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Audio Gem: Is Time Stressing You Out?

Are the holidays stressing you out? How can using TeachingSelf-Government skills help you?

The holiday season is a verybusy timewith lots of people to think about,lots of get togethers, and yet we still need to live our regular lives. It is very easy to get stressed out and feel like you’re running out of time. We wanted to help you take a minute to refocus on what matters most.

In this week’s Audio Gem you will learn:

  • How to hold the individual moments precious
  • How to slow down and connect in relationships
  • Why it is important to look in our children’s eyes
  • Happiness comes from the connection in the relationship
  • The telescope principle
  • Not allowing the details to take over your emotions

It only takes a moment to build or destroy a relationship. Takethe time to look in their eyes so that you build lastingrelationships with your children this Christmas season.

To the victory of your family,
Pennie Rumsey

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Can We Have A Relationship With Money?

This is a Gem from a conversation between Nicholeen and millionaire Jerry Norton. Jerry Norton said “Having money does not make you greedy or bad. It makes you more of what you already are. So if you’re a giving sharing person, it will make you more giving and sharing. If you’re greedy it will make you more greedy. Money just makes you more of what you already are.”

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Having a Moral Family Government

Read Nicholeen’s exclusive article for TSG Gems on creating stable moral government in your home. She says, “There are many things that are attacking the morals in our families these days. In fact, along with distraction, the attack on family values and morals is the biggest problem our society is facing right now. Society is becoming more and more vulnerable to these attacks because the families are not fortifying themselves against the attacks.

If families have solid beliefs/morals and create family cultures where those morals and beliefs are nurtured, then the family cannot be manipulated by the latest social trends. The family standard is a document that helps morally direct the family’s decisions. This document is drafted by mom and dad with the help of God’s natural laws so that it consists of actual morals and principles that will protect and free the family.”

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Video Gem: Recognizing Power Struggles

Do you have a hard time recognizing a power struggle?
This week’s Video Gem is on recognizing power struggles so we can stop them without getting sucked into them. I heard a description a while ago that a power struggle is like a tornado and it wants to suck you in and leave behind destruction in it’s path.
In this video we see Jackie (Mom) answering questions about Jackie’s (daughter) concerns. Then after Nicholeen helps her to see the power struggle, she begins to discuss and address the behavior that is causing the problem. We need to stop the power struggles before. like a tornado, they destroy your family relationships .

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What is the very most effective thing you can do as a parent?

Don’t you just wish you could do the most effective things as a parent and avoid bad behavior all together?

I love this class because it focuses on the idea that “Good = Good”. Nicholeen talks about how we need to correct bad behavior to teach our children through cause and effect to show them bad = bad. It is easier to look at the bad. It is harder to focus on the good. I think of praise as the work we do to swim upstream in the river of life, while the reactive things we do floats us down the river of life in the path of least resistance.

This Gem features Nicholeen reading and discussing a delightful book called “Hip, Hip, Hooray for Annie McRae” by Brad Wilcox. As one of the 8 Tips of Effective praise, Nicholeen talks about praising and really listening.

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What is the vision of your character?

My favorite quote from this Gem is this:

“We need to start by forming a vision of what we want our characters to be, and our children need to have the opportunity to form that vision about themselves as well. And then they need to learn how to act. This is done by modeling. If we have a vision of what our character is going to be [then they will have a vision of what they want their characters to be.]”

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What Does A Changed Heart Look Like?

No matter where teenagers are, they often behave similarly. So, even though I don’t know each teenager personally, I do know how to help them decide to change. And, after teaching for a month in the UK I see even more clearly that teenagers all over the world have the same needs.

  • Teens need:
  • Love from parents
  • Boundaries
  • Rules and skills
  • A vision of something better
  • A plan for success, and
  • A consistent parent who is willing to correct them, even when the teen isn’t happy about the consequences.

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Becoming Free Through Self-Government

This is my favorite quote from Nicholeen on this Gem:

“What we’re talking about today is freedom for yourselves: freedom for your body, freedom for your mind, and freedom for your heart. Those are the 3 parts of a soul. They are meant to work together, not against each other. When a person learns to put all together working in harmony, that person has extreme happiness. Self-government is power.”

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The Marriage That Will Make or Break This Century

“Yes” Marriage Of The Century! Since 2001, the beginning of this century, our world has been different. There has been steady financial crisis, as well as increasing moral decay. While we have been bombarded with messages about keeping people safe and not bullying, our schools and neighborhoods have become less safe and full of more

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Do You See What I See?

Over the last year, my niece has gone through a change. The once happy, helpful girl changed into a whiny, depressed, girl that didn’t look at life the same. One day I got left home with the all the children whilethe adultswent shopping. While I was home with the children I started giving instructions for everyone to clean things up around the house. My niece started arguing with me, then she started whining, then she started complaining about everything in her life and told me that I just didn’t understand her. This is how I handled it…

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Fathers: Parent or Playmate Part 2

We have just made a pretty good argument for Dad’s to parent differently and have different experiences with their children. However, having a different God given role doesn’t mean that Dad should feel separated from the flow of the home. In fact, it is important that Dad should view himself as a co-president of the family business. Families should be run just as effectively as a business.

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Fathers: Parent or Playmate Part 1

I have had many questions latelyasking if fathers should parent different andhow to help fatherbecome part of mother’s vision for the family. There are many different situations and personalities, so there areprobably many ways to treat each different relationship.I am going to share some of what I have learned about fathers and what I havedoneto

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