Whole Call: https://s3.amazonaws.com/1-SupportCalls/2020/09September/TSG_SC_9-9-20_WholeEdited.mp3   Question: I have been implementing your suggestions from the last couple of calls. Things have been tough this week but praise God, I have stayed calm. I keep repeating, “I don’t have to be stronger than him, just calmer than him” in my head. And I’m not giving wiggle-room, being consistent, etc. I’ve also been very consistent with the other kids – everyone has gotten a lot of extra chores and my house is close to sparkling… but attitudes are shifting and my children are starting to catch themselves before they whine, complain, backtalk, etc. My next question is again in relation to my 17yo – we’ve made it through 24 hours lost privileges and a bunch of extra chores… he’s still pretty begrudging and angry but realizes that I’m serious about being consistent.  What is the best response for this kind of interaction: He’d earned …

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Posted by Nicholeen Peck on September 12, 2020

This Call Covers: Correcting silly behaviors in children staying calm as a parent Healthy praise Healing relationships with emotional walls

Posted by Nicholeen Peck on September 13, 2018

This call covers: My child, age 6, can’t even look at me when I’m giving him an instruction. How can he follow an instruction if he can’t even look at me? My 5-year-old son is great at telling me what to do when he earns an extra chore, but when he actually earns one, he goes completely out of control. What do I do? My husband doesn’t like to participate in family meetings. Is it possible to have meetings without Dad? Can we still have family unity? My children don’t like to redo things when they do something wrong. How do I help them participate in redoing a situation? How many times can you go into the Rule of Three? My son keeps getting distracted and I’ll start it, then he’ll calm down. But three minutes later, we’ll be back in the same place all over again. How does this …

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Posted by Nicholeen Peck on September 23, 2015

This call covers: How to deal with obstinate behaviors of a 3rd grader and a 9th grader. Learning how to praise better and getting away from personal negativity. Fixing the feelings of failure in parenting.

Posted by Nicholeen Peck on September 16, 2015

Whole call: CC Notes 9-1-2021 https://s3.amazonaws.com/1-SupportCalls/2021/09september/8-1-21/tsg-sc-9-1-21-Whoeledited.mp3 Question: My question is about friends verses family time. My family is my priority and yet we have a large amount of friend time. The trouble I’m having is that when I say no to friends but don’t have anything really meaningful going on around the house I seem to give in to the friend time. They all seem a little down and tired when we do have family time which lends itself to wanting to watch a movie. Honestly, sometimes it’s a welcomed request because I’m tired too and want a break. If all we do together is watch a movie to rest for the next “event” then I know we are really missing out on vital relationships. Unfortunately I don’t know where to draw the line. I have 2 16 yo and 2 10yo if that helps to get an idea of …

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Posted by Nicholeen Peck on September 1, 2021

This Call Covers: Attention Seeking in adult children Helping ADHD kids be calm Correcting children who make rude comments TSG and multiple mental disorders in children

Posted by Nicholeen Peck on August 6, 2018

Whole call: CC Notes 8-25-2021 https://s3.amazonaws.com/1-SupportCalls/2021/08August/8-25-21/tsg-sc-8-25-21whole+edited.mp3 Question: What do you do when a child earns an extra chore but you can tell they are holding a grudge? I think they are not dropping the subject but continuing to give extra chores doesn’t seem to help. They are not out of control so starting the rule of 3 seems extreme. When the rule of 3 is started they do everything correctly, but their heart is hard. So far we have been working on these kinds of issues with a counseling session after the earned chores are done which is helping. This issue seems to be more common with older children. Answer: https://s3.amazonaws.com/1-SupportCalls/2021/08August/8-25-21/tsg-sc-8-25-21Q1.mp3 This is good analysis. Older children can sometimes feel entitled to do whatever they want. They also have hormonal changes happening which can cause them to take things ore personally. It is true that they are not dropping the …

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Posted by Nicholeen Peck on August 26, 2021

This Call Covers: Dealing with custody-related parenting problems Rule of three and young children Preventing parental manipulation of children Does TSG make kids worse?

Posted by Nicholeen Peck on August 27, 2018

This call covers: Thoughts on entitlement Son only starts to obey when he is taken to the calm down spot. How to implement TSG with multiple adult children living at home. Getting younger children to do their chores when they don’t want to.

Posted by Nicholeen Peck on August 24, 2016

Whole Call: https://s3.amazonaws.com/1-SupportCalls/2020/08August/TSG_SC_8-12-20_WholeEdited.mp3   Question:   Hi Nicholeen, A bit about us: We are a homeschooling family of 7 from Australia: Dad, mum, 10yr old girl, 3 boys aged 8,6 and 4 and a brand new baby girl! She is just 12 days old! I bought your course two days before I gave birth and have digested as much as I possibly can over these new baby days. We have always been a solid family but have really struggled with my two middle sons aged 6 and 8.  They are both sweet and gentle boys but have really challenged us with some of their behaviours. We are just starting to get the hang of the four basic skills and it has already helped us and them tremendously. My 6 year old takes out his emotions aggressively and my 8 year old whines and complains. The skills have helped us to …

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Posted by Nicholeen Peck on August 13, 2020

This Call Covers: Children peeing on their floor Having love for your children while correcting them. fixing irritable behavior Helping adult children accept role

Posted by Nicholeen Peck on August 13, 2018

This Call Covers:Manipulation from younger children and how to stop itControlling a completely out of control childHelping a child who is constantly going through the Rule of 3Parenting a compulsively defiant child

Posted by Nicholeen Peck on August 1, 2019