Family Meetings

Support Call 2-19-20

This Call Covers:

Leaving the children in the care of others

Toddlers and calmly following instructions

Family time at home when it’s not family night

Keeping the whole family involved in family meetings

Guidelines for calm down spots

Other mentoring for support members

TSG when sick

Mercy and the rule of three

Anxious children and freak outs

Helping teens who want to be immoral


Family Traditions that Bind or Break or Unity for Christmas

Family traditions instill personal and family identity and bind families together throughout their many phases of growth and change. After children and grandchildren are grown and gone off to live their adult lives, the traditions remain as reminders of the sweetness of home and family, what is most important in life, and who they really …

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Happy Family of 3

Family Meeting Tips

Remember your family meetings! Family meetings are the core of Teaching Self-Government. If you have weekly family meetings, the whole family will stay focused on their family government. See what happens when you miss a few weeks, it’s noticeable. In my home it’s especially noticeable with Dad. He has less patience and focus as a parent when we miss our family meetings.


Hope For Homes Everywhere!

Sometimes, no matter how diligently parents try to teach their children and unify their families, they are met with opposition. Sunday Evening 1986 “It’s time for family council,” said Dad, as usual one Sunday evening. “How long is it going to take?” “We hate family council!” “Urgh!” “I’m tired. Can I go to bed?” said …

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Support Call 9-18-15

This call covers:

  • My child, age 6, can’t even look at me when I’m giving him an instruction. How can he follow an instruction if he can’t even look at me?
  • My 5-year-old son is great at telling me what to do when he earns an extra chore, but when he actually earns one, he goes completely out of control. What do I do?
  • My husband doesn’t like to participate in family meetings. Is it possible to have meetings without Dad? Can we still have family unity?
  • My children don’t like to redo things when they do something wrong. How do I help them participate in redoing a situation?
  • How many times can you go into the Rule of Three? My son keeps getting distracted and I’ll start it, then he’ll calm down. But three minutes later, we’ll be back in the same place all over again. How does this work exactly?

Support Call 8-27-15

This call covers:

  • Donate to help Nicholeen get to Kenya to help unite families!
  • Thoughts on assessment, the Self-Government success formula, and Mentor and Family meetings
  • Pre-teaching VS threatening: what it looks like
  • Taking someone else’s consequence for them. Does that work?
  • When beginning homeschool, how much “school time” should happen daily?
  • Getting “alone” time with young children. How is it done?

Support Call 8-7-15

This call covers:

  • My family doesn’t like deliberate talk and family meetings don’t really work. Is it even worth it to do them?
  • My age 12 son has become very rude and disrespectful to me and the rest of the family. Name calling and “poop jokes” are normal for him. How do I help him fix it?
  • We’ve just started implementing TSG and our 5-year-old son can’t accept a “no” answer. He runs away and is rude. What do we do?
  • Where do you go to get a lift and/or encouragement? Do you ever feel depressed? And, what do you think about birth order?
  • My 3-year-old runs away when it’s time to go to the calm down spot. What do I do about that?

Support Call 4-18-14

This call had questions about teens and toddlers, and even how to find certain things on the Teaching Self-Government website.

Here are the questions:

  • I have 7 children with the last three being adopted from a fostering situation. My husband is in the military and deployed often, leaving me the sole parent. I know the problems with my kids are because of me. I’m a “smoother-over” trying so hard to make everyone happy that now I have kids that walk all over me and are disrespectful. My husband has got reassigned and we will be moving the Alaska in June. I’m begging you for some help as I’m not sure I can make it through another deployment without a strong plan and tolls for my parenting.
  • My 14 year-old daughter has been in a group home for about 4 months for her stealing and violent behavior towards me. She’s starting to be able to come home on the weekends. The first weekend in April she was home for the two days and on Monday her older sister came to me to tell me she was missing $70.00… My feeling is that until the money is returned/found she shouldn’t be able to come home. What are your thoughts?
  • Do you ever allow natural consequences to be the consequence or do you always follow through immediately with a job consequence?
  • I absolutely love the Implementation Course. I have difficulty, however, finding some specific lessons. Is there a simple way to find specific classes/lessons?
  • How do I do relationships TSG Style?Meetings?How do I show love in healthy bonding ways? What about beating co-dependency?

Getting Started

“I was just wondering, when trying to set up this type of family government for the first time, does it take several family meetings before you can actually implement it? You talk about how each meeting shouldn’t be longer than 20 minutes, but if I’m understanding properly, to begin we need to talk about a family vision, come up with a mission statement, teach everyone the four basic skills (and practice them), and create a family standard…all the things seem to build on each other, so it sounds like it would take longer than twenty minutes to go through all of it properly bef


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