Disagreeing Appropriately

Support Call 9-30-16

This call covers:

  • Becoming a joyful adult yourself.
  • Easy going to control freak toddler.
  • Manipulative and controlling son.
  • Young son pees all over things and won’t be patient. He does it purposely sometimes.
  • Daughter needs to wear glasses and eye patch, but doesn’t like to because she gets teased by step family and others.
  • Son has new phone for a few days and already has looked at porn sites. How to address that.

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Support Call 6-17-16

This call covers:

  • Summer tip! Helping family relationships stay strong with friends in the picture more.
  • My 8-year-old daughter has a friend who will invite her to play, then leave her and go play with other people without warning. Ideas?
  • 13-year-old son will NOT talk about the topic of changing schools. He immediately gets angry and refuses to discuss it. What do I do?
  • (This call had some technical difficulties on the second question. We apologize. Please read the notes for more on it.)

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Support Call 12-4-15

This call covers:

  • A reluctance to make a family vision because husband is a different religion and doesn’t share the same beliefs and ideas.
  • Son disagrees appropriately witheveryinstruction he’s given. What to do with that.
  • Limit on son’s TV time, but he didn’t want to accept it and he started a power struggle with me.
  • a 2 1/2 year-old son has to have everything his way or he throws a tantrum. He doesn’t really understand TSG stuff yet.
  • Age 5 daughter can’t accept no answers or criticism. When she’s corrected, her self-esteem drops and she deflates. She says she’s not good enough and her ideas are not good enough.

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Support Call 6-26-15

This call covers:

  • Taking the time to disagree appropriately shows respect to the other person
  • How to use TSG when babysitting your siblings or someone else’s children
  • Does moving a lot contribute to social anxiety?
  • How well does TSG work with High-Functioning Aspergers?
  • Is everything in a Family Standard a standing instruction?

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Support Call 6-12-15

This call covers:

  • If my child starts whining after they get a No answer, do I start the Rule of Three or do I just tell them that I want to know what the have to say but they have to stop whining first?
  • How do I use TSG with my almost-two toddler?
  • My kids sometimes whine while asking to disagree appropriately. Should I let them disagree or tell them to be calm?
  • How do I teach my children that they can’t control others, only themselves?

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Support Call 3-7-14

This call was great. We had some nice questions, although on the last one, we weren’t able to record the comments made by the person who asked the question. But, other than that, the call was wonderful.

Also, we have created a new facebook group specifically for our support group members! Request membership to the group here and post all your thoughts and questions to each other.https://www.facebook.com/groups/tsgsupport/

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Support Call 1-10-2014

Yesterday’s call was full of insight! I think the questions that were asked opened everyone’s understanding just a little bit more. These are the questions we had:

  • I have a 11-year-old son who makes his sister the enemy. We have tried many things. What more can we do?
  • My daughter is almost 16 and she is not obeying our family rules when it comes to electronics. She is sneaking them around, she is hiding them from me, and her friends are sending her devices. It feels like she is so desperate to reach out to her friends that she’s lying and sneaking, when all she needs to do is be honest and upfront. What would you recommend?
  • We had an issue where Grandpa went against my wishes. He came to take my daughter to babysit her and I told him “No candy.” On the way back to his home, he bought her an ice cream cone, saying it was “sweets,” not candy.Should I not even send her to Grandma and Grandpa’s house? Please talk about to what extent “my being there” is necessary and how you make judgment calls.
  • My 4-year-old son speaks really loudly. It’s a problem because he wakes his two-year-old sister in the morning. While I shower every morning, he and my husband watch a movie (or two). I think he is getting too addicted to media. My husband doesn’t agree. What do you recommend?

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Conference Call 11-16-12

This call covers:

  • Correcting behavior while traveling and what to do when you have different standards from the people you are visiting.Falling off the TSG wagon and getting back up.What to do when you spouse isn’t on board.
  • 14 year old manipulative son and Disagreeing Appropriately
  • Loss of privileges on a Sunday. Daughter plans her loss of privileges to happen when she can’t lose them.
  • Discouragement
  • When and how to teach the family the TSG program
  • Children’s friends who keep bringing electronic devices to the house. What to do about it.
  • Role Play Ideas for making it more fun, staying away from bribing and the upcoming video
  • Pulling yourself out of a slump

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teenagerSonAndMom

How To Stop Getting Angry: Relaxation Breathing Techniques

“Mom, I’m going to go to Zack’s to play basketball. Is that okay?” Quinton, age fifteen, announced this morning.

I replied, “Quin, you have things to do here at home today, so I don’t think we will have time for friends until another day.”

Quin really wanted to go shoot hoops with his friend. What fifteen year old boy doesn’t?

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Parenting Adult Children ~Narcissism Personality Disorder

Nicholeen,

Do you have any hope (techniques we can use) forNarcissistto change? I am dealing with a 50 year old son who we have diagnosed (finally) and he is wearing us out emotionally and financially.
Thank you so much,

When I think about this situation I can’t help but ponder on the word “control.”He wants control of his life and is going about it all wrong…………you want to have more control, or influence, over him and he is not a child anymore, despite how he is acting, so you can’t have it by taking it. There is a principle I believe in…………..No one is able to really control anyone but herself.

However, this doesn’t mean that you can’t still have influence on your son. It just means that it is much more

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time out

Tips For Using Time-out With Toddlers

“My 2yo has started crying a LOT the past few days. Over every little thing. Nothing is different physically or environmentally that I can tell. He already has his 2yo molars, too.. He’s just been crying about everything that he doesn’t like, with some pretty good tantrums thrown in the mix of the average crying. I tried holding him in timeout (he’s never stayed in time out on his own so far), but he screamed and threw a serious tantrum the whole time.. which wouldn’t be a problem for me except that I have to take care of the other kids, too! I tried holding him in our time-out spot until he was done with the tantrum so I could praise him for being happy, etc., but after 40 minutes of continuous screaming, my baby was also crying, needing to be fed, and the other young kids had destroyed the basement. At that point I just took him to his bed to finish his crying fit. So I’m thinking the holding in time out option might not work for us. Yesterday and today I’ve started just taking him to his room when he starts having a breaking down crying fit. What would you suggest? Do you think I should just take him to his room every time he cries? Or should I try

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Dealing with Friends part 4

How do you help your children stand up for what’s right without being “preachy” or “goody-goody”?

The most importantskill you can teach your child is how to determine what is right and what is wrong and how to choose right and stay away from wrong. This is the whole reason children need parents. If my child can’t match his outfits, doesn’t know how to do mathematics well, never changes his bed sheets, ortalks with his mouth full, it doesn’t really matter at all if he has mastered how to discern between what is right and what is wrong and chooses to follow right.

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