apologizing

Hi Nicholeen –
This is a comment, not a question. A couple of weeks ago I submitted a question related to the very limited relationship I currently have with one of my grown sons. You suggested sending an apology. I have apologized to him on many occasions for different areas where I failed as a parent, so at first I thought I would not do that. Then, I thought, well, I've never apologized for everything at once, and maybe that is what's called for here. I did a lot of soul-searching and apologized for everything I could think of. I wish I could say that this created an immediate positive change in our relationship, but that did not happen. However, that was not why I did it. I just needed to take responsibility for my mistakes via my son. In addition, this apology made me realize that ALL of my children deserve to hear my deep regret over my parenting mistakes, so now I am composing letters to each of them. Thank you for your advice, Nicholeen.