Tolerances

Please talk to me about how to have lower tolerances. My husband says I have too high of tolerances with our kids and after taking your class and working on this for a couple months I see I still have those “high tolerances”. I give my kids so many chances and pre teach and pre teach and often don’t give chores when I should. My kids get away with a lot of laxity with the skills. I am so afraid of making a mistake and dishing out an undeserved consequence. I really don’t want to give out consequences if I can help it. I was raised in a Dr. Spock type home with almost no rules or boundaries. Implementing boundaries and rules is something I desire but I am not very good at. Help with understanding tolerances and how to lower mine and not live in fear of giving out an undeserved consequence.