This call covers: Becoming a joyful adult yourself. Easy going to control freak toddler. Manipulative and controlling son. Young son pees all over things and won’t be patient. He does it purposely sometimes. Daughter needs to wear glasses and eye patch, but doesn’t like to because she gets teased by step family and others. Son has new phone for a few days and already has looked at porn sites. How to address that.
Posted by Nicholeen Peck on October 7, 2016
Whole Call: https://s3.amazonaws.com/1-SupportCalls/2020/09September/TSG_SC_9-16-20_WholeEdited.mp3 Question: Hi Nicholeen, I homeschool 5 children and have a 2 year old toddler. I am introvert with a load of high energy spirited children and one ADHD child. All the talking that’s involved in homeschooling and then all the talking involved in the TSG is hard on me. I hate having to stop a lesson with one child to correct another because it disrupts the flow of the lessons and so I want the bad behavior to stop immediately without having to do a long correction with a lot of talking. If I leave the one who I am teaching to correct another, the child I was teaching gets distracted and goes off to play or starts talking to another sibling and/or getting silly. Then it takes time to get them to transition back to their lessons. Having someone leave to do an extra chore throws …
Posted by Nicholeen Peck on September 26, 2020
Whole call: CC Notes 6-9-2021 https://s3.amazonaws.com/1-SupportCalls/2021/06+June/tsg-sc-6-9-21whole+edited.mp3 Question: I recently watched a video in which you mentioned you had your children earn their own money from age 12 and that you gave them opportunities to do so. Can you share more details about how this worked? Answer: https://s3.amazonaws.com/1-SupportCalls/2021/06+June/tsg-sc-6-9-21Q1.mp3 Yes, let me explain… Question: I have seven children at home during the day. They are 12, 10, 9, 7, 7, 4, and 2. All of the children know and practice their skills well, but my four-year-old really resists the practice or role-playing. For example, tonight he and his 7 year-old-sister had a fight over playing on the piano. The seven year old was practicing and he wanted to sit and play beside her. She gave him a “no answer” and he didn’t like it! He was upset so I had him go to our calm down spot until he was ready to …
Posted by Nicholeen Peck on June 9, 2021
This call covers: Summer tip! Helping family relationships stay strong with friends in the picture more. My 8-year-old daughter has a friend who will invite her to play, then leave her and go play with other people without warning. Ideas? 13-year-old son will NOT talk about the topic of changing schools. He immediately gets angry and refuses to discuss it. What do I do? (This call had some technical difficulties on the second question. We apologize. Please read the notes for more on it.)
Posted by Nicholeen Peck on June 24, 2016
Whole call: CC Notes 5-5-2021 https://s3.amazonaws.com/1-SupportCalls/2021/05may/tsg-sc-5-5-21WholeEdited.mp3 Question: Our 2.5 year old seems to be self stimulating. This usually happens in her car seat or in booster chair. I try to distract her but she goes right back to what she is doing. I personally had this same problem when I was tiny. Eventually I started doing it when no one else was around and finally quit as a 14 year old. Neither of us has had any issues with molestation. Do you have any advice on how to stop this behavior. Thanks so much. Answer: https://s3.amazonaws.com/1-SupportCalls/2021/05may/tsg-sc-5-5-21.mp3 This behavior can happen during the toddlers years, but can lead to a stimulation addiction. And, that addiction can be very difficult to break. Ultimately a person has to understand what a craving is and that the craving is controlling them. They have to want to have power over the craving, instead of the …
Posted by Nicholeen Peck on May 5, 2021
This call covers: My age 17 daughter is having too much online social time and isn’t spending time with the family when she is home. How can I help her? When my son was younger, he threw something at me that required me to go to the hospital. Sometimes, when his siblings are mad at him, they’ll bring up the incident and tell him “what a bad person” he is. How do I help him through this? My age 14 son has struggled with an almost daily masturbation addiction. We’ve gone to the bishop and made goals, but he keeps falling back into old habits. What do we do to help him overcome this issue?
Posted by Nicholeen Peck on May 25, 2015
CC Notes 3-24-2021 https://s3.amazonaws.com/1-SupportCalls/2021/03March/tsg-sc-3-24-21Wholeedited.mp3 Question: So I just stumbled on my 6 year old playing with himself in the bath. How do I address this issue? What are the exact words I say to not make him feel uncomfortable but also discourage future issues. I already started to address the issue with him. I asked him directly if he was playing with himself in the bath. He said yes. I paused and I asked him if it felt good he said yes. I said ok and that I understand but we just don’t play with ourselves. I didn’t say anything else. He was still feeling comfortable at this point and I’m comfortable discussing it just don’t know what to say after that. What do you do for younger ages and older age children? Answer: https://s3.amazonaws.com/1-SupportCalls/2021/03March/tsg-sc-3-24-21Q1.mp3 “Our special private body parts have are for special things like going to the bathroom, …
Posted by Nicholeen Peck on March 27, 2021
Whole call: CC Notes 2-17-2021 https://s3.amazonaws.com/1-SupportCalls/2021/02February/tsg-sc-2-17-21WHOLEEDITED.mp3 Question: How can I teach my 4yr old to stay with me in the shops and stop touching things in the store? He is accepting these no boundaries, but how do I do TSG consequences while in the middle of the shop? Answer: https://s3.amazonaws.com/1-SupportCalls/2021/02February/tsg-sc-2-17-21Q1.mp3 That’s great that he’s accepting No answers. Do praising for positive consequences. He can hand you something, or you can make a list for when you get to the car. Also, pre-teach how you will handle out of control behavior ahead of time… Question: Looking for suggestions on what would be good “building blocks” of information. We have a 6 (almost 7 year old) who we want to be prepared for when he asks the inevitable question of “where do babies come from?” (Or any question along those lines). My husband and I already agree that in those moments we …
Posted by Nicholeen Peck on February 20, 2021
This call covers: World Congress of Families update and November Conference call info We just found out that my teenage son is cutting, depressed, and possibly suicidal. We try to talk to him, but he plugs his ears and hums. How do we handle this? My 6-year-old son has developed a new habit of negativity and being down on himself. I thought it was manipulation, but now I’m not so sure. Thoughts? Our 15-year-old son’s room isalwaysmessy. We’ve tried to get him to clean it, but he just won’t and it’s the source of a lot of our battles. Suggestions?
Posted by Nicholeen Peck on November 1, 2015
This Call Covers:How to help my family understand my visionMicromanaging and touchy childrenMasturbation in teenagersHelping a spouse change their attitude
Posted by Nicholeen Peck on January 17, 2020
I’ve been writing about the best practices in raising children since 2006. During this time, I’ve covered a variety of subjects, but never did I think I would end up writing about a topic like this. No matter where you live or how you choose to educate your children, this database scandal could likely affect your family. Behind the safety net of yellow signs, for the past 35 years schools and libraries have been categorized by the United States as “safe places” for children. Sadly, the majority of these “safe places” are exploiting children by spoon feeding them pornographic images, videos, and illicit sexual articles through databases that have been marketed to schools and libraries as “safe and secure.” This seedy material is promoting risky sexual behaviors — including prostitution recruitment services. However, we can’t fully fault the “safe places.” None of the school or library administrators I’ve spoken to …
Posted by Monica Pond on October 5, 2018
In this podcast, Nicholeen and Paije discuss the effects of pornography on the adolescent brain and a form of exposure that is outside the realm of internet filters. There are places where pornography can be accessed by children that are considered “safe” and don’t attract the attention of adults who are concerned with protecting their children’s innocence. They also discuss government action that is being taken to further protect the consciences of children. Are you concerned about the safety of your children while they’re at school or the library? Probably not, because the systems there are considered “safe.” But, listen in to uncover some unnerving truth about popular, hidden places where children can access and be confronted by pornography. Link to Eyes Wide Open blogpost. Link to Petition. Link to Survey.
Posted by Nicholeen Peck on July 21, 2020