This call was full ofreally good questions,such as:

• You are doing so many things deliberately, how do you schedule your life to make time and room for it all?Where do you fit in weekly times with your daughters to have that one-on-one time you have mentioned we should have with the children who are our gender?What about mother-son time?Do you do those in the daytime so they doesn't conflict with evening family time? How do you have time for it all?
  
• How do I train my 2 year old to sit quietly in an hour long church meeting?
  
• I’m going to be tending two young out-of-town granddaughters for a week and a half. I stayed at their home recently and observed their behavior, and I think tending could be very difficult unless I establish TSG principles while they are here. Is there any reason not to have things be different at my home than at theirs?Am I naïve to think that I can teach them to act differently in a week?What do you recommend?
  
• My eldest daughter (age 16) has been diagnosed with an eating disorder, among other things, and has been admitted to a therapy clinic out of state. My husband is with her. I'm with my other 5 kids. I can see that the way I've parented in the past has led to my children having several behavioral and self-government issues. I want a more open, clear, honest and loving environment in my home.I really want to begin changing how I parent, and I'd like your input as to how to go about doing so, step by step.How do we weave our eldest daughter into the new family culture when she is living with us again?
  
• What exclamation words do you use? I would like to stop saying: dang-it, crap, and oh my gosh. And, what do you say when your child wants to give up? Also, can you elaborate on your process of goal setting, maybe give an example of a goal you or your child set and how you accomplished the goal? And when I praise, I give too many instructions that I really get tired of praising.It’s hard not to rush through the relationship.What do you recommend to change my own heart? Along with all that, there's an 11 year old girl that comes to my house often. She talks constantly. How do I lovingly tell her to be quiet? One more thing.Can you explain "point of reference?" Where did you get the term from? What does it mean?

This call was a rather long one, but we covered lots of good things. We had lots of questions, some overlapping others. The questions were:

• Does the access code change weekly?

• I am trying to adjust to having three children now that my son is almost a month old. My 2-year-old daughter is very rough and she pulls on him or pokes his eyeswhen I'm nursing or changing his diaper. I'm not sure what to do about that. She doesn't follow instructions yet unless it sounds fun. What's the best advice for the adjustment to 3 children?

• You mention regularly how important it is to have low tolerances for our children's negative behaviors, but sometimes it seems that I am correcting about almost everything one child in particular does. Some of the corrections we have done include:
  He leans back in his chair, which has weakened and damaged several of our chairs, so they are glued and bungy-corded together.
  He props his feet up on the edge of the table.
  If he sees a ball, even one that is put away, he'll pull it out and bounce it in or against the house walls outside, which is against the house rules. I just wonder how to handle these behaviors without leaving him feeling so berated at the end of each day. Thank you for your insights into our situation.

• Please teach us about the Expectations Cycle and Accepting the 'No Answers' Life Throws Each of Us.

• My 8 yr old daughter is hoarding trash among other things. It is truly trash and not just old items that are ready to be thrown away. My husband thinks I should just let it go, and let her keep all the trash I bagged up because she acted so traumatized when I tried to throw it away. Is there a way to help her understand that garbage is garbage, even though to her it is special? How do I help her?

• In regards to homeschooling, I feel inspired that that is what I need to do for our children. My husband is okay with whatever I choose. He is most concerned about my happiness and well-being. However, do I need to suggest that he pray and receive revelation in this area also? I believe we should both feel the same inspiration on what is best for our kids. Also, can you elaborate on the definition of 'insulating' your children. What exactly does that look like? And, recently you talked about going to a Justice Center with your daughters and their young women's group. You used a couple of phrases that I understood:Violation of conscience, Parents are Protectors of conscience, and how children 'process' things. Can you elaborate?

This call was quite a bit longer than usual, but we got to cover so many good things! The questions were great and very insightful. They are:

• How can I best help my 13-year-old son to be motivated to develop himself, and to thereby help him brainstorm and focus on exploring ways to develop his talents, skills, and abilities?
• My 9-yr old daughter and 11-yr old son walk or stomp away when I am giving them a correction. How should I handle this?
• My 2 and half year old learned to call people stupid from her brother. And now she does it a lot for attention is the best for the to deal with it to put her in time-out and give her a chore? SHE has been doing it for a couple of weeks now.
• In regards to homeschooling, I get a lot of people from my church saying we have to be a light to the world, quoting the scripture in the Bible. And saying if we homeschool it takes away that opportunity. I know that's not true. Homeschoolers don't just stay home anymore. What has been your expertise with this?Do you think it takes you out of the world? Like how we are told to be in the world be not of the world.