Sadly, teaching strategies for proper social and emotional health are often unorganized and conflicting. Parents are left feeling like they need to choose between teaching children to have self-control and teaching children to be emotionally heard. These choices seem like opposites to most people. But, to a person who has true emotional intelligence, both of […]
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Authentic grandparents who actively engage with their children and grandchildren establish a foundation of security and hope for the younger generations that can’t be found elsewhere. Grandpa had a boat and regularly took me and the rest of his large family out for rides and on water-skiing trips. These were fun memories, but one boating
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This call covers:
Picking appropriate material to watch online.
Adult child not wanting to do TSG but still living at home.
What to do about the rule of three with aggressive child on the spectrum.
Group problem solving and parenting multiple people a the same time.
Helping my children with social when I have social anxiety.
Home immediately does the chore need to happen after is is earned?
Support call 10-13-21 Read More »
When was the last time you felt lonely? In order to thrive during these socially unusual times, and even times that aren’t unusual at all, it’s important to understand the difference between being alone and experiencing real loneliness, and what we can do to combat the loneliness epidemic that seems to be sweeping many countries.
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An online school teacher was recently giving me the highlights of his career. He proudly told me that his favorite part of his job was that he gets to teach children discernment. I could see how this would be exciting for him but was also instantly concerned. A series of “what if” questions came to
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This call covers:
Friend versus family time.
Young adult wanting to improve parent child relationship with clear boundaries.
Family vision question.
Daughter wanting eating disorder therapist.
Earning positive consequences.
22 year old feeling to old for school and not knowing how to move on.
Being exhausted with correcting all the time.
Question about time frame for going out of control.
How to teach understanding the times to my kids.
Child not being able to process the rule of three but being to large to physically take to calm down spot.
Children being competitive with each other ( “I’m better then you”).
Motivating children to be ok at school without mom.
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This call covers:
Kids testing the system and earning lot of chores.
Balancing friend time.
Child “not caring” if they earn chores and being oppositional.
Question about whining and craziness before bed.
Helping children calm down from big emotions.
24 hours loss of privilege’s seems overwhelming to my son.
Not wanting to do the rule of three because son is always doing it.
After calming down in the calm down spot son makes excuses why we was not calm.
Girls having arguments about sharing a room.
Question about personal healing.
Children attending seminary.
Encouraging husband to be kind to the children.
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“That girl was so rude!” a girl about age 12 said to her mother as she skated off of the roller rink. Immediately her mother started toward the mother of the “rude” girl to tell her to control her daughter and to tell the daughter to apologize for her unkindness. This mother clearly loved and
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My views have changed. During my teen and young adult years, I thought that women needed to do everything men did, and women did, in order to be strong. But, now that I have seen every dimension of womanhood firsthand, I see that my views of women and myself lacked depth and understanding when I
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Two to three times per day, my 17-year-old son spontaneously comes up to me as I’m coming down the hall or when I’m standing in the kitchen, and wraps his arms around me and gives me a tender, loving hug. “Oh, Mom…I love you,” he says. These hugs are some of the highlights of my
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Parents and school administrators have requested that I make a short, free curriculum that parents can use to help their children navigate some of the social issues children are often forced to encounter at young ages. This curriculum is basic but deep, and it’s a principle-based lesson plan to help parents prepare their children to
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The subject of anxiety can be confusing. Anxiety seems to be part of everyday conversation these days. I’ve heard some people shake their heads and call anxiety a “contagious, modern epidemic,” and yet I’ve seen many real, intense anxiety attacks that leave people worn out and hopeless. Some people say that anxiety is something a
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This call covers:
Building trust with a child that lies.
managing expectations.
picky eaters.
husband turning the TV on every night after work.
being more assertive in correcting.
helping child understand why calmness in important.
instructions during car rides.
siblings correcting each other.
son expressing concern about his tutor not being calm.
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“Look Mom, this water bottle has a description. The water is described as ‘mouth-watering water,” said Porter with a chuckle. “This water calls itself smart, but I’m not sure that description seems very smart,” he added. This was too much for me. I completely broke down into a laughing attack over this ridiculous notion that
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This call covers:
Child not accepting no and hitting.
Disagreeing appropriately everyday to stay in bed.
Child spending to much time on the computer.
Homeschool in the summer.
motivating children to stay calm.
how to help with love of learning phase when children are in public school.
child came out as gay and in undermining our family system.
child been out of control for 4 days.
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Chris W. shared this shocking story with me about his experience last week with his son at a California park. “My son and I were playing soccer at a park in the bay area of California. Multiple African American boys came up to my son and started punching him in the head for no reason.
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This call covers:
2.5 year old elf-stimulating.
Children being dishonest while on 24 hour loss of privileges.
Anxiety and defiance with medical personal.
Wife wanting to communicate calmly and husband being worried about have it to cover his feelings.
how to get calm after being angry.
child being negative about everything even fun things.
what to do when you can tell a child is really trying to be calm.
what to do regarding mentors for scholar children.
child seems to accept consequence, but then does the chore really slow.
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There is a myth that parents from past generations didn’t understand or care about the feelings of their children as much as they should have or as much as modern parents do. This isn’t true. I’m never a fan of putting whole generations of people into boxes just because there are a few horror stories.
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An exasperated woman, whose marriage was falling apart, said to me, “Nicholeen, my husband is obsessed by principles. He keeps telling me that I don’t understand principles and that I’m not living by principles. How do you define principles?” This woman’s husband lived according to his own made-up rules, such as hiding things from
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This call covers:
Sneaking out and rebellious behavior.
Homeschool help and seeking inspiration.
Reading advise.
5 year old keeps going out of control.
Support call 4-14-21 Read More »