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Support Call 9-30-16

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This call covers:

  • Becoming a joyful adult yourself.
  • Easy going to control freak toddler.
  • Manipulative and controlling son.
  • Young son pees all over things and won’t be patient. He does it purposely sometimes.
  • Daughter needs to wear glasses and eye patch, but doesn’t like to because she gets teased by step family and others.
  • Son has new phone for a few days and already has looked at porn sites. How to address that.

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Support Call 8-26-16

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This call covers:

  • Things not being in order and the tone not being right. Feeling overwhelmed and in chaos. Friend lets daughter run around naked and thinks it’s appropriate. Social modesty and modesty of the heart. And, about JK Rowling and channeling.
  • Son won’t give mother time of day. It’s like she’s not even there. How to fix that relationship.
  • What classics canchildren read beside JK Rowling books?

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Support Call 4-08-16

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This call covers:

  • The sweetness of a long marriage and my husband.
  • 12-year-old son has been fantasizing about girls and kissing and more. He tells his parents, but they’re not sure what to do exactly.
  • Age nine daughter has recently been homeschooled. She is defiant and manipulative. She causes lots of contention. What to do.
  • Grandchildren are really picky eaters. How to help them broaden their horizon.
  • Teenaged son is very proud and power struggles all the time. Will hit and bully. How to help him.

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Nicholeen Talks About How She Lives Joyfully And MUCH More!

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Recently I was invited to be a guest speaker on the Joyful Living Podcast with Quinn Curtis. The presentation was completely new and really spontaneous! I think you will like it. Some of the topics covered are: Entitlement issues in children What joyful living looks like How to balance home life and work or other

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Support Call 12-11-15

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This call covers:

  • My 2-year-old son is very stubborn and strong-willed and he “pushes back” at me, but not at Dad. What do I do about this?
  • All of my children are dawdling through their chores and their school. How do I help them overcome that?
  • How does “say okay and be okay” work with no answers? Mychildren cry, whine, and get attitude problems when they don’t get their way.

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Support Call 11-10-15

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This call covers:

  • 2 1/2 year-old son seems to always be getting into trouble, not sure if it’s intentional. Also, for 3 1/2 year-old daughter and him, if they don’t follow instructions, should I be using the “calm down spot” instead of an extra chore?

  • My son will not follow instructions. He is 11 and just won’t. What do I do if he just calmly turns away from me every time I ask him to do something?

  • How do I help my 20 year old son to go back to school? Do I push it or just let it be since he is now an adult? What do I do? Can I make him?

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Support Call 10-31-15

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This call covers:

  • World Congress of Families update and November Conference call info
  • We just found out that my teenage son is cutting, depressed, and possibly suicidal. We try to talk to him, but he plugs his ears and hums. How do we handle this?
  • My 6-year-old son has developed a new habit of negativity and being down on himself. I thought it was manipulation, but now I’m not so sure. Thoughts?
  • Our 15-year-old son’s room isalwaysmessy. We’ve tried to get him to clean it, but he just won’t and it’s the source of a lot of our battles. Suggestions?

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Support Call 9-25-15

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This call covers:

  • How to still be a parent, even with shared custody of a child.
  • Handling multiple meltdowns at once.
  • Backup Calm Down spots for when multiple children need it.
  • Daughter is disrespectful to mother and monopolizes father, leaving no time for mother and father to have Couple Bonding time. Suggestions?
  • Special, new presentation: Power Of Words

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Support Call 7-17-15

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This call covers:

  • Is “going to the realms of fantasy” the same as negative attention-seeking?
  • Children learning to follow instructions with or without the specific TSG language.
  • How to use TSG with an aged 16 daughter who knows no boundaries and who must go to court for her behaviors.
  • When given a “no” answer, how to recognize and correct manipulation.
  • My husband thinks I’m too quick to correct behaviors and he doesn’t like the 24-hrs loss of privileges “punishment.”
  • How to have family meetings with grown children.

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Public Shaming — Is It Creative or Just Wrong?

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In recent months, there have been many news stories, YouTube videos and social media posts that show parents getting creative with their discipline techniques to get through to their children. Everyone wants to know if these creative measures are healthy or harmful. I would like to talk specificallyabout public shaming and its use as a

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Conference Call 11-16-12

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This call covers:

  • Correcting behavior while traveling and what to do when you have different standards from the people you are visiting.Falling off the TSG wagon and getting back up.What to do when you spouse isn’t on board.
  • 14 year old manipulative son and Disagreeing Appropriately
  • Loss of privileges on a Sunday. Daughter plans her loss of privileges to happen when she can’t lose them.
  • Discouragement
  • When and how to teach the family the TSG program
  • Children’s friends who keep bringing electronic devices to the house. What to do about it.
  • Role Play Ideas for making it more fun, staying away from bribing and the upcoming video
  • Pulling yourself out of a slump

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Support Call 11-11-11

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This call covers:

  • 11-11-11! Such a fun day! And, starting presale for first Children’s book, “Londyn Larae Says Okay”
  • Instituting a “no sleep overs” policy. Age 16 son is furious about it.
  • Putting in place specific consequences for things such as running away, suicide attempts, etc.
  • What happens to 18-year-olds when they go to jail and misbehave.

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Conference Call 4-22-11

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Nicholeen shares 3 Tips.

Tip 1: Talks about how to help those who are feeling overwhelmed with life or feel anxiety about whether their communication is received properly. (This includes: mothering, parenting, homeschooling, etc.)

Tip 2: Talks about vision and how we achieve becoming who we want to be come or what mission we want to obtain.

Tip 3: Talks about capacity and how to get everything accomplished.

Questions:

  • I’m having major issues with my 12 year old son. I don’t want to seem him, he is extremely out of control and acting like he is 7 years old. What do I do?
  • Will I have access to this program and material after the initial 10-12 weeks? The support calls are monthly subscription to continue. But you will still have access to the information on the Implementation course. (Updated as of summer 2014)
  • I’ve been struggling with our 20 year vision for our family since I first heard you talk. How do I make and achieve this?
  • What does a Time-out look like for little children as compared to the Rule of 3?
  • How is Teaching Self Government different from Love and Logic (giving choices)?
  • My 3 year old threw a trantrum and I had to take him into the hallway and leave my other children inside by themselves, what do you recommend for this type of situation?
  • I am struggling with distractions while trying to run the household and a homeschool. How do I know if am being successful?
  • Nicholeen recommends balancing and prioritizing. Top 6 Priorities

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Parenting Adult Children ~Narcissism Personality Disorder

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Nicholeen,

Do you have any hope (techniques we can use) forNarcissistto change? I am dealing with a 50 year old son who we have diagnosed (finally) and he is wearing us out emotionally and financially.
Thank you so much,

When I think about this situation I can’t help but ponder on the word “control.”He wants control of his life and is going about it all wrong…………you want to have more control, or influence, over him and he is not a child anymore, despite how he is acting, so you can’t have it by taking it. There is a principle I believe in…………..No one is able to really control anyone but herself.

However, this doesn’t mean that you can’t still have influence on your son. It just means that it is much more

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Mom’s hang-up

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“Thanks so much for all the wisdom and inspiration you share.  I have a son (age 11) who zapps so much emotional energy from me.  Over the last several months, I’ve really been trying to see things as they are and trying to determine how to handle things.  He is a great kid.  He’s the first one to help a younger sibling who is hurt or to give up his ice cream cone is one of his younger siblings dropped theirs.  He is also the one who complains the most, rolls his eyes back into his head and gets “that look” when things do not go his way.  I know that he is often “out of instructi

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Happy and sad face girl

Do You See What I See?

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Over the last year, my niece has gone through a change. The once happy, helpful girl changed into a whiny, depressed, girl that didn’t look at life the same. One day I got left home with the all the children whilethe adultswent shopping. While I was home with the children I started giving instructions for everyone to clean things up around the house. My niece started arguing with me, then she started whining, then she started complaining about everything in her life and told me that I just didn’t understand her. This is how I handled it…

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