The Value & Mastery of Emotions
What does it look like to have emotional intelligence?
- Understanding what is going on inside ourselves.
- Understanding what is going on inside others.
- How to connect to others.
- Discernment between truth/lies, feelings/thoughts/emotions (Productive vs Non-Productive emotions).
- Thinking challenging thoughts.
- Not ruminating (worrying).
- Possessing self-management skills.
- Caring, empathy (psychopaths have no empathy, so they act inhumane). Staying attuned to children and showing empathy helps the children be emotionally intelligent.
- Being able to take a 3rd person look at yourself.
- Expressing feelings in open/productive ways (doesn’t stuff emotions)
- Understanding vs being understood.
- Following your values (even when emotions are felt).
- Knowing when to take action.
- Optimism. “Optimism, like hope, means having a strong expectation that, in general, things will tern out all right in life, despite setbacks and frustrations.”
- Having impulse control.