This call covers:
Belief in God/Video games/ and hearing Satan’s voice
15 month old masturbating
Getting Ourselves Calm
14 Year Old Earn’t 24 Hour Loss of Privileges Not Going Well
Meeting A Defiant Teen With Calmness
Calmness
How To Use The 4 Kids Books
Using Chores to Earn Privileges
24 hr Loss of Privileges Before Family Event
Type of Children Being Raised
Dealing with A Child Who Leaves the House
Support Call 4-19-2023 Read More »
by Nicholeen Peck The many messages telling us how we ‘should’ live our lives can be dizzying. It seems to me everyone has a plan for us; from advertisers to organizers. For years, I’ve sat in committee meetings and witnessed presentations laced with presumptions and conclusions based on someone else’s value system – their plan
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This call covers:
In Need of Clarity in using Self-Government…Something doesn’t feel right.
Perfectionism
Opportunity to meet Porter
Rule of 3
Calming Down for Children 8 and older before entering the rule of 3
4 Year old extremely strong willed
Driving and Following Instructions
Keeping calm while being sick
No answers between siblings
How family and mentor meetings look with the booklets
Using skills in public
Time limit for Rule of Three instructions
Reading “Roles” with older children
Support Call 4-05-2023 Read More »
This call covers:
Electronics Addiction
Solo Mum – And 15 Wants To Give Commands To Siblings
Practicing Calm Down
24 Hour Loss of Privilege and Major Maintenance
Does Co-Sleeping With Children Discourage Self-Government
2 And a Half Year Old Boy Does Not Accept a “No” Answer
Job/Phone/and Out of Control
Speaking Over Me During Pre-Teaching
Bedtime Battle
Implementing TSG with older children
Emotional Bondage Habit After Loss of Privileges
Dinner Time With Seven Year Old Son
“I Want Things To Be Fun and Funny!”
Navigating Values With a “Culture War” between parents
Young son is physically abusive and won’t take responsibility
Anger during role playing session
Navigating work time with young children
Support Call 3-29-2023 Read More »
by Nicholeen Peck “It’s harder for children nowadays with all of the technology and temptations and bad examples”, a mother said to me at a recent conference where I was speaking. We talked for a moment about the differences between her childhood and the childhood of her children. She was concerned. She felt lost and
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This call covers:
Calming Down a 6 Year Old
Daughter Thinks TSG Doesn’t Let Her Have Control
Teen son not learning the lesson from corrections and extra chore
Teen At Risk
Messy bedroom and constantly out of instructional control
Love of Learning
Problems At School
Children feel mother’s cleanliness standards are too high
Teen sneaking cell phone into the house
17-year-old daughter is always late to work and boss is enabling behavior
Success story: pre-teaching Rule of Three
Using TSG in a homeschool co-op group
Support Call 3-15-2023 Read More »
by Nicholeen Peck Sometimes it’s nice to find out that something we’re doing is really working to bring about good things. Positive online posting makes a big difference in our world, even if it doesn’t always seem like there is time to do it. This week a parent, who attends my weekly digital parenting support
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This call covers:
4-year-old toilet issues
Homeschooling, disorganized home, work/money
9 yr/old that won’t make eye contact
Advice about grandparents’ visit
18-year-old daughter living at home, not working, not going to school
Incorporating TSG in Children’s Ministry
Calming down in all situations & mutism
Video game addiction and mental fracturing
Finding a media balance for the family
Praise becoming a negative trigger
Success story with children at a funeral
Support Call 3-08-2023 Read More »
This call covers:
“No” answers for young children (22 months and younger).
Regression of skills after being tended by Grandma.
Tween son not wanting to let video games go.
Age 3 child influenced by inconsistency in parenting due to divorce.
Scheduling the family chores and life.
Implementing TSG in an unstable parenting/family situation.
Trouble with using the word “Roles”.
Using TSG language to manipulate family members.
“No” answers about social media for teens.
Child not wanting to follow through with a class.
Parents wanting teens to spend more time at home with family.
Support Call 3-01-2023 Read More »
“My daughter is so ungrateful! All I do is serve her, but she doesn’t care about me or what I feel. And, she never helps out, even when I ask nicely,” an exasperated mother told me about her teenage daughter. In a later conversation, Emily, the daughter said to me, “I never get anything my
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Love runs deeper than many people realize, and the outcomes of love are significant. We all recognize when we don’t feel loved or when we have a hard time feeling love for someone who isn’t behaving lovingly. But, what we don’t often recognize is that love isn’t something that can be turned on and off
Choosing kindness strengthens relationships, increases resilience and promotes emotional non-fragility, helps us solve problems, and is a choice that leads to happiness. Many parents tell me that they hope for their child to develop kindness. Indeed, kindness is a characteristic that develops. It’s a word that describes actions that display love or respect for others.
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This call covers:
Separation anxiety in 6yo son
Sexual Grooming
Our Home Is Too Serious
Sibling Love
Stay Emotionally Intact In A Storm of Emotions
Success Story and Question:
I Didn’t Hear You, And Too Much Disagreeing Appropriately
wake up time
son getting things off his chest
Support call 12-14-22 Read More »
It may seem trite and slightly overused to say it, but the old adage, “Make every day Christmas,” has more power than you might think. In fact, maybe, just maybe, the way to have life feel like Christmas every day is to truly live the spirit of Christmas in our relationships at Christmas time. Practicing
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This call covers:
Son not recognizing his choices have consequences.
husband psychologically abusing wife in front of children.
Daughter steeling phone and not giving back for hours.
Tone question.
Support call 11-30-22 Read More »
Nearly every day parents ask me how to help their “wayward young adult” or how to heal the heart of their “disconnected teen.” Children displaying unnatural affection by disconnecting from loving parents is an epidemic in our modern society. Normal human development involves increasingly seeking for autonomy as a person launches into adulthood. However, turning
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Families are concerned about their children who are struggling with stress and anxiety. Why are stress and anxiety so prevalent nowadays, and what can families do to help in loving ways? Understanding Stress and Anxiety Stress and anxiety are real feelings that many children suffer with daily. According to Georgetown University Health Policy Institute Center
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An exasperated mother said to me, “My teenager doesn’t like to work hard. She expects everything in life to be easy. How do I teach her to like work?” “Do you like work?” I asked the mother. “Most people who don’t see value in work, or don’t like work, are taught somewhere along the way
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This call covers:
modified rule of three.
When to start rule of three.
TSG in public.
child wanting to sweep things under the rug.
Child disagreeing appropriately EVERY time.
Consequences for 2 year old with speech delay.
Children following instructions to avoid consequences.
Showing compassion but helping adult son improve.
Daughter wanting to cut her hair short.
Child disrespecting mom.
Husband undermining mom.
Support call 9-21-22 Read More »
When people don’t speak the same language, it’s hard to understand each other. Likewise, when parents and children don’t speak the same language, then they can become disconnected because of lack of understanding. Understanding creates a feeling of respect and bonding in relationships and is a vital component to creating family unity and solving family
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