This call covers: Entitlement is expounded on and taken into depth.
Posted by Nicholeen Peck on September 11, 2016
This call covers: Twin 6-year-old boys who struggle with lying, cheating, and stealing. New to the program and has a 10-year-old son who rages and gets angry. Aged 2 son slaps, pinches, and rips. He’s a little bully. Adopted daughter won’t open up about anything and phone is a constanct companion. Entitlement confusion.
Posted by Nicholeen Peck on September 7, 2016
This call covers: My family doesn’t like deliberate talk and family meetings don’t really work. Is it even worth it to do them? My age 12 son has become very rude and disrespectful to me and the rest of the family. Name calling and “poop jokes” are normal for him. How do I help him fix it? We’ve just started implementing TSG and our 5-year-old son can’t accept a “no” answer. He runs away and is rude. What do we do? Where do you go to get a lift and/or encouragement? Do you ever feel depressed? And, what do you think about birth order? My 3-year-old runs away when it’s time to go to the calm down spot. What do I do about that?
Posted by Nicholeen Peck on August 11, 2015
Whole call: CC Notes 8-4-2021 https://s3.amazonaws.com/1-SupportCalls/2021/08August/8-4-21/tsg-sc-8-4-12WholeEdited.mp3 Question: My 23 month old has developed the habit of fussing. A low level whining all the time instead of talking. What is the best way for me to address this? Answer: https://s3.amazonaws.com/1-SupportCalls/2021/08August/8-4-21/tsg-sc-8-4-12Q1.mp3 I’m guessing that since you said “instead of talking” that your child usually uses sentences or words to communicate and that this is a new development. There could be multiple reasons this could happen. The child could feel like he gets quicker results from you when he shows signs of sadness. He could just be not in the mood to communicate, or not want to put forth the effort; so laziness. He could want attention. He could be hungry, tired, sick or bored. What to do about it. Teach calm voice, face, and body. Practice what those look like and feel like. Teach him the word whining and what it means …
Posted by Nicholeen Peck on August 7, 2021
Whole Call: https://s3.amazonaws.com/1-SupportCalls/2020/08August/TSG_SC_8-26-20_WholeEdited.mp3 Question: Hi Nicholeen! Just wondering if I should pull up my 10 year old daughter on ‘sighing’ when giving her an instruction? The other day I gave her an instruction and she gave an exasperated but very sublte sigh. If you had blinked you might almost have missed it. I pulled her up on it and proceeded to tell her that was not a calm voice. She used the skill of disagreeing appropriately with me. She wanted to defend herself. I calmly stuck to my position believing that it was not a response that I would want her to do to anyone else. She got so overwhelmed with emotion that she yelled at me several times shouting ‘you are so unfair’ and then ran off to her room. I told her that I would discuss this with her once I had thought about it some more. As …
Posted by Nicholeen Peck on August 28, 2020
This call covers: Thoughts on entitlement Son only starts to obey when he is taken to the calm down spot. How to implement TSG with multiple adult children living at home. Getting younger children to do their chores when they don’t want to.
Posted by Nicholeen Peck on August 24, 2016
This Call Covers:Development in young childrenProcessing between men and womenHelping children wake up better
Posted by Nicholeen Peck on August 16, 2019
Whole call: CC Notes 8-12-2021 CC Notes 8-12-2021 https://s3.amazonaws.com/1-SupportCalls/2021/08August/8-12-21/tsg-sc-8-12-21Whole+Edited.mp3 Question: Hey Nicholeen! Thank you so much for taking the time to help me. I have a VERY strong-willed 2 year old son and I’m not quite sure what to do with him. I’ve been trying to pre-teach as much as I can, but when it comes to certain situations, I am at a loss as to what to do. Here is an example. Tonight for dinner we had soup with bread. He already had a small piece of bread, but we ask the kids to eat a decent amount of their soup first before they can have more bread. He wasn’t having it. He started screaming and screaming. I calmly told him, “you are screaming and need to be calm. Let’s go to the calm down chair”. We battled it out for 40 minutes and I didn’t know what to …
Posted by Nicholeen Peck on August 13, 2021
Whole call: CC Notes 7-28-2021 https://s3.amazonaws.com/1-SupportCalls/2021/07july/tsg-sc-7-28-21Wholedited.mp3 Question: Nicholeen, in all your years of fostering youth did you ever have a time when you were concerned about being harmed by an angry, out of control young person? Maybe they throw things etc. Will you share insight on this topic? For clarification I’ve not been in a situation where things are thrown directly at me, but where things have been thrown. Answer: https://s3.amazonaws.com/1-SupportCalls/2021/07july/tsg-sc-7-28-21Q1.mp3 Yes, we had youth who would grab knives or try kicking, hitting, or throwing. Here’s what we did… Question: Sometimes Nicholeen has made a recommendation for children with loss of privileges. It goes something like “when they work to earn their privileges back for……. then they can earn ….. time back.” I cannot relent that recommendation and don’t know how to search for it. Does anyone know what I’m talking about? Answer: https://s3.amazonaws.com/1-SupportCalls/2021/07july/tsg-sc-7-28-21Q2.mp3 I think you might be talking …
Posted by Nicholeen Peck on July 30, 2021
This call covers: The meaning of pioneers How to fix complacency at home and at work Age 11 son is constantly whining. How to help him be okay Keeping two 14-month-old babies from hurting themselves during a tantrum Knowing what the appropriate amount of friend time for young children is Being emotionally attached to a “no” answer, including in role plays Helping age 5 son see that he hasearneda consequence, not that it wasgiven Explaining the “why” of boundaries Gaining respect for adults outside of your own family
Posted by Nicholeen Peck on July 28, 2015
Whole Call: Question: My 15 yr old daughter has a serious case of FOMO (fear of missing out). She seems to never really be in the present moment as she is always looking way ahead at the next social event and cannot stop talking about it. She’s missing out in her present moment. We have discussed this together but she seems totally unaware that she’s doing it. It’s maddening and sad. I can see she has anxiety that manifests itself this way. How do I patiently help her to be in the present moment without calling her out on it (since it is usually in front of other people). Do I take her aside every time to point it out? Do I patiently wait till she has matured enough to see it? I need your suggestions and help. Thank you so much. Answer: https://s3.amazonaws.com/1-SupportCalls/2020/07July/TSG_SC_7-22-20_Q1.mp3 When someone is unaware of …
Posted by Nicholeen Peck on July 22, 2020
Whole Call: https://s3.amazonaws.com/1-SupportCalls/2020/07July/TSG_SC_7-15-20_WholeEdited.mp3 Question: I am in the very baby beginning phase of starting TSG. I have only read the book and haven’t even sat the kids down to teach them the 4 basic instructions yet. But what I’ve been thinking about is our paid activities (like gymnastics, dance, horseback riding etc) and the loss of privileges. If their activity falls on a day they have lost their privilege do you make them miss it? The problem is that they are expensive and making them miss it means we are out that money so it’s a punishment for us. They are 9, 8, 6, and 4 so don’t really have enough money to cover it if they miss. Also, for team activities not being at practice is letting down the team and I believe going back on a commitment, but I also believe that the fact that they get …
Posted by Nicholeen Peck on July 15, 2020