Friday’s call was short but sweet. We had some really good questions: My daughter lies about so many things, and she seems to only care about being caught. The mess in her room is often up to our knees – she has hoarder tendencies – and I don’t know how to help her over that. My oldest son is 17 and a senior in high school this year. My husband and I are concerned about his lack of gratitude and appreciation for things we do for him. We struggle with dinner time rules and etiquette. Any thoughts? When someone is out of control, and we’ve done the Rule of Three, is it okay to let them read a book?
Posted by Nicholeen Peck on January 31, 2014
This Call Covers:Nicholeen talks about mental healthHelping you children get good friendsSetting boundaries with friends
Posted by Nicholeen Peck on January 30, 2020
This Call Covers: What to do when a friend’s family completely disrespects you in your own home. Helping out a stubborn child Dealing with laundry problems A computer addiction in a child
Posted by Nicholeen Peck on January 28, 2018
This call covers: Daughter gets emotional during her mentor meetings. Do we, as the parents, validate or correct those emotions? How to handle crying, whining, talking back, and separated parents. Son has rage episodes and will only calm down for mother. Is that making him dependant? How to use TSG with children that have ODD and anxiety
Posted by Nicholeen Peck on January 21, 2017
This Call Covers:How to help my family understand my visionMicromanaging and touchy childrenMasturbation in teenagersHelping a spouse change their attitude
Posted by Nicholeen Peck on January 17, 2020
This Call Covers: Teaching children not to be judgemental Dealing with anger management issues Helping you maintain your patience when you’re running thin
Posted by Nicholeen Peck on January 13, 2018
I am not a stress out type person. My part ‘yellow’ personality usually keeps me rather laid back and happy no matter what troubles come my way. This has been a blessing many times in my life. But, I can feel stress, and sometimes I do. Here is my story of how I conquered the worse case of stress I have had. Stress And Anxiety Symptoms
Posted by Nicholeen Peck on March 12, 2013
A friend of mine asked me what she could do for her teenage exchange student. This student was in the middle of a multiple, day-long teenage tantrum. The mother had told her exchange student that she couldn’t attend a sleepover because the family doesn’t do sleepovers. The teenage exchange student, in turn, became very emotional and quite upset. There are many layers to a story like this. We could examine whether or not the child fully understood why the family had this rule. Or, we could determine if she was accustomed to getting “No” answers from her parents. Likewise, we could find out if the teen even had the skills necessary to be fully understood and happy in a situation like this. This mother sincerely wanted to have a good experience with her exchange student, but she didn’t want to change the established family rules just to please this girl …
Posted by Monica Pond on January 17, 2018
It’s hard to see a good family friend or loved one stray from the things you both know and believe. Things inevitably end up changing. The relationships become different and sometimes strained. However, you still want to stay close to them. How is that to be achieved? And, how do you break it to the children without them thinking these good people are not so good?
Posted by Nicholeen Peck on December 23, 2016
I remember one day talking with a dear friendabout parenting.She told me that for about a monthshe was doing so good with the Teaching Self-Government principles in her home.She said she really saw results whenever she remembered the principles and used them.Then she said that her family went on a trip for a week.On the way home from the trip, she stopped using the Teaching Self-Government principles.She said that for some reason she just went back to her old, inefficient way of running things at home.
Posted by Nicholeen Peck on May 2, 2018
Parents are meant to shepherd their children toward truth and safety, as well as in learning skills, in order to prepare them for the purposes of their lives. But not all shepherds are the same.Two sisters were given some sheep to care for, and a promise that the sheep would be of great value if tended properly.The younger sister wanted her sheep to bring her wealth and praise quickly, so she promptly put them out to pasture to fatten the sheep up. The tending was easy at first. She gave them a grassy place to eat and left them alone. Since the sheep were busy, she could do the things she wanted to do. She felt she was getting more done by keeping her sheep occupied with their grassy hill, while she spent time with friends, received spa treatments, and built her wool business. She created a website and established …
Posted by Monica Pond on April 18, 2019
Roles. They define our rights, obligations, responsibilities, beliefs, and even who we are. How well do we each understand our respective roles? How do we teach our children about proper roles? How would the problems children and parents face change if they better understood roles? Aren’t parents whether aggressive, passive or assertive always defining roles anyway? How do roles effect business relationships? Why do we see the roles in today’s world wrapped around so much confusion and debate when it’s impossible to escape roles? This book (published in 2016) makes roles easier to understand, and it shows how to strengthen roles and empower ourselves and those we live and work with to reach our full potentials.
Posted by Richard on April 28, 2020