age 3

Angry little girl

Ah, 3-Year-Olds!

I once heard from a mother who was struggling with her three-year-old. The girl didn’t take “No” answers well, even when they practiced. When she earned a consequence she either wouldn’tdothe chore or would holler if it was the removal of a privilege.If the mother gave her a “No” answer to anything, the girl would flop on the floor and scream. If she didn’t get what she wanted from her siblings, she would yell and hit them.She was a sweet girl, but she was also very strong-willed and determined to get her way.

Support Call 5-05-17

This call covers:

  • 3-year-old will not do any chores, even after earning them and calming down.
  • Getting teens on board with the new TSG skills when they don’t want to.
  • Feeling like a robot when doing the rule of three and how to make it not as mechanic.
  • Helping children become “humble enough” to listen to parents during the rule of three.
  • Inspiring change in adult children to help them stop power struggling.

Support Call 4-28-17

This call covers:

  • Asking questions and some scheduling for May.
  • Applying TSG to young children, son with a “loose mouth”, and bedtime in a shared bedroom.
  • Discussing methods for correcting bad language.
  • How to do the Rule of Three with children that need to “do it over.”
  • Contemplating putting oldest son in school for multiple reasons. Is it the best option?
  • Synthetic consequences foreveryone? Parents need Self-Government too…
  • Fixing obnoxious behavior and helping change child’s heart during the Rule of three.

Support Call 12-2-16

This call covers:

  • Quieting a talkative Sunday School class of age 12 boys
  • Getting child to look at you during a correction/instruction
  • Living with parents and having the roles of grandparent and parent mixed up a little
  • Little one gets “hangry” and won’t follow through with consequences
  • Using Rule of Three for the first time and child goes out of control during 24-hour period
  • How to change your voice tone for the better

Support Call 10-14-15

This call covers:

  • Children age 6 and 3. How do I know what their traits are at this age?
  • I’m having a hard time sharing our family vision with my older children who are no longer living with us. Any ideas?
  • My husband doesn’t help me implement new skills and leaves it to me. My 12-year-old son thinks he’s a bad child. And, I’m trying to find God’s will for me and my family.

Support Call 9-25-15

This call covers:

  • How to still be a parent, even with shared custody of a child.
  • Handling multiple meltdowns at once.
  • Backup Calm Down spots for when multiple children need it.
  • Daughter is disrespectful to mother and monopolizes father, leaving no time for mother and father to have Couple Bonding time. Suggestions?
  • Special, new presentation: Power Of Words

Support Call 8-27-15

This call covers:

  • Donate to help Nicholeen get to Kenya to help unite families!
  • Thoughts on assessment, the Self-Government success formula, and Mentor and Family meetings
  • Pre-teaching VS threatening: what it looks like
  • Taking someone else’s consequence for them. Does that work?
  • When beginning homeschool, how much “school time” should happen daily?
  • Getting “alone” time with young children. How is it done?

Support Call 8-7-15

This call covers:

  • My family doesn’t like deliberate talk and family meetings don’t really work. Is it even worth it to do them?
  • My age 12 son has become very rude and disrespectful to me and the rest of the family. Name calling and “poop jokes” are normal for him. How do I help him fix it?
  • We’ve just started implementing TSG and our 5-year-old son can’t accept a “no” answer. He runs away and is rude. What do we do?
  • Where do you go to get a lift and/or encouragement? Do you ever feel depressed? And, what do you think about birth order?
  • My 3-year-old runs away when it’s time to go to the calm down spot. What do I do about that?

Support Call 7-31-15

This call covers:

  • Teaching homeschool while keeping the house clean. How do I keep it all going?
  • We’re new to TSG and have 4 children. Our 14-year-old is struggling with following instructions and being calm. What do we do?
  • My aged 14 son has come back to live with me after being a whole year with his dad and in public school with no boundaries. He says he hates me, won’t do anything I say, and does anything he can to show me how much he dislikes me. How do I help him?
  • What happens when you’ve gone through the Rule of Three and your child isstillout of control. What do I do?

Support Call 7-24-15

This call covers:

  • The meaning of pioneers
  • How to fix complacency at home and at work
  • Age 11 son is constantly whining. How to help him be okay
  • Keeping two 14-month-old babies from hurting themselves during a tantrum
  • Knowing what the appropriate amount of friend time for young children is
  • Being emotionally attached to a “no” answer, including in role plays
  • Helping age 5 son see that he hasearneda consequence, not that it wasgiven
  • Explaining the “why” of boundaries
  • Gaining respect for adults outside of your own family

Support Call 7-17-15

This call covers:

  • Is “going to the realms of fantasy” the same as negative attention-seeking?
  • Children learning to follow instructions with or without the specific TSG language.
  • How to use TSG with an aged 16 daughter who knows no boundaries and who must go to court for her behaviors.
  • When given a “no” answer, how to recognize and correct manipulation.
  • My husband thinks I’m too quick to correct behaviors and he doesn’t like the 24-hrs loss of privileges “punishment.”
  • How to have family meetings with grown children.

Conference Call 4-1-11

In this conference call:

  • Original Implementation Course Information (Initial Launch)
  • Expectations about Parenting – Exceed them!
  • Weaknesses
  • Goals
  • Writing your story
  • Using The 4 Keys to address an issue
  • Time Out
  • Emotional Children
  • Recognizing Problems
  • Rule of 3 with younger children/Loss of privileges
  • 3 Year olds screaming all the time
  • Dramatic ouchies
AngryBoy

Strong Willed 3 Year Old

“I’m trying to figure out how to make this work for my 3 year old. He is very high spirited, very defiant and REALLY can’t take no for an answer. I struggle minute to minute with obedience and with whining and I worry that if I did things the same way I do them with my older children, only using time-outs, he would be in time-out constantly. Actually I don’t know if he would ever make it into time out if I waited for him to be calm first.

boy waiting

He Won’t Clean His Room?

I’m having trouble figuring out a good consequence beyond time out for my 3 yr old. He and his brother who just turned 6 share a room. I gave them an instruction to clean their room this morning, and he left the room to play with toys before it was done.He went into time out nicely, and loved being praised for being good in time out after his 3 minutes were up. He promised to finished cleaning. But then he did it again. We repeated the process and he had a second time out, but he left time out before the time was up. Is it bad to use the same consquence twice in a row? Do consequences always need to get bigger?

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