Support Call Archive
On this call Nicholeen answered the following questions:
- When doing the Rule of three (with 7-year-old) I don't know what I can say to help him calm down so he can listen. Are there other instructions I can give him to help him?
- Recently my 8-year-old son earned 24-hours of no privileges. What do you do when out of instructional control and hangs around the family and won't stay in his room? Do I add more time onto the 24-hours when he earns more chores?
- How do I make Sodas more effective?
- He is argumentative about everything. How can I help my son when he argues about the color of a car?
- Why do you use such specific language with Teaching Self-Government? Don't parents know what to tell their own children?
- My son doesn't want either of his parents to hug him or even pat him on the back. How much do I push physical contact with my 14-year-old son?
- My husband and I have been discussing the best way for an older child to handle discipline when an older child is in charge of a younger child. What would you recommend?
- We've been doing this for two weeks. Are we teaching Self-Government out of order? Are we being unfair in giving the consequences?
In this call, Nicholeen answers these questions:
- Is it okay if a family chooses any 4 consequences in learning self-government? How much can I adapt and still get self-government results?
- My kids are going to bed late, waking up late, and even sleeping in the daytime. How should I handle this?
- How do I teach a 12-year-old girl to disagree appropriately when she says my observations are inaccurate?
- How do we create a family vision that will not tear us apart if things do not go as planned?
- How do I talk about the struggles in my couple relationship without being disloyal to my husband?
On this call, Nicholeen answered these questions:
- How do we do positive consequences without doing unhealthy snacks or encouraging more electronics?
- Doing the Rule of 3 with my 13-year-old daughter (she is saying I am trying to control her)- Am I trying to control her?
- I'm uncomfortable using the Rule of 3. I use it with my 7-year-old daughter. She is not accepting that she had a choice. Is she too young?
- I'm having a hard time staying calm and feel spread thin, How do I keep balance in all of this?
- What are positive consequences for a 1 and 3-year-old son?
- Should I be going on vacation without my husband?
- My 3 1/2-year-old is always right- Are there times that it's okay for them to believe what they want and get back to it later because he's not being teachable? Is this an example of not accepting a correction?
In this call Nicholeen answered questions on the following:
- How do I start to become a self-governing person?
- Why is being a self-governing adult important?
- What makes a person truly confident?
How do I create a vision of who I need to become?
What does the reality of this look like? - What is the hardest part and easiest part of this?
- What can I do in 30 days to get started?
- What possible actions do you recommend that I take to become believing, so that I can change?
- How do I teach my 3 1/2-year-old child when it's appropriate to talk while reading books?
- I feel like a slave driver getting my 13-year-old son to do what he needs to do. How do I help him take responsibility for himself?
- Our granddaughter is coming to live with us, how do we teach her personal hygiene? Other topics also discussed including questions on social time and learning from parents.
Whole Call:(Segments and Notes Below)
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Here's what we talked about today:
- Segment 1: The Parable of the Gardner from Nicholeen
- Segment 2: The Learning of A Child
- Segment 3: Role of Older Children With The Younger Children
- Segment 4: Teaching Selflessness
- Segment 5: Sexual Abuse
- Segment 6: Step Back and Trust
We had a record short call today and we got all caught up with questions so be sure to send in your questions for next week.Besides my voice having a hard time the recording ended up coming out a little fuzzy. We did our best to clean it up.
- Segment 1: Welcome and Announcements
- Segment 2: Transformational Writing For Author's Contest
- Segment 3: Focus On The Truth
- Segment 4: Not Getting It
- Segment 5: Not Accepting No Answers
- Segment 6: Love Them And Hold Them
- Segment 7: Teens And Too Much 'Me' Time
- Segment 8: Dark Books VS. Great Classics
- Segment 9: Paying Kids For Extra Work
- Segment 10: Proactive Prevention
- Segment 11: Chronic Nose-Pickers
- Segment 12: Losing a Father and Gaining a Step-Father
- Segment 1: Welcome and Announcements
- Segment 2: Family Pet
- Segment 3: Bonds That Help Them Choose What's Right
- Segment 4: Staying in Bed at Bedtime
- Segment 5: Summer Family Work Time
- Segment 6: Morning Wake-Up Time for Teens
- Segment 7: Messy Potty Issues
- Segment 8: Returning to Calm
- Segment 9: Amazing Information Seeker and Learner
- Segment 10: Out of Instructional Control
