This Call Covers:Keeping the family motivated and productive throughout the school yearDevelopmental changes in teenagers and how to prevent selfishnessPotty training multiple children at once

Posted by Nicholeen Peck on September 6, 2019

Whole Call: https://s3.amazonaws.com/1-SupportCalls/2020/09September/TSG_SC_9-30-20_WholeEdited.mp3   Question: Hello Nicholeen, When my children are having trouble with friends, I often feel extremely stressed out that the problem be resolved. I then have trouble giving my child objective advice. I used to say negative things about the situation and make my child feel worse. Now my oldest is dating, and I noticed that my stress about things that bother my child is really too high. One example is if a date hasn’t called when expected and my child is worried that the person is going to “ghost” them. I would like to be the best person for them to come to for advice. How do I detach and be that person? Do you have any advice for how to handle this? Thank you. Answer: https://s3.amazonaws.com/1-SupportCalls/2020/09September/TSG_SC_9-30-20_Q1.mp3 I love that you are seeing that you are taking things too personally! That is really great assessment. It …

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Posted by Nicholeen Peck on October 2, 2020

This Call Covers:Teaching children about modesty and public boundariesPreventing sneaking onto devices and sneaking outHelping children who are destructiveChildren who call others names

Posted by Nicholeen Peck on September 26, 2019

Whole Call: https://s3.amazonaws.com/1-SupportCalls/2020/09September/TSG_SC_9-23-20_WholeEdited.mp3   Question: I love all that I am learning and becoming with Teaching Self Government, especially that giving up control and honoring agency doesn’t have to lead to chaos… But sometimes it does. 🙂 We held the paper airplanes simulation in our family, and when we debriefed it, our kids were all over the place, being goofy and random. Maybe I should have waited–served ice cream and chatted and then debriefed. This is a frequent problem. We are a fun, large family, and love to bring up new and unusual topics, interesting or funny. Our conversations are interesting, but I’ve found myself being to teach simple conversational skills, like not interrupting. Small surprise. We like to have fun, so how can we bring conversations back to calm when we need to?  Answer: https://s3.amazonaws.com/1-SupportCalls/2020/09September/TSG_SC_9-23-20_Q1.mp3 My father used to always say, “There is a time and a place for …

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Posted by Nicholeen Peck on September 28, 2020

This Call Covers: How to help children “bust” their boredom Dealing with perfectionism Making a mission Statement Helping children to stop fighting with each other

Posted by Nicholeen Peck on September 22, 2017

Whole Call: https://s3.amazonaws.com/1-SupportCalls/2020/09September/TSG_SC_9-16-20_WholeEdited.mp3 Question: Hi Nicholeen, I homeschool 5 children and have a 2 year old toddler. I am introvert with a load of high energy spirited children and one ADHD child. All the talking that’s involved in homeschooling and then all the talking involved in the TSG is hard on me. I hate having to stop a lesson with one child to correct another because it disrupts the flow of the lessons and so I want the bad behavior to stop immediately without having to do a long correction with a lot of talking.  If I leave the one who I am teaching to correct another, the child I was teaching gets distracted and goes off to play or starts talking to another sibling and/or getting silly. Then it takes time to get them to transition back to their lessons. Having someone leave to do an extra chore throws …

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Posted by Nicholeen Peck on September 26, 2020

This Call Covers: How to deal with friends having different values at your home Children who scratch How to help children who are rude and disrespectful Correcting strong willed children

Posted by Nicholeen Peck on September 7, 2017

This call covers: My family doesn’t like deliberate talk and family meetings don’t really work. Is it even worth it to do them? My age 12 son has become very rude and disrespectful to me and the rest of the family. Name calling and “poop jokes” are normal for him. How do I help him fix it? We’ve just started implementing TSG and our 5-year-old son can’t accept a “no” answer. He runs away and is rude. What do we do? Where do you go to get a lift and/or encouragement? Do you ever feel depressed? And, what do you think about birth order? My 3-year-old runs away when it’s time to go to the calm down spot. What do I do about that?

Posted by Nicholeen Peck on August 11, 2015

This Call Covers: Kids Faking illnesses Correcting children on the Autism spectrum Helping children feel comfortable playing

Posted by Nicholeen Peck on September 3, 2018

Whole Call: https://s3.amazonaws.com/1-SupportCalls/2020/08August/TSG_SC_8-26-20_WholeEdited.mp3 Question: Hi Nicholeen! Just wondering if I should pull up my 10 year old daughter on ‘sighing’ when giving her an instruction? The other day I gave her an instruction and she gave an exasperated but very sublte sigh. If you had blinked you might almost have missed it. I pulled her up on it and proceeded to tell her that was not a calm voice. She used the skill of disagreeing appropriately with me. She wanted to defend herself. I calmly stuck to my position believing that it was not a response that I would want her to do to anyone else. She got so overwhelmed with emotion that she yelled at me several times shouting ‘you are so unfair’ and then ran off to her room. I told her that I would discuss this with her once I had thought about it some more. As …

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Posted by Nicholeen Peck on August 28, 2020

Whole Call: https://s3.amazonaws.com/1-SupportCalls/2020/08August/TSG_SC_8-19-20_WholeEdited.mp3 Question: I have a 17-year-old who has many issues that we are working on. My husband is incarcerated and I was in “survival mode” for a long time after his arrest. The kids had more screen time than I would have liked. Now I’ve worked hard with the younger kids to get back into a routine and with good structure/boundaries. I’ve scaled back my teen boys to 1 hour of screentime in the evenings after schoolwork is done. Like I said, my 17yo has many issues, including horrible, blatant disrespect. But the thing that’s driving me crazy right now is his inability to accept “no” for a video game. There’s a game he wants to play during computer time that I’ve given a firm “no” to – and I will not budge. So he mentions and whines about this game probably 50x a day. I’m not sure …

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Posted by Nicholeen Peck on August 19, 2020

This Call Covers: How to teach a child that is not your own how to behave in public Helping your child become inspired to transfer into a scholar phase Helping your children become calm before and during the rule of three

Posted by Nicholeen Peck on August 21, 2017