In this time of innovation, abundance, and a voluminous amount of personal development and fulfillment messages, why are suicide, addiction, abuse and depression rates increasing? People have more things than ever before, yet there seems to be less happiness. Why has happiness decreased? What is the source of true happiness? The answers may be surprising. Children who learn happiness during childhood through regular family life are apt to find and cultivate happiness during adulthood no matter what circumstances surround them. The family is the foundational source of a life of happiness. Many will argue that God is the main source of all happiness; and that is true. The family as the foundation to happiness is in complete agreement with this truth. God instituted families and sent every person to a family. Families were designed with training children and good people in mind. Family is intended to be the environment and …

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Posted by Jeff Pizzino on May 4, 2016

This call covers: Becoming a joyful adult yourself. Easy going to control freak toddler. Manipulative and controlling son. Young son pees all over things and won’t be patient. He does it purposely sometimes. Daughter needs to wear glasses and eye patch, but doesn’t like to because she gets teased by step family and others. Son has new phone for a few days and already has looked at porn sites. How to address that.

Posted by Nicholeen Peck on October 7, 2016

Whole call: CC Notes 9-1-2021 https://s3.amazonaws.com/1-SupportCalls/2021/09september/8-1-21/tsg-sc-9-1-21-Whoeledited.mp3 Question: My question is about friends verses family time. My family is my priority and yet we have a large amount of friend time. The trouble I’m having is that when I say no to friends but don’t have anything really meaningful going on around the house I seem to give in to the friend time. They all seem a little down and tired when we do have family time which lends itself to wanting to watch a movie. Honestly, sometimes it’s a welcomed request because I’m tired too and want a break. If all we do together is watch a movie to rest for the next “event” then I know we are really missing out on vital relationships. Unfortunately I don’t know where to draw the line. I have 2 16 yo and 2 10yo if that helps to get an idea of …

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Posted by Nicholeen Peck on September 1, 2021

Whole call: CC Notes 8-25-2021 https://s3.amazonaws.com/1-SupportCalls/2021/08August/8-25-21/tsg-sc-8-25-21whole+edited.mp3 Question: What do you do when a child earns an extra chore but you can tell they are holding a grudge? I think they are not dropping the subject but continuing to give extra chores doesn’t seem to help. They are not out of control so starting the rule of 3 seems extreme. When the rule of 3 is started they do everything correctly, but their heart is hard. So far we have been working on these kinds of issues with a counseling session after the earned chores are done which is helping. This issue seems to be more common with older children. Answer: https://s3.amazonaws.com/1-SupportCalls/2021/08August/8-25-21/tsg-sc-8-25-21Q1.mp3 This is good analysis. Older children can sometimes feel entitled to do whatever they want. They also have hormonal changes happening which can cause them to take things ore personally. It is true that they are not dropping the …

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Posted by Nicholeen Peck on August 26, 2021

Whole call: CC Notes 8-12-2021 CC Notes 8-12-2021 https://s3.amazonaws.com/1-SupportCalls/2021/08August/8-12-21/tsg-sc-8-12-21Whole+Edited.mp3 Question: Hey Nicholeen! Thank you so much for taking the time to help me. I have a VERY strong-willed 2 year old son and I’m not quite sure what to do with him. I’ve been trying to pre-teach as much as I can, but when it comes to certain situations, I am at a loss as to what to do. Here is an example. Tonight for dinner we had soup with bread. He already had a small piece of bread, but we ask the kids to eat a decent amount of their soup first before they can have more bread. He wasn’t having it. He started screaming and screaming. I calmly told him, “you are screaming and need to be calm. Let’s go to the calm down chair”. We battled it out for 40 minutes and I didn’t know what to …

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Posted by Nicholeen Peck on August 13, 2021

This call covers: Changes for this school year Dishonesty and disrespect from our 14-year-old. What can I do to build my relationships with my children, especially my 15-year-old? Experiences, capacity, and skills. Also, balancing homeschool with 4 children under 6.

Posted by Nicholeen Peck on August 17, 2016

This Call Covers: Children peeing on their floor Having love for your children while correcting them. fixing irritable behavior Helping adult children accept role

Posted by Nicholeen Peck on August 13, 2018

Whole call: CC Notes 7-7-2021 https://s3.amazonaws.com/1-SupportCalls/2021/07july/tsg-sc-7-6-21WhoeEdited.mp3 Question: 6 year old and 3 year old chore rewards for money or screen time. When we give the 3 year old instructions she shuts down and says she needs help every time. Answer: https://s3.amazonaws.com/1-SupportCalls/2021/07july/ts-sc-7-6-21Q1.mp3 Pre-teach… Work with them… Earning screen time… Give her raise… Question: Disagreeing appropriately and moving into the rule of three. My son likes to debate and so I want to tell him he can’t disagree appropriately. Answer: https://s3.amazonaws.com/1-SupportCalls/2021/07july/tsg-sc-7-6-21Q2.mp3 The fact the he is improving… He’s arguing…”I understand…” Tell him what you’re thinking and how you’re processing what he’s doing… Practice… Question: Questions about the heart and manipulation while in 24 hours loss of privilege. Answer: https://s3.amazonaws.com/1-SupportCalls/2021/07july/tsg-sc-7-6-21Q3.mp3 Damaged relationship… Bonding… Graduating the program… It’s about the heart… Question: Question about correcting and feeling childish. Answer: https://s3.amazonaws.com/1-SupportCalls/2021/07july/tsg-sc-7-6-21Q4.mp3 United hearts… Question: My 2.5-year-old is out of control a lot. I don’t have …

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Posted by Nicholeen Peck on July 8, 2021

This Call Covers:Manipulation from younger children and how to stop itControlling a completely out of control childHelping a child who is constantly going through the Rule of 3Parenting a compulsively defiant child

Posted by Nicholeen Peck on August 1, 2019

This Call Covers:Children not accepting a consequencePreventing talking backKeeping an orderly class at church

Posted by Nicholeen Peck on July 18, 2019

This call covers: Is “going to the realms of fantasy” the same as negative attention-seeking? Children learning to follow instructions with or without the specific TSG language. How to use TSG with an aged 16 daughter who knows no boundaries and who must go to court for her behaviors. When given a “no” answer, how to recognize and correct manipulation. My husband thinks I’m too quick to correct behaviors and he doesn’t like the 24-hrs loss of privileges “punishment.” How to have family meetings with grown children.

Posted by Nicholeen Peck on July 23, 2015

This Call Covers: Correcting not dropping the subject Bedtime emotional manipulation Calming down for the rule of three Disagreeing appropriately Staying calm during the rule of three Calming a child down during a correction

Posted by Nicholeen Peck on July 16, 2018