Whole call: https://s3.amazonaws.com/1-SupportCalls/2020/11November/tsg-sc-11-25-20WHOLEEDITED.mp3 Question: I have heard you say you have a good system to confront lying. I notice our kids do this about technology. “I haven’t had any screen time today.” When they have obviously had screen time. Also, I have a teenage daughter who is struggling with lying but will not go into her whole story here. Answer: https://s3.amazonaws.com/1-SupportCalls/2020/11November/tsg-sc-11-25-20-Q1.mp3 if their lying ever works it was a success and they will keep trying, and they will assume they just need to get better at lying. it’s better to tell a person they are lying when they are not than to let things slide when you’re not sure. you have to be consistent in correcting them every time. use the lying skill set i came up with. Question: I have been putting my 2 year old and 4 year old in calm down time but I feel I …
Posted by Nicholeen Peck on November 25, 2020
This Call Covers:Distinguishing between feeling bad and manipulation in childrenHow to correct children who forgetChildren who don’t follow instructionsStopping children from playing the system with the rule of threeNicholeen’s reccomended rehab book list
Posted by Nicholeen Peck on November 14, 2019
This call covers: 11-11-11! Such a fun day! And, starting presale for first Children’s book, “Londyn Larae Says Okay” Instituting a “no sleep overs” policy. Age 16 son is furious about it. Putting in place specific consequences for things such as running away, suicide attempts, etc. What happens to 18-year-olds when they go to jail and misbehave.
Posted by Nicholeen Peck on November 13, 2011
This call covers: 2 1/2 year-old son seems to always be getting into trouble, not sure if it’s intentional. Also, for 3 1/2 year-old daughter and him, if they don’t follow instructions, should I be using the “calm down spot” instead of an extra chore? My son will not follow instructions. He is 11 and just won’t. What do I do if he just calmly turns away from me every time I ask him to do something? How do I help my 20 year old son to go back to school? Do I push it or just let it be since he is now an adult? What do I do? Can I make him?
Posted by Nicholeen Peck on November 11, 2015
This Call Covers: Children still earning lots of extra chores Parental influence on child’s behaviors Teaching sensitive children Using exercise as a negative consequence Implementing TSG as a whole family Dealing with allergies AND picky eaters
Posted by Nicholeen Peck on October 12, 2017
This Call Covers: Helping children with emotional disorders Dealing with media obsession durring the Love of Learning Phase Preventing back talk from children Correcting arguments among siblings
Posted by Nicholeen Peck on October 11, 2018
This call covers: World Congress of Families update and November Conference call info We just found out that my teenage son is cutting, depressed, and possibly suicidal. We try to talk to him, but he plugs his ears and hums. How do we handle this? My 6-year-old son has developed a new habit of negativity and being down on himself. I thought it was manipulation, but now I’m not so sure. Thoughts? Our 15-year-old son’s room isalwaysmessy. We’ve tried to get him to clean it, but he just won’t and it’s the source of a lot of our battles. Suggestions?
Posted by Nicholeen Peck on November 1, 2015
This call covers: Daughter thinks her parents have favorite children and shows it Argumentative and “know-it-all” child How to REALLY pray Confusion on an answer in a SODAS Starting homeschool
Posted by Nicholeen Peck on November 4, 2016
Whole Call: https://s3.amazonaws.com/1-SupportCalls/2020/10October/TSG_SC_10-27-20_WholeEdited.mp3 Question: Hi Nicholeen, My daughter is 10 years old and an avid reader. She is constantly wanting new material to read. Can you recommend a resource other than the Good and the Beautiful that has previewed books we can choose from. My local library and church library are not that great and we need to purchase just about everything. There are so many books that could be suitable that have good themes about God but may have a few bad words like ‘idiot’ or ‘stupid’ or mild boyfriend and girlfriend relationships or issues about divorce or death of parents. What is your view on these types of books? I am totally not keen on these books but I feel a little pressure to allow her to read them. From her and sometimes from my good christian friends. How do I address this issue? How do I preview …
Posted by Nicholeen Peck on October 30, 2020
This Call Covers: Handling revenge and attention seeking behavior Fixing problems with dad Feeling overwelmed with multiple younger children
Posted by Nicholeen Peck on October 29, 2018
Whole Call: https://s3.amazonaws.com/1-SupportCalls/2020/10October/TSG_SC_10-21-20_WholeEdited.mp3 Question: Thank you for the advice last week! My daughter is doing much better with allowing us to teach her. My question this week is in regards to having her go to sleep on her own. She is 8, and we have been putting her to bed by staying in the room with her and lying in her bed until she goes to sleep. We’ve done this since she was a baby. This was probably not the best decision, and, at this point, it is not teaching her any skills for getting to sleep on her own. I have hesitated in making a change because I am not sure where to start. She has a lot of anxiety at bedtime and tends to have racing negative thoughts that pop up when she slows down and tries to go to sleep. I feel like we need to …
Posted by Nicholeen Peck on October 21, 2020
Whole Call: https://s3.amazonaws.com/1-SupportCalls/2020/10October/TSG_SC_10-14-20_WholeEdited.mp3 Question: Hello Nicholeen, My husband and I have been using the TSG principles with our eight year old daughter for over a month, and she is showing great improvements in all areas of her behavior. We do have one re-occurring challenge though….when my we try to teach her new skills…like kicking a soccer ball or folding the laundry, etc. She does not want to listen to us and says that she wants to do it her way. In fact, she will try to take over and teach us her way. Most of the things that we are trying to teach her are just every day skills. On the other hand, she follows specific instructions……like, “I need for you to go make your bed….or I need for you to start your homework.” She has always been resistant to being taught ever since she was very small, …
Posted by Nicholeen Peck on October 14, 2020