Support Call 10-02-15
This call covers:
- The value of SODAS.
- Mother of four under age six. Life is crazy! What do I do?
- Mother struggling with slight OCD and intolerance.
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Pre-Teach
Support Call 9-25-15
This call covers:
- How to still be a parent, even with shared custody of a child.
- Handling multiple meltdowns at once.
- Backup Calm Down spots for when multiple children need it.
- Daughter is disrespectful to mother and monopolizes father, leaving no time for mother and father to have Couple Bonding time. Suggestions?
- Special, new presentation: Power Of Words
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Support Call 9-18-15
This call covers:
- My child, age 6, can’t even look at me when I’m giving him an instruction. How can he follow an instruction if he can’t even look at me?
- My 5-year-old son is great at telling me what to do when he earns an extra chore, but when he actually earns one, he goes completely out of control. What do I do?
- My husband doesn’t like to participate in family meetings. Is it possible to have meetings without Dad? Can we still have family unity?
- My children don’t like to redo things when they do something wrong. How do I help them participate in redoing a situation?
- How many times can you go into the Rule of Three? My son keeps getting distracted and I’ll start it, then he’ll calm down. But three minutes later, we’ll be back in the same place all over again. How does this work exactly?
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Support Call 8-27-15
This call covers:
- Donate to help Nicholeen get to Kenya to help unite families!
- Thoughts on assessment, the Self-Government success formula, and Mentor and Family meetings
- Pre-teaching VS threatening: what it looks like
- Taking someone else’s consequence for them. Does that work?
- When beginning homeschool, how much “school time” should happen daily?
- Getting “alone” time with young children. How is it done?
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Support Call 8-21-15
This call covers:
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At what age does a mother have to accept that her daughter is now old enough to makeher own decisions, and peacefully accept rather than try to advise and correct herbehavior?
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When you’re assigning a job as a consequence, how do you go about it if you’re not athome?
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How do I wean my little daughter from a reward-based system but still help her with pottying in the toilet every time? Also, she is “happily hurtful.” How do I help that?
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My kids think that the calm down spot isn’t a place for them to just calm down. If they stop crying immediately, can they leave the calm down spot right then or not have to go at all?
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Support Call 7-24-15
This call covers:
- The meaning of pioneers
- How to fix complacency at home and at work
- Age 11 son is constantly whining. How to help him be okay
- Keeping two 14-month-old babies from hurting themselves during a tantrum
- Knowing what the appropriate amount of friend time for young children is
- Being emotionally attached to a “no” answer, including in role plays
- Helping age 5 son see that he hasearneda consequence, not that it wasgiven
- Explaining the “why” of boundaries
- Gaining respect for adults outside of your own family
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Support Call 7-10-15
This call covers:
- How to use TSG with children with high-functioning Aspergers
- How to stay calm when your children don’t come when you call.
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Support Call 7-3-15
This call covers:
- Accepting a consequence and having “calm down time” before going through the Rule of Three.
- Siblings ages 2 and 3 having a hard time playing nicely. What do I do?
- Age 3 daughter has started sticking out her tongue when she gets an instruction. How do I correct this young version of an attitude problem?
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Support Call 2-27-15
This call covers:
- Homeschooling and keeping the focus in a big family
- Guiding simultanious situations and keeping my sanity
- The role of the older sibling left in charge. Can they give chores?
- Consistency with TSG
- Dating, courting, and Adulthood. What are your rules and when is someone an adult?
- Family on the calls
- More questions on my manipulative mother and gratitude for Nicholeen’s clarity
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Falling In Love With Your Children Again And Again!
“Mom! Mom! Mom!” said a boy at the swimming pool one day. The boy’s mother didn’t answer back. She was busy setting up her pool chair. “Mom! Can you get me my swim noodle? Mom?” the boy repeated. The mother still said nothing. The anxiety was obviously building in the boy. Soon, the mother was
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Watch – Pre-Teaching
Pre-teaching helps your children to decrease anxiety and increase confidence in their Self-Government skills.
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Bodies For Sale! Teaching Modesty
“…Everyone is selling something,” I said as I talked to a young girl one evening.
Her mother had just made a comment about how the outfit the girl was wearing was “too revealing” and so she would need to go change it. The fifteen year old girltilted her hip and rolled her eyes as she smirked at her mom. This smile meant, “I don’t care what you say.
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Conference Call 11-16-12
This call covers:
- Correcting behavior while traveling and what to do when you have different standards from the people you are visiting.Falling off the TSG wagon and getting back up.What to do when you spouse isn’t on board.
- 14 year old manipulative son and Disagreeing Appropriately
- Loss of privileges on a Sunday. Daughter plans her loss of privileges to happen when she can’t lose them.
- Discouragement
- When and how to teach the family the TSG program
- Children’s friends who keep bringing electronic devices to the house. What to do about it.
- Role Play Ideas for making it more fun, staying away from bribing and the upcoming video
- Pulling yourself out of a slump
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Help My Out Of Control Kid!: How To Handle Temper Tantrums
Dealing with tantrums is the part of parenting which most parents dread. They hope their sweet little baby will not ever hit the toddler tantrum phase or the even worse teenage temper tantrum phase.
As a young mother, I was just as afraid of toddler tantrums as the next person.
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Improving Self Esteem: How To Build Self Confidence In Children
A Mother’s Question About Building Self Esteem In Children
“Emma said to me at bedtime that she thinks that she’s ugly. I’m not exactly sure where she heard this since I’m always telling her how cute she is, but what would you say to your kids if they said that?”
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How To Stop Getting Angry: Relaxation Breathing Techniques
“Mom, I’m going to go to Zack’s to play basketball. Is that okay?” Quinton, age fifteen, announced this morning.
I replied, “Quin, you have things to do here at home today, so I don’t think we will have time for friends until another day.”
Quin really wanted to go shoot hoops with his friend. What fifteen year old boy doesn’t?
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Conference Call 4-15-11
Nicholeen shares some stories about the importance of having a vision for you and your children. She is often contacted by individuals who have see in the BBC show. She tells about a girl who is lost and not sure what to do with her life and is considering apprenticing as a piercing person.
- What if your child (or teenager) doesn’t care about the family vision or says it is stupid? That’s what seems to be happening with one of our kids.Nicholeen shares 5 ideas about vision.
- I have a question about the content of vision. Would it be bad to make our family being in the rodeo as part of our vision?Or do I just change the vision if my children’s interests change.
- 7 year old not calm after rule of 3 and needs to be taken out of the room. I can’t take him due to back it sends me into panic mode. He doesn’t like to be taken there. But he is attention seeking with the tantrum. 5 second rule. Power struggle mode. Soft hold. Exception to rule. Be intuitive. Special moment, counseling session. I noticed good. I noticed every so often you arent happy. I decided in order to help you be happy to do a soft hold. You are in bondage to your emotions and I am going to free you.
- Help! I need advice as soon as possible. We just found out that our 17 year old has been drinking he was twice the legal limit and has been smoking 4 cigerettes per day. He needs to go to detox and a smoking cessation program. What do we do?
- My 17 year old daughter makes mountains out of mole holes in regards to computer time and her social life. She will get really upset. She’s is a really good girl and the extreme is that she recently started cutting herself. Part of it is my fault since we really don’t have a structure in place for.
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Tips For Using Time-out With Toddlers
“My 2yo has started crying a LOT the past few days. Over every little thing. Nothing is different physically or environmentally that I can tell. He already has his 2yo molars, too.. He’s just been crying about everything that he doesn’t like, with some pretty good tantrums thrown in the mix of the average crying. I tried holding him in timeout (he’s never stayed in time out on his own so far), but he screamed and threw a serious tantrum the whole time.. which wouldn’t be a problem for me except that I have to take care of the other kids, too! I tried holding him in our time-out spot until he was done with the tantrum so I could praise him for being happy, etc., but after 40 minutes of continuous screaming, my baby was also crying, needing to be fed, and the other young kids had destroyed the basement. At that point I just took him to his bed to finish his crying fit. So I’m thinking the holding in time out option might not work for us. Yesterday and today I’ve started just taking him to his room when he starts having a breaking down crying fit. What would you suggest? Do you think I should just take him to his room every time he cries? Or should I try
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Should I Pre-teach EVERY instruction?
This mother’s son has a hard time following instructions if there isn’t a pre-teach before every instruction. Does she have to pre-teach beforeeveryinstruction?
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When To Give Consequences And Do Corrections
When andhow do yougiveconsequences? For example,if youinstruct yourson to go clean his room (assuming you’ve prepped him for accepting a consequence) and he whines and says, “I don’t want to do it right now.” What do you say?
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