Calming Down

Hi Nicholeen,

I am reading your books and reached the section on the "Rule of 3". I want some help here as I find the concept a bit too complex in the context of my 13 year old daughter. Firstly, I am unable to stop the power struggles or my daughter's crying or whining etc. I tried telling my daughter to calm down and she screamed back asking me if I am learning some new parenting techniques. She always rejects my attempts to calm her down during a power struggle. How do I get her to calm her down ?