Disobedient

Hello Nicholeen:

I'm so glad to join the class, and this is my first question and first meeting. The most pressing situation that we are facing is the challenge with homeschooling our 10-year-old son. This is the third year we homeschool him. In the past three years, I've been emphasis on training him about obedient and discipline But it seems my efforts are going nowhere. I feel he's growing more disobedient. Most of the times, it's been a struggle to get him on doing any of the subjects, he either says no, running around, stalling, doing all kinds of body movement, climbing up and down the couch. Sometimes he's just intentionally trying to irritate me. I feel frustrated and disrespected and usually responded with yelling, demanding, or turning away angry and ignore him. I felt so much a failure. I felt I put in so much effort but it's not appreciated and in-efficient. We can only finish half of what I plan to do everyday. I'm still working full time, the time to teach is limited, and most of the time is wasted in dealing with misbehavior. I must be doing something wrong, I'm type A person, I've always been a good student, I can't understand why somebody does not want to learn. My son is very creative, he's only interested in the things he's interested, he'd doing all that the whole day, but his interest would change, right now, it's Lego every minute, in his mind. As you can see, he has ADD as doctor diagnosed, although I don't want to label him, his behavior has posed a lot of stress in my life.

On the other hand, my husband claims he's willing to listen to him. My husband is his type, creative but scattered, very loose time management or organization. When the day my husband is at home to teach, he's pretty much free roaming, even not able to feed him 3 meals on time. He always criticize me for stressing out too much, he'd always say: "He'll survive, nothing wrong with flipping burgers." But I just can't let go, I feel this is my job.

You can probably see, there's problem with our marriage relationship too, with the two different types of personalities, we had constant argument.

I'd appreciate any of your insight, maybe you'd say that why I need this class. LOL.

Thank you, Looking forward to joining the meeting tomorrow.