The Value & Mastery of Emotions

What does it look like to have emotional intelligence?

1. Understanding what is going on inside ourselves.
2. Understanding what is going on inside others.
3. How to connect to others.
4. Discernment between truth/lies, feelings/thoughts/emotions (Productive vs Non-Productive emotions).
5. Thinking challenging thoughts.
6. Not ruminating (worrying).
7. Possessing self-management skills.
8. Caring, empathy (psychopaths have no empathy, so they act inhumane). Staying attuned to children and showing empathy helps the children be emotionally intelligent.
9.  Being able to take a 3rd person look at yourself.
10.  Expressing feelings in open/productive ways (doesn’t stuff emotions)
11. Understanding vs being understood.
12. Following your values (even when emotions are felt).
13. Knowing when to take action.
14. Optimism. “Optimism, like hope, means having a strong expectation that, in general, things will tern out all right in life, despite setbacks and frustrations.” 
15. Having impulse control.