A reader wrote to me telling me about a young neighborhood child that introduced things of a sexual nature to her daughter. This is not a fun subject. I have been avoiding putting it on the site, but the more I think about it, this topic is probably one of the biggest things parents face. How do we keep our children free from the disease of sexual impurity that seems to be taking over our world? How do we make them aware while not taking away their innocence?
Posted by Nicholeen Peck on June 23, 2008
Whole Call: https://s3.amazonaws.com/1-SupportCalls/2020/09September/TSG_SC_9-30-20_WholeEdited.mp3 Question: Hello Nicholeen, When my children are having trouble with friends, I often feel extremely stressed out that the problem be resolved. I then have trouble giving my child objective advice. I used to say negative things about the situation and make my child feel worse. Now my oldest is dating, and I noticed that my stress about things that bother my child is really too high. One example is if a date hasn’t called when expected and my child is worried that the person is going to “ghost” them. I would like to be the best person for them to come to for advice. How do I detach and be that person? Do you have any advice for how to handle this? Thank you. Answer: https://s3.amazonaws.com/1-SupportCalls/2020/09September/TSG_SC_9-30-20_Q1.mp3 I love that you are seeing that you are taking things too personally! That is really great assessment. It …
Posted by Nicholeen Peck on October 2, 2020
Whole Call: https://s3.amazonaws.com/1-SupportCalls/2020/09September/TSG_SC_9-16-20_WholeEdited.mp3 Question: Hi Nicholeen, I homeschool 5 children and have a 2 year old toddler. I am introvert with a load of high energy spirited children and one ADHD child. All the talking that’s involved in homeschooling and then all the talking involved in the TSG is hard on me. I hate having to stop a lesson with one child to correct another because it disrupts the flow of the lessons and so I want the bad behavior to stop immediately without having to do a long correction with a lot of talking. If I leave the one who I am teaching to correct another, the child I was teaching gets distracted and goes off to play or starts talking to another sibling and/or getting silly. Then it takes time to get them to transition back to their lessons. Having someone leave to do an extra chore throws …
Posted by Nicholeen Peck on September 26, 2020
This call covers: How to deal with obstinate behaviors of a 3rd grader and a 9th grader. Learning how to praise better and getting away from personal negativity. Fixing the feelings of failure in parenting.
Posted by Nicholeen Peck on September 16, 2015
This Call Covers: Attention Seeking in adult children Helping ADHD kids be calm Correcting children who make rude comments TSG and multiple mental disorders in children
Posted by Nicholeen Peck on August 6, 2018
This call covers: Donate to help Nicholeen get to Kenya to help unite families! Thoughts on assessment, the Self-Government success formula, and Mentor and Family meetings Pre-teaching VS threatening: what it looks like Taking someone else’s consequence for them. Does that work? When beginning homeschool, how much “school time” should happen daily? Getting “alone” time with young children. How is it done?
Posted by Nicholeen Peck on August 27, 2015
Whole Call: https://s3.amazonaws.com/1-SupportCalls/2020/08August/TSG_SC_8-26-20_WholeEdited.mp3 Question: Hi Nicholeen! Just wondering if I should pull up my 10 year old daughter on ‘sighing’ when giving her an instruction? The other day I gave her an instruction and she gave an exasperated but very sublte sigh. If you had blinked you might almost have missed it. I pulled her up on it and proceeded to tell her that was not a calm voice. She used the skill of disagreeing appropriately with me. She wanted to defend herself. I calmly stuck to my position believing that it was not a response that I would want her to do to anyone else. She got so overwhelmed with emotion that she yelled at me several times shouting ‘you are so unfair’ and then ran off to her room. I told her that I would discuss this with her once I had thought about it some more. As …
Posted by Nicholeen Peck on August 28, 2020
This Call Covers: Dealing with custody-related parenting problems Rule of three and young children Preventing parental manipulation of children Does TSG make kids worse?
Posted by Nicholeen Peck on August 27, 2018
This Call Covers:Unifying a family in a new marriageHelping young children who lieTeaching self-government to teenagers
Posted by Nicholeen Peck on August 23, 2019
This Call Covers: How to teach a child that is not your own how to behave in public Helping your child become inspired to transfer into a scholar phase Helping your children become calm before and during the rule of three
Posted by Nicholeen Peck on August 21, 2017
This call covers: Changes for this school year Dishonesty and disrespect from our 14-year-old. What can I do to build my relationships with my children, especially my 15-year-old? Experiences, capacity, and skills. Also, balancing homeschool with 4 children under 6.
Posted by Nicholeen Peck on August 17, 2016
This Call Covers: Using TSG as a grandparent. Stopping children from attention seeking in public Overcoming a video game addiction Helping a child learn how to have fun but not pull pranks Preventing self-harm
Posted by Nicholeen Peck on July 7, 2018