Teaching Children Respect: 2 Videos of Disagreeing Appropriately
These videos of two cute children were sent to me by another amazing parent who has taught her children to love practicing good behaviors. The more children practice the right way, the more the right way will happen when it isn't practice time. The second video is of a girl who used to have major tantrums all the time.
Smart Five Year Old! And, cute Tiger!!!
Wow! What a cutie! Four years old!!!
The only part these two cuties could improve on is when they say they understand the other person. Their disagreements show they do, but as they get older they will want to incorporate seeking to understand the person they are talking to. Beyond that small detail, these children are the disagree appropriately poster children.
This is a messsge written by Michael and Emma's mom and dad:
My husband and I have attended Nicholeen's parenting seminar twice, and we have read her book. We have employed many of the principles and practices she discusses therein, including the 4 Basic Skills. This has made a huge impact in our home. Our children are ages 4 and 5. They know how to follow instructions, how to speak respectfully, how to accept a no answer and how to disagree appropriately. We had a big problem with our daughter and temper tantrums. We're talking full-blown 90 minute doozeys. We continued reinforcing the basic skills we had already taught her. It took time, but she eventually realized she didn't get her way when she melted down. She did, however, sometimes get what she wanted by disagreeing appropriately. We tried to reward this proactive behavior by saying yes as often as possible when she employed "disagreeing appropriately." It has greatly helped the atmosphere in our home. There is no more negotiating, power struggles, yelling, crying, etc. It's WONDERFUL! I recommend that every parent learn what these principles are and work to implement them in their homes.
We spoke on the Implementation Course Conference call last friday about my 3 1/2 year old. He has only been out of instructional control one time!! And to be honest, it was after a 14 hour day right...