Building relationships

Hi Nicholeen, as we have been using TSG in our family for a little while now, some friends with large families (10, 11 children) who have also done the 3 day parenting mastery in the past have approached me lately with questions on a similar line…"How do we build relationships with our children, particularly our teenagers, with using TSG? TSG is so structured, and in a way, controlling. We seem to be spending all our time with correcting & extra chores. What are we missing? I am trying to really focus on praising, but somehow I am just not managing to build relationships with the older ones. Dad seems to be able to get on fine with our older children, but he is a really similar personality to them, and even he sometimes feels like I am a 'bit too much', and I should just back down a bit and stop talking so much. My personality colour is red/blue and it seems like no-one else in the family can relate to me or me to them. What am I missing?"