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Nicholeen Talks About How She Lives Joyfully And MUCH More!

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Recently I was invited to be a guest speaker on the Joyful Living Podcast with Quinn Curtis. The presentation was completely new and really spontaneous! I think you will like it. Some of the topics covered are: Entitlement issues in children What joyful living looks like How to balance home life and work or other

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Support Call 1-8-16

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This call covers:

  • Resolutions: repentance and deliberate action.
  • How to structure family scripture study with a wide age range of children.
  • A good system to keep the house clean.
  • Son is obsessed with making money so that he can buy video games that we don’t approve of. Help!
  • Raging and manipulation when going through the Rule of Three.

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Support Call 12-11-15

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This call covers:

  • My 2-year-old son is very stubborn and strong-willed and he “pushes back” at me, but not at Dad. What do I do about this?
  • All of my children are dawdling through their chores and their school. How do I help them overcome that?
  • How does “say okay and be okay” work with no answers? Mychildren cry, whine, and get attitude problems when they don’t get their way.

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Support Call 12-4-15

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This call covers:

  • A reluctance to make a family vision because husband is a different religion and doesn’t share the same beliefs and ideas.
  • Son disagrees appropriately witheveryinstruction he’s given. What to do with that.
  • Limit on son’s TV time, but he didn’t want to accept it and he started a power struggle with me.
  • a 2 1/2 year-old son has to have everything his way or he throws a tantrum. He doesn’t really understand TSG stuff yet.
  • Age 5 daughter can’t accept no answers or criticism. When she’s corrected, her self-esteem drops and she deflates. She says she’s not good enough and her ideas are not good enough.

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Support Call 11-10-15

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This call covers:

  • 2 1/2 year-old son seems to always be getting into trouble, not sure if it’s intentional. Also, for 3 1/2 year-old daughter and him, if they don’t follow instructions, should I be using the “calm down spot” instead of an extra chore?

  • My son will not follow instructions. He is 11 and just won’t. What do I do if he just calmly turns away from me every time I ask him to do something?

  • How do I help my 20 year old son to go back to school? Do I push it or just let it be since he is now an adult? What do I do? Can I make him?

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Support Call 9-18-15

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This call covers:

  • My child, age 6, can’t even look at me when I’m giving him an instruction. How can he follow an instruction if he can’t even look at me?
  • My 5-year-old son is great at telling me what to do when he earns an extra chore, but when he actually earns one, he goes completely out of control. What do I do?
  • My husband doesn’t like to participate in family meetings. Is it possible to have meetings without Dad? Can we still have family unity?
  • My children don’t like to redo things when they do something wrong. How do I help them participate in redoing a situation?
  • How many times can you go into the Rule of Three? My son keeps getting distracted and I’ll start it, then he’ll calm down. But three minutes later, we’ll be back in the same place all over again. How does this work exactly?

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Support Call 8-7-15

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This call covers:

  • My family doesn’t like deliberate talk and family meetings don’t really work. Is it even worth it to do them?
  • My age 12 son has become very rude and disrespectful to me and the rest of the family. Name calling and “poop jokes” are normal for him. How do I help him fix it?
  • We’ve just started implementing TSG and our 5-year-old son can’t accept a “no” answer. He runs away and is rude. What do we do?
  • Where do you go to get a lift and/or encouragement? Do you ever feel depressed? And, what do you think about birth order?
  • My 3-year-old runs away when it’s time to go to the calm down spot. What do I do about that?

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Support Call 7-31-15

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This call covers:

  • Teaching homeschool while keeping the house clean. How do I keep it all going?
  • We’re new to TSG and have 4 children. Our 14-year-old is struggling with following instructions and being calm. What do we do?
  • My aged 14 son has come back to live with me after being a whole year with his dad and in public school with no boundaries. He says he hates me, won’t do anything I say, and does anything he can to show me how much he dislikes me. How do I help him?
  • What happens when you’ve gone through the Rule of Three and your child isstillout of control. What do I do?

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Support Call 7-17-15

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This call covers:

  • Is “going to the realms of fantasy” the same as negative attention-seeking?
  • Children learning to follow instructions with or without the specific TSG language.
  • How to use TSG with an aged 16 daughter who knows no boundaries and who must go to court for her behaviors.
  • When given a “no” answer, how to recognize and correct manipulation.
  • My husband thinks I’m too quick to correct behaviors and he doesn’t like the 24-hrs loss of privileges “punishment.”
  • How to have family meetings with grown children.

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Support Call 7-3-15

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This call covers:

  • Accepting a consequence and having “calm down time” before going through the Rule of Three.
  • Siblings ages 2 and 3 having a hard time playing nicely. What do I do?
  • Age 3 daughter has started sticking out her tongue when she gets an instruction. How do I correct this young version of an attitude problem?

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Watch (Part 2) – 4 Basic Skills

The Norton’s Following Instructions The Norton’s Accepting Consequences Siblings Disagree Appropriately Over Computer Last week my post was about sibling rivalry. Here is a movie which shows how knowing to Disagree Appropriately is a skill which helps sibling rivalry. This sibling rivalry solution video was filmed while I was doing some private self-government teaching for

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Tips For Using Time-out With Toddlers

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“My 2yo has started crying a LOT the past few days. Over every little thing. Nothing is different physically or environmentally that I can tell. He already has his 2yo molars, too.. He’s just been crying about everything that he doesn’t like, with some pretty good tantrums thrown in the mix of the average crying. I tried holding him in timeout (he’s never stayed in time out on his own so far), but he screamed and threw a serious tantrum the whole time.. which wouldn’t be a problem for me except that I have to take care of the other kids, too! I tried holding him in our time-out spot until he was done with the tantrum so I could praise him for being happy, etc., but after 40 minutes of continuous screaming, my baby was also crying, needing to be fed, and the other young kids had destroyed the basement. At that point I just took him to his bed to finish his crying fit. So I’m thinking the holding in time out option might not work for us. Yesterday and today I’ve started just taking him to his room when he starts having a breaking down crying fit. What would you suggest? Do you think I should just take him to his room every time he cries? Or should I try

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Are Chores Instructions too?

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I know you’ve written posts about chores before, but I can’t seem to find them on your website. So I’ll ask my questions, and maybe you can direct me to the proper posts if you’ve already answered them! Are the everyday chores that kids have a “standing instruction?” In other words, if they don’t do their chores or have to be reminded to do them, are they not following instructions, and would they start earning consequences?

Yes. Any responsibility your child has, such as a chore or school work, is an instruction. The term “standing instruction” is perfect fo

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Dealing with Friends part 4

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How do you help your children stand up for what’s right without being “preachy” or “goody-goody”?

The most importantskill you can teach your child is how to determine what is right and what is wrong and how to choose right and stay away from wrong. This is the whole reason children need parents. If my child can’t match his outfits, doesn’t know how to do mathematics well, never changes his bed sheets, ortalks with his mouth full, it doesn’t really matter at all if he has mastered how to discern between what is right and what is wrong and chooses to follow right.

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