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In his book, “The Power of Positive Thinking,” Norman Vincent Peale shares a story of a pastor talking to a painter about worrying.“Howard, don’t you ever worry?” the pastor asked the painter.The painter laughed and said, “No, not on your life. I don’t believe in it.”The painter goes on to tell how he didn’t have time to worry and how he set aside one day a week to worry, pushing off all his daily concerns until that one day. But, after trying to worry on the designated day for all the things he’d pushed out of his mind throughout the week he couldn’t do it. He was a failure at worrying. The painter had already essentially trained himself not to worry.Whether knowingly or unknowingly, this painter had worked out a method, or skill set, for overcoming worry.Mr. Peale explained that, “people fail to overcome such troubles as worry because…they allow …
Posted by Monica Pond on February 21, 2019
“But what if they just keep talking back and are driving me crazy,” a mother asked me while I was instructing a group of parents on how to teach their children to accept “no” answers.The mother of three told the group she knew she needed help becausesometimes she feels so crazy, or out of control, when she’s around her children that she looks forward to going to work instead of being at home with the family.I immediately noticed that wanting to go to work when things got rough at home was really just a desire to run away from a problem she didn’t feel quite prepared to solve.This mother was missing vital tools and honest perspective needed to stop herself and her children from going crazy or running away.Children most often develop the habit of talking back to parents in disrespectful ways because the behavior is occasionally tolerated. Parents unknowingly …
Posted by Monica Pond on October 19, 2019
“I agree that there are definitely times I want my kids to tell me about what’s been happening, and you mentioned that you make sure your foster kids know the difference between the two–how do you that? Sometimes it’s really hard for ME to tell when it’s reporting, and when it’s tattling. Besides physically hurting one another, would you want your kids to report things like teasing, saying unkind things or rude words, not helping with a chore that everyone has been given to do together, or taking a toy from someone?”
Posted by Nicholeen Peck on April 21, 2008
Posted by Pennie Rumsey on May 19, 2013
Nicholeen, Your peaceful parenting methods obviously work so well with older children and troubled teenagers. But, I have a house full of little children. Each day I face terrible twos, three year old tantrums, and four year old tantrums. Can children this young learn to govern themselves too?Answer: How ToStopTantrumsThis article is NOT just fortoddlers. Parenting toddlers is difficult. Many parents wonder ifthey must forever keep practicing reactive parenting. They know there must be some way to teach toddlers and small children to learn self-government.The funny thing is, I think I get asked this question equally as often as I get asked, “Nicholeen, learning self-government is obviously easy for small children, and your methods are perfect for that. But, what about big kids and teens?”So, my question for you is, why do we doubt the new skills and communication methods will do any good for our children; no matter the …
Posted by Nicholeen Peck on September 5, 2012
Most every mother has experienced something like this — you’re at the grocery store, busy juggling carts, food items and kids, when one of your children starts throwing a temper tantrum. You do your best to console them, trying to ignore the irritated glances of your fellow shoppers, and then, with a stress level through the roof, you finally flee the premises. These experiences are emotionally draining and can feel a little embarrassing as well. When you see another mom struggling with her kid(s) at the store, don’t you just wish you could go over and help somehow to ease the stress you can see on her face? I can remember a time when I was a young mother and my newborn baby screamed the entire time we were trying to check out. While this might not seem like an extraordinary experience, this particular instance was life altering for me. …
Posted by Jeff Pizzino on September 25, 2015
I should have corrected him right there, but for some reason, I let him whine at me. It is always better to correct all negative behaviors as soon as possible.
Posted by Nicholeen Peck on July 16, 2008
This call covers: Becoming a joyful adult yourself. Easy going to control freak toddler. Manipulative and controlling son. Young son pees all over things and won’t be patient. He does it purposely sometimes. Daughter needs to wear glasses and eye patch, but doesn’t like to because she gets teased by step family and others. Son has new phone for a few days and already has looked at porn sites. How to address that.
Posted by Nicholeen Peck on October 7, 2016
This call covers: Having trouble teaching my children and doing SODAS My son hates anything to do with hygiene. Help! My daughter will follow an instruction, but pouts and whines while she does. What do I do there? We have an adult child in the home who is making decisions that aren’t within our family standard. What do we do there? New Sunday school teacher for age 7 and they haveenergy.How do I help them not be distracted by one person?
Posted by Nicholeen Peck on August 3, 2016
This call covers: The meaning of pioneers How to fix complacency at home and at work Age 11 son is constantly whining. How to help him be okay Keeping two 14-month-old babies from hurting themselves during a tantrum Knowing what the appropriate amount of friend time for young children is Being emotionally attached to a “no” answer, including in role plays Helping age 5 son see that he hasearneda consequence, not that it wasgiven Explaining the “why” of boundaries Gaining respect for adults outside of your own family
Posted by Nicholeen Peck on July 28, 2015
This call covers: If my child starts whining after they get a No answer, do I start the Rule of Three or do I just tell them that I want to know what the have to say but they have to stop whining first? How do I use TSG with my almost-two toddler? My kids sometimes whine while asking to disagree appropriately. Should I let them disagree or tell them to be calm? How do I teach my children that they can’t control others, only themselves?
Posted by Nicholeen Peck on June 17, 2015
This Call Covers:Self government in a time of crisisSiblings being sillyCalm down spot adviceHelping parents learn about your self government journeyAutism and being corrected by others
Posted by Nicholeen Peck on March 21, 2020