this kind of person you probably find it is easier to tell the children no when they ask to go play at a friends, finger paint, make cookies, or go swimming.
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“I’ve been using the 4 basic skills with my children, ages 7 and 4. It has been such a help. Thank you, Nicholeen!
But I’m not sure what to do to help my 4 yo understand the concept of
disagree appropriately. It seems too complex for her. She will go
through the script and ask to dis. app. and do it, but she seems
genuinely confused that she doesn’t always get her way when she does
this. I try to let her get her way as much as possible when she
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It’s finally ready! People have been begging for this!
For two years I have been working onmakingwhat I think isthe best I haveto offer to help familiessucceed withTeaching Self-Government principles in their homes. The 10 Step Implementation CourseThis is a Mentored Program.
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Each week I hold a special telephone mentor call for people who are enrolled in my Teaching Self-Government 10 Step Implementation Course. During these calls I personally answer people’s parenting questions. On this week’s call a very profound question was asked.
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Top 10 Videos of Frequently Asked Questions
Friends,
I get asked parenting questions all the time. Frequently, I get the same questions over and over again. So, I have taken the time to makevideo answersto thetop 10parentingquestionsI get asked. Take a few moments to take a look andshare them with your friends.
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“How do you maintain optimism in a depressing world? How do you teach your children to do the same?”
A Not-So-Pretend Story
[Another day of oatmeal for breakfast. I know it’s healthy, but some variety in our diet would be nice. When will the bills stop coming in? Medical bills, living expenses, debts we can’t pay. Don’t think about the money.
“Mom, can we go to the children’s museum? Mom, will you buy me a treat?”
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