I instructed my daughter to sweep the floor. She said, “OK Mom, but I don’t know how.” This surprised me. She had seen me sweep the floor so many times, that I forgot she might not even know how to accomplish the task.So, I told her exactly how to do it. It’s needs to be the same when telling your child what to say.
Posted by Nicholeen Peck on May 25, 2008
When teaching and training children, many parents don’t often think about the heart and bond of the child, and how the child is processing what the parent does and says. Since children often misunderstand us and situations, then relationship disconnections occur. Parents are more dedicated to the spiritual, social, and academic success of their children than ever before. They get involved in coaching, carpools, and creating more opportunities for today’s youth than previous generations of parents did. Because of these great efforts, youth are getting better college entrance test scores, getting national awards and titles, and becoming entrepreneurs, all while also championing high morals and long term focus for their lives. With all this extra effort made on their behalf, why are so many youth and young adults feeling alone and like failures? What They See and Feel Today’s youth know their parents have made huge time, money, and heart …
Posted by Richard on May 18, 2020
I once received a note from a reader about her 14-year-old son who was quite the thinker. He always wanted to know “Why?” about everything, which is wonderful, but it was leading to problems respecting authority.
Posted by Nicholeen Peck on February 14, 2019
Years ago I was participating in a sewing activity at my church. Many women had gathered at the church with their sewing machines. At this activity, there was a four-year-old girl that kept touching the knobs on the sewing machines. Her mother tried to keep her in control and punished her by putting her into time-out when she touched the machines. She didn’t stop trying to touch the machines —even though this girl was punished each time .
Posted by Nicholeen Peck on March 21, 2018
When the famed prime minister of England, William Pitt, was asked what made him a great prime minister, he didn’t say his hard work ethic, late night hours, or perseverance. He said, “Patience.” There are many attributes that are useful to parents as they’re raising their children during this often busy world full of attitude problems, disconnection, and every day mishaps. But nothing is so vital as patience. There is one simple skill that, if kept in mind, makes patience for parents a bit easier. Recently, while speaking to a group in Washington, a worn out mother asked me a question following some discussion on how to stay clam while parenting through difficult parenting situations. She said something like, “What do you do when too much has happened in a day to be able to stay calm? What do you do when you’ve fallen down some stairs that day, another …
Posted by Monica Pond on October 29, 2018
This Call Covers: Attention Seeking in adult children Helping ADHD kids be calm Correcting children who make rude comments TSG and multiple mental disorders in children
Posted by Nicholeen Peck on August 6, 2018
This Call Covers: Dealing with custody-related parenting problems Rule of three and young children Preventing parental manipulation of children Does TSG make kids worse?
Posted by Nicholeen Peck on August 27, 2018
This Call Covers:Manipulation from younger children and how to stop itControlling a completely out of control childHelping a child who is constantly going through the Rule of 3Parenting a compulsively defiant child
Posted by Nicholeen Peck on August 1, 2019
This Call Covers:Helping a child plan for the future when they don’t seem to careSelf-government and young childrenLack of self-government in teensHow to become a TSG mentor
Posted by Nicholeen Peck on July 6, 2019
Whole Call: Question: My 15 yr old daughter has a serious case of FOMO (fear of missing out). She seems to never really be in the present moment as she is always looking way ahead at the next social event and cannot stop talking about it. She’s missing out in her present moment. We have discussed this together but she seems totally unaware that she’s doing it. It’s maddening and sad. I can see she has anxiety that manifests itself this way. How do I patiently help her to be in the present moment without calling her out on it (since it is usually in front of other people). Do I take her aside every time to point it out? Do I patiently wait till she has matured enough to see it? I need your suggestions and help. Thank you so much. Answer: https://s3.amazonaws.com/1-SupportCalls/2020/07July/TSG_SC_7-22-20_Q1.mp3 When someone is unaware of …
Posted by Nicholeen Peck on July 22, 2020
This call covers: How to use TSG with children with high-functioning Aspergers How to stay calm when your children don’t come when you call.
Posted by Nicholeen Peck on July 12, 2015
This Call Covers: Potty training for hard children Stopping swearing Figuring out the next steps for your family How to stay consistent Helping siblings get along
Posted by Nicholeen Peck on June 6, 2018