Lies. How do I know?

Thanks for your post.  It gave me a lot to think about.  The one part I am still unsure about (and I know I just need to take it to prayer) is about treating them as if they have lied even when you just suspect it.  I find myself wondering whether I am unfairly accusing or if I am wrong when I feel like I am probably being lied to.  I don’t want him to feel like he can’t gain my trust no matter what he does and that I expect the worst from him.  I don’t want him to feel like he can lie and get away with it either though.