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Support Call 4-28-17

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This call covers:

  • Asking questions and some scheduling for May.
  • Applying TSG to young children, son with a “loose mouth”, and bedtime in a shared bedroom.
  • Discussing methods for correcting bad language.
  • How to do the Rule of Three with children that need to “do it over.”
  • Contemplating putting oldest son in school for multiple reasons. Is it the best option?
  • Synthetic consequences foreveryone? Parents need Self-Government too…
  • Fixing obnoxious behavior and helping change child’s heart during the Rule of three.

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Support Call 12-9-16

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This call covers:

  • What we’ve done this Christmas Season and some good Christmas stories and videos to read and watch
  • How to correct a child that overreacts
  • Small son won’t stay in the calm down spot. What’s the process for keeping him there?
  • Noticing bad habits in the children that can be fixed
  • Oldest child turning 18 and difficulties that come with that

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Support Call 9-30-16

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This call covers:

  • Becoming a joyful adult yourself.
  • Easy going to control freak toddler.
  • Manipulative and controlling son.
  • Young son pees all over things and won’t be patient. He does it purposely sometimes.
  • Daughter needs to wear glasses and eye patch, but doesn’t like to because she gets teased by step family and others.
  • Son has new phone for a few days and already has looked at porn sites. How to address that.

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Support Call 2-19-16

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This call covers:

  • Time flies as your children get older.
  • Teaching my children love instead of toleration.
  • It’s hard to stay consistent, but even more so with HF autism.
  • I know I need to connect with my children, but I don’t want to.
  • You have a section in your book that talks about telling your children about sex. Why are you not in favor of sex ed in schools?

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Support Call 2-12-16

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This call covers:

  • How to correct someone else’s child when in a group.
  • Comparing points of certain psychology to TSG: what’s right and what’s a little off.
  • Helping my son become more attentive and less distracted.
  • Catching my 15-year-old daughter with junk food in her room and stealing money to buy junk food. It’s all she’ll eat.

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Support Call 10-31-15

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This call covers:

  • World Congress of Families update and November Conference call info
  • We just found out that my teenage son is cutting, depressed, and possibly suicidal. We try to talk to him, but he plugs his ears and hums. How do we handle this?
  • My 6-year-old son has developed a new habit of negativity and being down on himself. I thought it was manipulation, but now I’m not so sure. Thoughts?
  • Our 15-year-old son’s room isalwaysmessy. We’ve tried to get him to clean it, but he just won’t and it’s the source of a lot of our battles. Suggestions?

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Support Call 7-17-15

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This call covers:

  • Is “going to the realms of fantasy” the same as negative attention-seeking?
  • Children learning to follow instructions with or without the specific TSG language.
  • How to use TSG with an aged 16 daughter who knows no boundaries and who must go to court for her behaviors.
  • When given a “no” answer, how to recognize and correct manipulation.
  • My husband thinks I’m too quick to correct behaviors and he doesn’t like the 24-hrs loss of privileges “punishment.”
  • How to have family meetings with grown children.

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Support Call 12-13-13

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This call covers:

  • How to help children with a lack of interest in going to church
  • How do I train an 18-month-old to accept No answers?
  • How can I get answers to prayer?
  • The importance of eye contact.
  • Connecting while correcting
  • Staying up too late and modesty in age 17 daughter
  • Fighting: when to and when not to
  • When is friend time good and when is it bad? How do I know when it’s been too much?

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Conference Call 4-15-11

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Nicholeen shares some stories about the importance of having a vision for you and your children. She is often contacted by individuals who have see in the BBC show. She tells about a girl who is lost and not sure what to do with her life and is considering apprenticing as a piercing person.

  • What if your child (or teenager) doesn’t care about the family vision or says it is stupid? That’s what seems to be happening with one of our kids.Nicholeen shares 5 ideas about vision.
  • I have a question about the content of vision. Would it be bad to make our family being in the rodeo as part of our vision?Or do I just change the vision if my children’s interests change.
  • 7 year old not calm after rule of 3 and needs to be taken out of the room. I can’t take him due to back it sends me into panic mode. He doesn’t like to be taken there. But he is attention seeking with the tantrum. 5 second rule. Power struggle mode. Soft hold. Exception to rule. Be intuitive. Special moment, counseling session. I noticed good. I noticed every so often you arent happy. I decided in order to help you be happy to do a soft hold. You are in bondage to your emotions and I am going to free you.
  • Help! I need advice as soon as possible. We just found out that our 17 year old has been drinking he was twice the legal limit and has been smoking 4 cigerettes per day. He needs to go to detox and a smoking cessation program. What do we do?
  • My 17 year old daughter makes mountains out of mole holes in regards to computer time and her social life. She will get really upset. She’s is a really good girl and the extreme is that she recently started cutting herself. Part of it is my fault since we really don’t have a structure in place for.

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Parenting Adult Children ~Narcissism Personality Disorder

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Nicholeen,

Do you have any hope (techniques we can use) forNarcissistto change? I am dealing with a 50 year old son who we have diagnosed (finally) and he is wearing us out emotionally and financially.
Thank you so much,

When I think about this situation I can’t help but ponder on the word “control.”He wants control of his life and is going about it all wrong…………you want to have more control, or influence, over him and he is not a child anymore, despite how he is acting, so you can’t have it by taking it. There is a principle I believe in…………..No one is able to really control anyone but herself.

However, this doesn’t mean that you can’t still have influence on your son. It just means that it is much more

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Child pouting

Helping Young Children Accept “No” Answers

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“Nicholeen, I was wondering how you teach these principles to the younger children. My children are (almost) 8, (almost) 6, 3.5, 20 months, and a 2 week old. (not that I expect to be doing this with the newborn right away. *grin* ) I can usually expect my older two to follow instructions, but the 3 year old and 20 month olds do not. I realize that the 20 month old is still learning, and “no” is her favorite word.

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