My kids are really hard workers (At least I’ve taught them one thing right!) so they are not bothered at all by doing an extra job or even doing jobs for one hour or all day. It’s not their favorite thing to do but they will do it without complaining and then go right back to the same behavior that we were trying to fix. I know it sounds crazy but these are unusual kids I’m raising!
Thank you so much for your teaching this subject! I purchased the CDs about two months ago when I heard about them through the LEMI mentors association, listened to them, took lots of notes, and put it into action at a family meeting about 3 weeks ago.
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Thank you so much for your teaching this subject! I purchased the CDs about two months ago when I heard about them through the LEMI mentors association, listened to them, took lots of notes, and put it into action at a family meeting about 3 weeks ago.
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UPDATE: We are getting closer to having the book. I took some of the great ideas presented here and made a book title poll where you can vote for the title you think I should use.
On the post below titled Nicholeen Asks You there are many comments with book title suggestions. I am trying to give my book the perfect name. Please look at those comments, pick your favorite title and leave a vote comment on this post. Pick the title that you would pull o
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“I do struggle and maybe you could give me some advice. I spend quite a bit of time with my kids in the morning going over little activities like school workbooks and story time and exercising together. Yet the minute I get on the phone or sit down to nurse the baby, the three boys are arguing or fighting or taking toys from each other or something of the sort. I have tried to get them to color or do a certain activity together, but that only lasts so long. It’s
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UPDATE: We are getting closer to having the book. I took some of the great ideas presented here and made a book title poll where you can vote for the title you think I should use.
As many of you know I have been writing a book for a long time about the way I parent my children and govern my home. We now have a possible release date! YEAH! The problem is, I don’t have a title that will sell my book yet. Even though I like the name :
Teac
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Thank you so much for your teaching this subject! I purchased the CDs about two months ago when I heard about them through the LEMI mentors association, listened to them, took lots of notes, and put it into action at a family meeting about 3 weeks ago. It has been so helpful! It has already made a big difference in our home!
My eight year old son was having trouble obeying the first time i.e. following instruction, and we would ask him again and again to do things and he wouldn’t do them. He would forget or get distracted reading. (He’s a white, through and through.) Then we would get angry and he would do it. But he would sometimes get angry and lately even sometimes go into a little bit of a rage.
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In the past couple of months I have been swamped with questions. I am so sorry if I have not been able to answer your question in a reasonable time. With the filming of the BBC show and trying to work on my book, as well as doing regular life stuff I have had a lot of my time taken up. Here are a few really brief answers to some of the recent questions.
I know you’ve mentioned this before, but how do you handle it when you’re children answer a question with “I don’t know.” Usually, when my kids say this, it just seems like they’re too lazy to think somethin
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This year our family is going to the American Family Fest in Cedar City, Utah. It is going to be amazing! I can’t believe how many family memories can be made at this wonderful, inspiring event.
I will be teaching a youth class on Thursday, July 2 and an adult class on Saturday, July 4. Never before, in Utah, have I seen this kind of family event. It is like going to a 3 day family camp for a fraction of the cost. I have always wanted to go t
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A week ago I had six children instead of four. We adopted two British 17 year old teens for a television show we were asked to be on. Even though the filming was only 8 days, I think all of us, our family, the two teens, and the camera crew learned a lot about love and why some people struggle with certain behaviors.
There was one time during the week when my 17 year old adopted son, J, got really frustrated. He was stressed because we were short on time, and he had lots he wanted to accomplish. He had a bit of a break down. He cried, and yelled, and displayed attitud
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“I read your post about the Dawdler getting in the way of family routines, but what do I do with a dawdler when it comes to accepting consequences. Here is the situation:
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A parent says, “Billy, come make your bed.”
Billy doesn’t come immediately so the parent says,”One…….Two………Three.” to get Billy to come.
Have you ever done this? Everyone knows Billy better start running either at or before his mom hits the number three or else Mom could turn into a monster.
As I travel around, I notice counting to three as possibly the most common parenting control method. Counting has it’s place in parenting, but the counting in the above story is either a threat, a power struggle, or a sign of a parent who doesn’t real
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It has come to my attention that I made it really hard for people to contact the hostess of my upcoming seminar by putting the wrong email. Emily Satterthwaite’s email is [email protected] her phone is
801-941-3018
The seminar is May 16th from 9:00 – 5:00 in Pleasant View, Utah.
So Sorry (blush*)
Teaching Self Government Seminar
Preparing the Family for Greatness
A Step-By-Step Guide to a Happy Home
My children range from 30 -7 and there are 13 of them. I am wondering how you start this with your older children and how you brought your husband on board.
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…my 6 year old is up to his old tricks. He
LOVED following instructions when I first started concentrating on this.
But, today, he became his regular difficult self. He hasn’t been
following instructions and when I tell him he’s earned a chore, he won’t
do the chore. And when I try the Rule of 3, he’ll calm down and then
still won’t follow through with his chores.
He has tried to solicit help from me (while I’m trying to make dinner for him)–I told him I’d like to
help him, but I have to make dinner right now. Then, he just starts goofing off with the r
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This comment is definately realavent to the previous post. This was a great response. I couldn’t have said it better myself!
One thing Nicholeen didn’t mention was that this mom should try hard to find the positives in your son. It sounds like she can only think of negatives associated with her son right now. Of course that is part of teaching self-government, praising at a rate of 5 or 6 to 1 criticism.
I can totally relate because I do have a child that drives me crazy and I tend to focus on the negatives rather than the positives.
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I have a 14yo son who I cannot deal with any more. It isn’t a new thing. He’s my oldest and ever since he was little I have felt like I can’t deal with him. He is defiant, impulsive, selfish, and almost any other negative thing I can think of. When he sees how emotional his behavior makes me he feels guilty and apologizes and tries to do better for a little while but it doesn’t last.
We’ve tried to set up self-government. We made a family mission statement but he won’t agree to it. He won’t agree to any consequences we vote on.
