Index: Seek to Understand
September 11, 2019
When one of our foster daughters lived with us years ago, she did something that the others hadn’t done. She spent the first few weeks very intently watching me. She watched the way I kept house, the way I parented my children, the time I spent reading scriptures and good books, etc.… Read more »
October 19, 2019
“But what if they just keep talking back and are driving me crazy,” a mother asked me while I was instructing a group of parents on how to teach their children to accept “no” answers.The mother of three told the group she knew she needed help becausesometimes she feels so crazy, or out of control, when she’s around her children… Read more »
February 12, 2023
Love runs deeper than many people realize, and the outcomes of love are significant. We all recognize when we don’t feel loved or when we have a hard time feeling love for someone who isn’t behaving lovingly. But, what we don’t often recognize is that love isn’t something that can be turned on and off like a switch. Even though… Read more »
April 18, 2022
As nice as it would be to have complete control over outcomes, it isn’t humanly possible. Cause and effect is a principle of life that we can usually rely upon, but sometimes there seems to be another will for our days and experiences that turns our plans upside down. Sometimes these unexpected turns can create a domino-effect of unfortunate events,… Read more »
December 28, 2020
Relationships require selfless service to survive. Although there are multiple reasons people site for their relationship dysfunctions, from infidelity to arguments, relationship problems usually all have two things in common: dishonesty and selfishness. According to The Institute For Family Studies, the leading causes of divorce are: infidelity, incompatibility, drinking or drug use, growing apart, a lack of commitment, and too… Read more »
October 3, 2022
An exasperated mother said to me, “My teenager doesn’t like to work hard. She expects everything in life to be easy. How do I teach her to like work?” “Do you like work?” I asked the mother. “Most people who don’t see value in work, or don’t like work, are taught somewhere along the way that work is bad or… Read more »
February 22, 2017
Even though there’s violence dotting the globe, the largest battle of our day isn’t physical. It’s a war of words. All these words are supposed to lead the listeners to truth. Often the talk feels cheap even though the claim is each new idea, paradigm and argument is the most valuable. Is this word war new? How are children faring… Read more »
May 23, 2018
As I rounded the corner of a shopping isle at a local grocery store, I heard crying. Through tears a young girl, about 8 years old, said, “Tell me what it is Mom. Tell me what this is.” The moment I turned into this isle, the mother was in the middle of yelling, “Shut up right now or you’ll be… Read more »
March 1, 2018
“You never can tell with bees,” said A.A. Milne’s cherished character Winne-the-Pooh. This was Pooh Bear’s naive way of saying he didn’t understand why bees did the things they did. He made his best guesses, but he always seemed to guess wrong and find himself in a prickled gorse bush — instead of feasting on fresh honey. As a beekeeper,… Read more »
December 30, 2009
“My 2yo has started crying a LOT the past few days. Over every little thing. Nothing is different physically or environmentally that I can tell. He already has his 2yo molars, too.. He’s just been crying about everything that he doesn’t like, with some pretty good tantrums thrown in the mix of the average crying. I tried holding him in… Read more »
May 18, 2020
When teaching and training children, many parents don’t often think about the heart and bond of the child, and how the child is processing what the parent does and says. Since children often misunderstand us and situations, then relationship disconnections occur. Parents are more dedicated to the spiritual, social, and academic success of their children than ever before. They get… Read more »
September 21, 2022
When people don’t speak the same language, it’s hard to understand each other. Likewise, when parents and children don’t speak the same language, then they can become disconnected because of lack of understanding. Understanding creates a feeling of respect and bonding in relationships and is a vital component to creating family unity and solving family problems. Are parents and children… Read more »
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Addictions
- Eating Disorders (11)
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Age
- Adult Children (203)
- Adults (218)
- Grandparents (67)
- Teens (Youth) (430)
- Toddlers & Younger Children (402)
- Tweens (205)
Behaviors
- Attitude (157)
- Bedtime (54)
- Begging (18)
- Boundaries (105)
- Bullying (41)
- Car Behavior (13)
- Depression (44)
- Entitlement (116)
- Etiquette (10)
- Hitting (30)
- Hoarding (7)
- Lying (61)
- Manipulation (155)
- Meal Time (16)
- Micromanaging (25)
- Negative attention-seeking (109)
- Out of Instructional Control (147)
- Picky Eaters (17)
- Religious Troubles (27)
- Self-harm (1)
- Sex (27)
- Shy Children (13)
- Whining (50)
- Yelling (33)
Consequences
- Chores (150)
- Motivating and Inspiration (152)
- Privileges (53)
- Rewards (40)
- SODAS: Problem Solving Exercises (51)
- Time-Out (for ages 7-8 and younger) (47)
Education
- Homeschool (159)
- Private School (37)
- Public School (59)
Relationships
- Abuse (33)
- Authority (114)
- Babysitting (21)
- Character Building (199)
- Control (104)
- Couple Relationship (115)
- Culture (201)
- Dating (34)
- Expectations (195)
- Marriage Relationship (102)
- Money (13)
- Mutual Respect (124)
- Power Struggling (172)
- Priorities (3)
- Respect (215)
- Roles (278)
- Sibling Interactions (168)
- Spouse (90)
Skills
- Accepting No Answers and Criticism (244)
- Analyzing (208)
- Correcting (272)
- Disagreeing Appropriately (187)
- Dropping the subject (87)
- Encouragement (113)
- Following Instructions (129)
- Four Basic Skills (165)
- Group Problem Solving (72)
- No Answers (194)
- Praise (138)
- Pre-Teach (292)
- Problem Solving (150)
- Rule of Three (ages 6-8+) (119)
- Social Skills (192)
- Work Ethic (71)
Structure
- Family Culture (339)
- Family Economy (30)
- Family Standard (84)
- Mentor Sessions (81)
- Mission Statement (26)
- Priorities (89)
Tone
- Anxiety (112)
- Assertive Communication (199)
- Balance (113)
- Calm (267)
- Changing Hearts (205)
- Common Vision Creation (189)
- Connecting (Looking in the eyes) (105)
- Describe (82)
- Family Unity (204)
- Mission (52)
- Power of Calm (125)
- Seek to Understand (133)
- Unity (127)
- Vision (155)