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Miracle Anger Cure: Managing Conflict

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Dealing with conflict is tough! Some days it seems like everyone is against you. No matter what you do, someone is offended and takes it personally. Then you take it personally. Then you start fantasizing about how you are going to get even. That night you talk to all your friends about what you ‘might do’ to teach the enemies a lesson. You don’t know how to resolve a conflict, so you plan for revenge instead. Then you take action and end up making wrong choices and ruining relationships.

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The Moment Of Truth: Correcting Attitude Problems and Whining Behaviors

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“I am a much better, calmer parent than I used to be since starting to focus on teaching myself and my children self-government, but I still have two issues I seem to constantly battle; attitude problems and whining. What do you do when the child won’t calm down, and won’t do what you tell him?

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Communication Skills Training: The Teaching Tone

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“Porter, what is that?” asked my Chinese friend Phil when he was visiting our home this last week from China.



“The moon.” replied eight year old Porter as he looked at the sky.



“In Chinese the moon has a different name.” Phil went on.



Phil told Porter the two syllable word which means moon in Chinese, but Porter struggled

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How To Control Your Emotions

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Buzz, buzz! “Why won’t the flies stop buzzing around my head?” I wondered as I sat out in the mountain shade trying to digest my new book. First one, then four, all buzzing around my head. It seemed like it was a dance for them, and it looked like a dance for me. I was waving my arms every which way trying to get the pesky insects to leave me alone. I didn’t do anything to them.

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Toddler Tantrums At The Most Inconvenient Times!

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“But, what do you do when they are screaming, and it’s time to walk out the door?” a father asked me at a recent conference. “My strong willed three year old son is very difficult at those times.”



I looked at this wonderfully dedicated father, and felt his frustration. Who hasn’t felt the anxiety build when a child has a tantrum right when you are leaving for church or leaving for work?

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How To Break A Habit: More Than Behavior Modification

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This week I was invited back to Family Voice Talk Radio with BJ Stober, family therapist to talk about helping children overcome difficult behaviors, and strengthen relationships at the same time. ,

Breaking bad habits is no easy task. Habits are like snow flakes. They fall ever so softly, but then before you know it you have something powerful, and often destructive, like an avalanche. However, even though habits can seem p

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Interview With Nicholeen Peck Part #3: Making a Family Government

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Interview with a parenting expert part 3


This is part three of the three part series on Teaching Children Self-Government I did with Family Therapist, BJ Stober, host of Family Voice Talk Radio.



In this segment we talk about helping teens figure out ways to decrease computer time. A question was asked presented stating that children are often forced to have lots of computer time by school etc. So, they wanted to know how to find a balance.



For the remainder of the call we talked about making a fam

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Interview With Nicholeen Peck #2: Calmness Tips

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People often ask me how to be calm when someone else isn’t. Without calmness self-government is impossible. In part 2 of 3 parts on the Family Voice Talk Radio with family therapist, BJ Stober we talked about calmness and answered many parenting questions.



Here is a link to the video recording of the show.



Next week the show

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Interiew With Nicholeen Peck: Strict Parenting

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BJ Stober, family therapist and hostess of Family Voice Talk Radio, interviewed Nicholeen Peck on April 19, 2012 about strict parenting. This is a link to the audio/video version of the show.



Nicholeen discussed different ways to parent and how what to focus on in order to break bad parenting habits.



Be sure to listen for the 10 Things Parents Need To Know to teach their children self-government.

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Parenting Myths: Living A Lie VS Parenting Facts

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What does “living a lie” mean? It is when we believe something that is not true and which controls our thoughts, feelings, and other beliefs. For example, when I was pregnant with our first child, I would sit in church and notice that a boy was wearing white socks with a suit, and I thought, “My son would never do that,” or a little child with a dirty face, and I thought, “My children will have clean faces in church”.

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Improving Self Esteem: How To Build Self Confidence In Children

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A Mother’s Question About Building Self Esteem In Children

“Emma said to me at bedtime that she thinks that she’s ugly. I’m not exactly sure where she heard this since I’m always telling her how cute she is, but what would you say to your kids if they said that?”

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Positive Parenting: Justice or Mercy?

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The Parenting Question

Justice or mercy? That is the question. When your child gets frustrated at his sister and hits her does he need justice or mercy? When your youth comes home from a date after curfew does she need justice or mercy? How do parents balance these two truths? Which principles are the parent secrets for raising children? Is justice or mercy the key for how to become a good parent?

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How To Stop Getting Angry: Relaxation Breathing Techniques

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“Mom, I’m going to go to Zack’s to play basketball. Is that okay?” Quinton, age fifteen, announced this morning.

I replied, “Quin, you have things to do here at home today, so I don’t think we will have time for friends until another day.”

Quin really wanted to go shoot hoops with his friend. What fifteen year old boy doesn’t?

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Family Mission Statement Success: One Family’s Story

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For years now people have talked about making family mission statements. In books and on blogs we hear about the principles behind making a family plan and get inspired to try new things at home.

However, statistically most people don’t actually make mission statements and use them even though they are inspired by the idea. Why?

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Sibling Rivalry Movie: Computer Fights

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[video:http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=cGKZXQd0G0I] Last week my post was about sibling rivalry. Here is a movie which shows how knowing to disagree appropriately is a skill which helps sibling rivalry.



This sibling rivalry solution video was filmed while I was doing some private self-government teaching for a family. I thought the children did very well with their new skills! It is hard to learn new stuff. But, both children will have much more happiness now that they understand that disagreeing appropriately is for their relationsh

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