Let’s be careful not to bully our children into not being bullies. In a recent Huffington Post article a mother talked about how she taught her daughter”to damn well treat people right.” (Sorry for the language. That washer exact quote.) In the article the motherthreatened her daughter with no ride to school if the daughter didn’t include another girl in her friend group. In the end, the girls became friends and the daughter learned: “…her initial instinct about people isn’t always correctly motivated.” And that “…you can be friends with the least likely people; the best friendships aren’t people that are your ‘type!’In the world of friendship, contrast is a plus…” While I understand the point of the article is to promote inclusion of others, I have to “disagree appropriately” on a few things. First, teaching children not to follow their instincts can be dangerous for them. Instincts stop many …
Posted by Nicholeen Peck on April 25, 2016
This call covers: What to do when children CHOOSE to lose all privliges What to do if youare abully-style parent How to love your children inspite of yourself Extra chores for super young children Dealing with ODD Children/ODD or just defiance?
Posted by Nicholeen Peck on June 15, 2017
This Call Covers:Teaching children about modesty and public boundariesPreventing sneaking onto devices and sneaking outHelping children who are destructiveChildren who call others names
Posted by Nicholeen Peck on September 26, 2019
This call covers: Twin 6-year-old boys who struggle with lying, cheating, and stealing. New to the program and has a 10-year-old son who rages and gets angry. Aged 2 son slaps, pinches, and rips. He’s a little bully. Adopted daughter won’t open up about anything and phone is a constanct companion. Entitlement confusion.
Posted by Nicholeen Peck on September 7, 2016
This call covers: My family doesn’t like deliberate talk and family meetings don’t really work. Is it even worth it to do them? My age 12 son has become very rude and disrespectful to me and the rest of the family. Name calling and “poop jokes” are normal for him. How do I help him fix it? We’ve just started implementing TSG and our 5-year-old son can’t accept a “no” answer. He runs away and is rude. What do we do? Where do you go to get a lift and/or encouragement? Do you ever feel depressed? And, what do you think about birth order? My 3-year-old runs away when it’s time to go to the calm down spot. What do I do about that?
Posted by Nicholeen Peck on August 11, 2015
Whole Call: https://s3.amazonaws.com/1-SupportCalls/2020/08August/TSG_SC_8-26-20_WholeEdited.mp3 Question: Hi Nicholeen! Just wondering if I should pull up my 10 year old daughter on ‘sighing’ when giving her an instruction? The other day I gave her an instruction and she gave an exasperated but very sublte sigh. If you had blinked you might almost have missed it. I pulled her up on it and proceeded to tell her that was not a calm voice. She used the skill of disagreeing appropriately with me. She wanted to defend herself. I calmly stuck to my position believing that it was not a response that I would want her to do to anyone else. She got so overwhelmed with emotion that she yelled at me several times shouting ‘you are so unfair’ and then ran off to her room. I told her that I would discuss this with her once I had thought about it some more. As …
Posted by Nicholeen Peck on August 28, 2020
This Call Covers: Dealing with custody-related parenting problems Rule of three and young children Preventing parental manipulation of children Does TSG make kids worse?
Posted by Nicholeen Peck on August 27, 2018
This Call Covers:Calm down time manipulationOut of control teenagersFour basic skills refresherHow to stop getting overwhelmed with TSGCalm down time manipulationOut of control teenagersFour basic skills refresherHow to not get overwhelmed with TSGAvoiding lecturing
Posted by Richard Genck on June 3, 2020
This Call Covers:Developing a family economyLearning to become a strict parentTeaching children about money managementStoping bittingChanging to TSG later in lifeYouth groups and bullyingSuccess Stories!
Posted by Richard Genck on June 17, 2020
This call includes:-A mother’s concerns about her son’s self-worth and self-bullying behavior-Grandmother is living in the home and is undermining and judging the TSG system the mother has established
Posted by Paije Baumert on June 21, 2019
This Call Covers:Extra chore variety at homeDoing extra chores during the summerCorrections while someone is on 24hr loss of privilegesStaying calm while working with foster children/social workersControlling personal trigger points
Posted by Richard Genck on June 10, 2020
This Call Covers:Single parents rasing childrenMaking a mission statement with a spouse who doesn’t agreeGiving chores to a child who is emotionally volitileTSG with independent childrenSummer activities in hot climates
Posted by Nicholeen Peck on May 29, 2019
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