Vision

Support Call 2-19-16

This call covers:

  • Time flies as your children get older.
  • Teaching my children love instead of toleration.
  • It’s hard to stay consistent, but even more so with HF autism.
  • I know I need to connect with my children, but I don’t want to.
  • You have a section in your book that talks about telling your children about sex. Why are you not in favor of sex ed in schools?

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Nicholeen Talks About How She Lives Joyfully And MUCH More!

Recently I was invited to be a guest speaker on the Joyful Living Podcast with Quinn Curtis. The presentation was completely new and really spontaneous! I think you will like it. Some of the topics covered are: Entitlement issues in children What joyful living looks like How to balance home life and work or other

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Support Call 12-4-15

This call covers:

  • A reluctance to make a family vision because husband is a different religion and doesn’t share the same beliefs and ideas.
  • Son disagrees appropriately witheveryinstruction he’s given. What to do with that.
  • Limit on son’s TV time, but he didn’t want to accept it and he started a power struggle with me.
  • a 2 1/2 year-old son has to have everything his way or he throws a tantrum. He doesn’t really understand TSG stuff yet.
  • Age 5 daughter can’t accept no answers or criticism. When she’s corrected, her self-esteem drops and she deflates. She says she’s not good enough and her ideas are not good enough.

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Support Call 10-14-15

This call covers:

  • Children age 6 and 3. How do I know what their traits are at this age?
  • I’m having a hard time sharing our family vision with my older children who are no longer living with us. Any ideas?
  • My husband doesn’t help me implement new skills and leaves it to me. My 12-year-old son thinks he’s a bad child. And, I’m trying to find God’s will for me and my family.

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Support Call 1-3-2014

We had some great questions on the call today. Here are a few of the things we discussed:

  • Thoughts on the changes brought by the new year
  • Discussion on choosing to parent differently than I was raised
  • What is personal vision and how can it be achieved?
  • My 4-year-old who has had several behaviors I have not known what to do with. What are appropritate consequences for his actions?
  • I’m notsureifIam lecturingor if I am being deliberate.Whatisthedifference?
  • I keep hearing about relationships and sacrifice. What am I supposed to be sacrificing to be able to improve relationships?

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Conference Call 4-29-11

Nicholeen shares two stories. One about Londyn and her mouth spreader and relates it to her friend learning about parenting and how to implement new skills. The second story is about her compost pile. She talks about vision, family relationships, the Hero Generation, preparing our families.

Questions:

  • Is it okay for your family to meet at a spiritual place of worship in our family vision?
  • My oldest child is 20 years old and no longer lives with us. How do I share our family vision with her? I have asked her to say daily and memorize it.

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Conference Call 4-22-11

Nicholeen shares 3 Tips.

Tip 1: Talks about how to help those who are feeling overwhelmed with life or feel anxiety about whether their communication is received properly. (This includes: mothering, parenting, homeschooling, etc.)

Tip 2: Talks about vision and how we achieve becoming who we want to be come or what mission we want to obtain.

Tip 3: Talks about capacity and how to get everything accomplished.

Questions:

  • I’m having major issues with my 12 year old son. I don’t want to seem him, he is extremely out of control and acting like he is 7 years old. What do I do?
  • Will I have access to this program and material after the initial 10-12 weeks? The support calls are monthly subscription to continue. But you will still have access to the information on the Implementation course. (Updated as of summer 2014)
  • I’ve been struggling with our 20 year vision for our family since I first heard you talk. How do I make and achieve this?
  • What does a Time-out look like for little children as compared to the Rule of 3?
  • How is Teaching Self Government different from Love and Logic (giving choices)?
  • My 3 year old threw a trantrum and I had to take him into the hallway and leave my other children inside by themselves, what do you recommend for this type of situation?
  • I am struggling with distractions while trying to run the household and a homeschool. How do I know if am being successful?
  • Nicholeen recommends balancing and prioritizing. Top 6 Priorities

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Conference Call 4-15-11

Nicholeen shares some stories about the importance of having a vision for you and your children. She is often contacted by individuals who have see in the BBC show. She tells about a girl who is lost and not sure what to do with her life and is considering apprenticing as a piercing person.

  • What if your child (or teenager) doesn’t care about the family vision or says it is stupid? That’s what seems to be happening with one of our kids.Nicholeen shares 5 ideas about vision.
  • I have a question about the content of vision. Would it be bad to make our family being in the rodeo as part of our vision?Or do I just change the vision if my children’s interests change.
  • 7 year old not calm after rule of 3 and needs to be taken out of the room. I can’t take him due to back it sends me into panic mode. He doesn’t like to be taken there. But he is attention seeking with the tantrum. 5 second rule. Power struggle mode. Soft hold. Exception to rule. Be intuitive. Special moment, counseling session. I noticed good. I noticed every so often you arent happy. I decided in order to help you be happy to do a soft hold. You are in bondage to your emotions and I am going to free you.
  • Help! I need advice as soon as possible. We just found out that our 17 year old has been drinking he was twice the legal limit and has been smoking 4 cigerettes per day. He needs to go to detox and a smoking cessation program. What do we do?
  • My 17 year old daughter makes mountains out of mole holes in regards to computer time and her social life. She will get really upset. She’s is a really good girl and the extreme is that she recently started cutting herself. Part of it is my fault since we really don’t have a structure in place for.

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Son won't listen to his parents

Establishing Consequences

“…We taught the 4 basic skills and the kids had a lot of funrole-playing the way to respond to the different situations, they especially loved disagreeing appropriately! 🙂 Well, I hadn’t determined what our consequences were going to be yet so I told them we would just practice the 4 basic skills this week. I’ve learned from this that it is essential to have consequences established or there is no motivation to respond correctly…”

Why is it so important to have established consequences?

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Fathers: Parent or Playmate Part 3

My husband is a neat and tidy sort of a person. There was a time when our family was living out of laundry baskets instead of closets and drawers, because I just wasn’t able to stay on top of the laundry like I would have liked to.Spencer suggested the topic of having a set time for the laundry to be done and put away. I didn’t make any comments, because I didn’t want to get involved in his problem solving.Figuring out what someone wants is the first step for helping them have ownership of their thoughts and actions. Problem solving in relationships requires discerning what the person really wants in order to see what is needed to inspire change in the person.

Step #1– Ask him

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Fathers: Parent or Playmate Part 2

We have just made a pretty good argument for Dad’s to parent differently and have different experiences with their children. However, having a different God given role doesn’t mean that Dad should feel separated from the flow of the home. In fact, it is important that Dad should view himself as a co-president of the family business. Families should be run just as effectively as a business.

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Fathers: Parent or Playmate Part 1

I have had many questions latelyasking if fathers should parent different andhow to help fatherbecome part of mother’s vision for the family. There are many different situations and personalities, so there areprobably many ways to treat each different relationship.I am going to share some of what I have learned about fathers and what I havedoneto

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Mission By Example

I was sitting on the couch today going over plans for our next trip when my six year old daughter, Londyn, sat down next to me and said, “We have to go to Virginia because you want to make the world better, don’t you? Not just our family, but other families too.” I said, “Yes” and smiled. I didn’t need to say anything else. It was very clear to me that she had developed an understanding of my mission. As a family, we talk about mission a lot. We try to analyze what other people’s missions might be. We talk about what kinds of skills we need to develop to find our personal mission

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Have A Mission Book

In order to teach our children how to govern themselves in a family setting, we have to give them a vision, or picture of what the family is workingtoward. This vision, or goal, begins the family’s mission. The vision, goal, or dream is the first thing the family starts with to acheive mission. The concept of personal mission and family mission is both inspiring and overwhelming. Will it be hard to do? Why were we picked for this mission? Why don’t I have my personal mission yet? The list of questions could continue. I have found a book that tells a parable about mission.

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