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Becoming A Joyful Adult Part 3

This week's Gem is the continuation of the "Becoming A Joyful Adult" series.  Part three is about another amazing charactaristic: Purpose.  We have to have purpose in order to have any amount of happiness.... more

Becoming A Joyful Adult Part 2

In this second part of Becoming Joyful Adults, we learn about the second characteristic that we need to be, indeed, a joyful adult and how to help our children be joyful as well.... more

Conference Call 4-15-11

Nicholeen shares some stories about the importance of having a vision for you and your children.  She is often contacted by individuals who have see in the BBC show.  She tells about a girl who is lost and not sure what to do with her life and is considering apprenticing as a piercing person.  

  • What if your child (or teenager) doesn’t care about the family vision or says it is stupid?  That’s what seems to be happening with one of our kids. Nicholeen shares 5 ideas about vision.
  • I have a question about the content of vision. Would it be bad to make our family being in the rodeo as part of our vision? Or do I just change the vision if my children's interests change.
  • 7 year old not calm after rule of 3 and needs to be taken out of the room. I can't take him due to back it sends me into panic mode. He doesn't like to be taken there. But he is attention seeking with the tantrum. 5 second rule. Power struggle mode. Soft hold. Exception to rule. Be intuitive. Special moment, counseling session. I noticed good. I noticed every so often you arent happy. I decided in order to help you be happy to do a soft hold. You are in bondage to your emotions and I am going to free you.
  • Help!  I need advice as soon as possible.  We just found out that our 17 year old has been drinking he was twice the legal limit and has been smoking 4 cigerettes per day.  He needs to go to detox and a smoking cessation program.  What do we do?
  • My 17 year old daughter makes mountains out of mole holes in regards to computer time and her social life. She will get really upset.  She's is a really good girl and the extreme is that she recently started cutting herself. Part of it is my fault since we really don't have a structure in place for.  

Conference Call 4-8-11

After her brother’s wedding Nicholeen shares a nugget of wisdom “Receiving your Spouse”.  She discusses the importance of receiving and improving your relationship with your spouse, gives an assessment, and discusses the 3 Types of Communication.

Questions:

  • My husband thinks I am too much of a softy and that kids need more aggressive measures than just talking about it. So do I go his way or make him come my way?
  • My children are 10, 12, and14 year olds but they act like 3 year olds.  The feeling in the house is total contention there's been fighting, squabbling, teasing, sibling rivalry, they are being destructive.  My goal to stay calm.  What do I do? 
  • Talking helps me understand my thoughts. What do I do when there is something I need to talk concerning my spouse? I know you mentioned that we shouldn't talk behind our spouses back?
  • We are trying to implement things in your book.  I have older kids who don’t care for the changes.  My husband says we need to get back to core and back to the relationships with them.  How do you suggest we start implementing Self-Government?