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It's the truth!

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Fights? continued

" in the course of asking from youngest to oldest their account of what happened, do their accounts factor in the consequences they receive?  Because all of them are disrupting the family feeling and not... more


"When your kids are fighting, do you try to instruct them in the middle of that?  I often try to intervene but maybe too often - they don't seem to be learning to problem solve with each-other rather than tatt... more

Respectful play

"I have an 8 year old boy and a 6 year old boy and an 18 month old girl. One of the most frustrating things for me is when I’m trying to talk to my boys and give instructions and they ignore me by rough housi... more

Getting Started

"I was just wondering, when trying to set up this type of family government for the first time, does it take several family meetings before you can actually implement it?  You talk about how each meeting shoul... more

A comment

In case some of you don't look at the comments, I wanted to share this one.  "I definitely relate to this mother’s feelings. It is really overwhelming to implement this new system and I make mistakes all th... more

All at once?

"I first just want to thank you for the wonderful things you do.  I attended the LDSEHE conference in Virginia in May and LOVED the classes I went to from you so much that I bought your CDs.  Since then, I've... more


Helpful tips.  #1.  Really look into the eyes of your child when she is talking.  And watch the movements and gestures of her body and face while she plays and communicates to you.  This simple thing brings... more
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Poor Richard

"He that cannot bear with other people's passions, cannot govern his own."  ~Benjamin Franklin This applies, in many ways, to self-government.... more
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Cleaning a Bedroom

How do you find a good consequence for a thre-year-old who won't participate in cleaning a shared bedroom? This mother explained to me of her struggle with this issue. This is the advice I gave her. ... more