Pre-Teach

The Times We Live In Part 1

1 Comment / All, Children (4-10), Home Culture, TSG Principles / Nicholeen Peck

A reader wrote to me telling me about a young neighborhood child that introduced things of a sexual nature to her daughter. This is not a fun subject. I have been avoiding putting it on the site, but the more I think about it, this topic is probably one of the biggest things parents face. How do we keep our children free from the disease of sexual impurity that seems to be taking over our world? How do we make them aware while not taking away their innocence?

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When do you talk about “it”?

1 Comment / All, Home Culture, Relationships / Nicholeen Peck

I have to ask it because it’s something I struggle with talking about to my kids . . . when do you talk to your children about sex? How do you go about it so that they understand that sex is actually a good thing at the right time and place, and not some evil thing (the world’s view) that you have to do to bring children to the world?

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Poopy Pants and Tantrums

Leave a Comment / All, Children (4-10), Relationships, Using TSG Skills / Nicholeen Peck

Nicholeen,

I have one problem I have not figured out how to resolve. My son (6)is a great kid, but there is one thing that sets him off every time to the point that he hits, kicks, screams, says unkind things, and basically acts like the whole world is against him so why try. This happens every time without fail when he is caught with poopy pants.

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What Does It Sound Like?

Leave a Comment / All, Home Culture / Nicholeen Peck

April asked how the song is supposed to sound so that she could use it.

All the words to the song are : Every time you’re silly (Hold this last y note for 3 counts) somebody always gets hurt.

Go to a piano. Middle C C D D EG (hold for three counts) F F F E E D C (hold for three counts)

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“It’s Time To Go To Bed.”

Leave a Comment / All, Children (4-10), Home Culture, Using TSG Skills / Nicholeen Peck

Nicholeen, I have a 9-year old boy. He is a typical 9-year old boy, I believe, in that his mind (and mouth) is constantly going 200 miles an hour. His siblings are always waiting for him to stop talking so they can get a word in edgewise. He is full of ideas and loves to take things apart. We are having a problem with bedtime. He goes to bed just fine, but once there, he won’t go to sleep. We let him read for about 15-30 minutes once he’s in bed, then we come down and turn the lights out (for him and his younger brother who is 4).

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Tell Them What to Say

1 Comment / All, Children (4-10), TSG Principles, Using TSG Skills / Nicholeen Peck

Even after we teach our children how to follow an instruction or how to accept a NO answer, our children will sometimes forget that they can choose to say, “OK”. The other day I told my son that he needed to clean his room. I could tell that he didn’t want to do the task. His face started to pout. The second I saw this, I said, “Porter, say OK.” He looked right at me and said, “OK!” Then I praised him. It is alright to tell them exactly what to say. This helps them problem solve the very situation they are in. The child then gets the opportunity to see how easy it is to make the rig

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Powerful Pre-teaching

1 Comment / All, Using TSG Skills / Nicholeen Peck

I thought this comment was worth sharing on the front page. ~Nicholeen

I just wanted to share a neat little conversation with 10yod tonight while we were cleaning the dinner dishes. She said, “You know that when you ask 4yod and 6yos to like, go make their bed. They whine and don’t want to do it, but if you say, ‘William, I’m going to give you an instruction. Please go make your bed.’ Than they say ‘OK’ and go do it right away.!” I praised her tons for making and sharing this observation and we talked about how interesting that was. I think the difference is that we practice

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