Hi Nicholeen, I'm Asking this on behalf of a very busy mum Anna Faithul, she has done the 3day mastery last year March… she has about 10 children with close gaps… I have already talked to her about deciding if you are giving a consequence that it will take time to be as consistent as possible with parent follow through and setting up, chores for success etc. There's No easy way out of the time that corrections etc take… But I will be very happy to pass your thoughts back to her…. Thanks heaps – Ready
Anna Faithful – "I am having a lot of trouble with getting my 6 year old girl, to actually do the extra chores she earns. (From our Family economy chart) She can sometimes earn a few hours for hitting kicking yelling ect, I start the rule of three with her often, but afer we are done and life carries on, it’s so hard to actually get her to stay focused and on track with doing her chores and consequences. She earnt the full consequence of the rule of three, normally I would give her 12hours for going all the way to the end of the rule of three but this time I changed it to 6 hours telling her that I was going to make it that number because that’s how old she is, hoping to be more successful in getting her to actually do her chore time. But alas I was disappointed and frustrated that all day I had to keep pulling her back on track… for lack of anything else I threated to add more chore time on and start the rule of three with her again. By the end of the six hours she had probably only done about half an hour of real work time, but I felt that that’s all I could successfully get her to do. It’s when I start talking to someone else or look after the baby or put the little ones to sleep, she just keeps ducking away and I know that she isn’t having a heart change and that’s the thing that really worries me. She isn’t learning to self-govern because she isn’t really experiencing the effect of her actions. I do make her miss out on privileges when she is in loss of privilege stage, but I don’t seem to be getting through to her with the Chores. She earns a lot of chores in a very short amount of time, because she gets so wild fast. I think she's a Red, as she likes to control situations and she must have Yellow too as she's not very good at sticking to the tasks if there's any chance, she can get away from it, especially when mummy is busy.
Any good ideas or motivational systems? Thanks very much" – Anna