Teaching Self Government requires Self Government

Another way I change my children's hearts is to see what changes I have to make in myself. If a relationship is suffering, it is usually a two person problem. So, if I feel disconnected from my child, I take a good hard look at what I can do to change myself, motivate myself, and inspire myself. In short, I try to see how I can live better so that I can inspire my child to live better. In the past this has even required a new way of communicating to my family. So far, this approach to changing hearts has been a big blessing for myself and my family.

If I am going to inspire my children to do the four basic skills or speak calmly etc. I have to require myself to do those things too. Cause and Effect remember. Being the self government example will cause increased self government in the home. Cause and Effect =The Biggest Teacher.

Today a good friend, Rachael DeMille, said to me, "Nicholeen, you live deliberately!"

Yes I do. I talk about where I am going and where my family is going with my family. I talk about how we communicate and how we can improve. No subject is off limits. No issue is too touchy. I am dedicated to improving myself and my family; this requires "living deliberately" every day.