When people don’t speak the same language, it’s hard to understand each other. Likewise, when parents and children don’t speak the same language, then they can become disconnected because of lack of understanding. Understanding creates a feeling of respect and bonding in relationships and is a vital component to creating family unity and solving family […]
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Loss of privilege’s question.
Corrections seeming to hurt Childs identity.
Bedtime problems.
Foster son visiting family members.
Son damaging family property.
Support call 8-31-22 Read More »
It’s currently commonplace to see youth aggressively confronting adults when, not too long ago, that behavior would never have been condoned. And, sadly this aggressive behavior is being misinterpreted as behavior necessary for the emotional safety of the child. If parents want to be the ‘safe place’ for their child, then it’s vital that they
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Feeling to busy as a family.
Do I correct every time?
Disagreeing appropriately about everything.
Children not wanting hugs.
Question about therapy.
Shy children.
ADHD question.
Support call 7-6-22 Read More »
“I think I ruined my child,” a mother told me in desperation as she explained some of the behavior problems and disconnection problems her teenage son was having. She was being honest with herself about mistakes that she might have made in her son’s upbringing. My heart ached for her. She might have unknowingly done
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As nice as it would be to have complete control over outcomes, it isn’t humanly possible. Cause and effect is a principle of life that we can usually rely upon, but sometimes there seems to be another will for our days and experiences that turns our plans upside down. Sometimes these unexpected turns can create
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As part of learning cause and effect and growing into healthy adulthood, most children occasionally test boundaries by willfully choosing disobedience or even rebelling against parents. While taking risks and being a little bit rebellious here and there are usually healthy signs of normal development toward adulthood, obedience is required for wisdom and learning, too.
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Diplomacy is dying. MSN’s Feb 18, 2022 article called, “Is This The Year Of The Angry Parent? The GOP Hopes So,” talked about how parent anger about masks and social issues was helping the GOP and causing a problem. Yahoo News declared, “A parents’ revolt is currently sweeping the nation,” in their Feb 18, 2022
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Clarification between not engaging until calm and doing the rule of three.
Son fearing a lot of things.
Wanting to avoid a child.
Dropping the subject after the rule of three.
7 year old not following rules and slamming doors.
Support call 1-19-22 Read More »
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Work and play described in detail.
How to get the attention of a group without raising your voice.
Can I use money from my HSA for self-government?
Suggestions about sending our son to a treatment camp.
Dropping the subject with my son addicted to porn.
Son refusing to follow instructions.
Support call 12-29-21 Read More »
Christmas stories are the best! They really have a way of teaching our hearts about the true meaning of Christmas, when the to-do lists seem to take over the month of December. Even though many of the best Christmas stories involve someone giving a gift, the stories aren’t really about giving. They are about something
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Sadly, teaching strategies for proper social and emotional health are often unorganized and conflicting. Parents are left feeling like they need to choose between teaching children to have self-control and teaching children to be emotionally heard. These choices seem like opposites to most people. But, to a person who has true emotional intelligence, both of
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“That girl was so rude!” a girl about age 12 said to her mother as she skated off of the roller rink. Immediately her mother started toward the mother of the “rude” girl to tell her to control her daughter and to tell the daughter to apologize for her unkindness. This mother clearly loved and
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Two to three times per day, my 17-year-old son spontaneously comes up to me as I’m coming down the hall or when I’m standing in the kitchen, and wraps his arms around me and gives me a tender, loving hug. “Oh, Mom…I love you,” he says. These hugs are some of the highlights of my
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Building trust with a child that lies.
managing expectations.
picky eaters.
husband turning the TV on every night after work.
being more assertive in correcting.
helping child understand why calmness in important.
instructions during car rides.
siblings correcting each other.
son expressing concern about his tutor not being calm.
Support call 6-2-21 Read More »
Chris W. shared this shocking story with me about his experience last week with his son at a California park. “My son and I were playing soccer at a park in the bay area of California. Multiple African American boys came up to my son and started punching him in the head for no reason.
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2.5 year old elf-stimulating.
Children being dishonest while on 24 hour loss of privileges.
Anxiety and defiance with medical personal.
Wife wanting to communicate calmly and husband being worried about have it to cover his feelings.
how to get calm after being angry.
child being negative about everything even fun things.
what to do when you can tell a child is really trying to be calm.
what to do regarding mentors for scholar children.
child seems to accept consequence, but then does the chore really slow.
Support call 5-5-12 Read More »
There is a myth that parents from past generations didn’t understand or care about the feelings of their children as much as they should have or as much as modern parents do. This isn’t true. I’m never a fan of putting whole generations of people into boxes just because there are a few horror stories.
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Socially balancing children.
thoughts on colleges and how to pick one.
Children out of instructional control for a long time, and often.
staging calm in the middle of the night when kids wake up.
Help with setting a lot of goals all at the same time.
out of control children who are damaging property.
preparing children for college.
Support call 3-31-21 Read More »
A teenage girl talking back to her mother in an airport about her emotions said, “We have to let our emotions out. I’m being true to myself. I won’t stuff my emotions just because you don’t want to hear them!” The mother, who had told her daughter that she couldn’t use her phone anymore, was
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