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Cleaning a Bedroom

How do you find a good consequence for a thre-year-old who won't participate in cleaning a shared bedroom? This mother explained to me of her struggle with this issue. This is the advice I gave her. ... more

Should I Pre-teach EVERY instruction?

This mother's son has a hard time following instructions if there isn't a pre-teach before every instruction. Does she have to pre-teach before every instruction?... more

Job Jar

Job jars are great, but what to put in them? How many chores can you really do around one house? Here's a list of jobs you can use!... more

Strong Willed 3 Year Old

"I'm trying to figure out how to make this work for my 3 year old. He is very high spirited, very defiant and REALLY can't take no for an answer. I struggle minute to minute with obedience and with whining and... more
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Using The Bedroom As A Consequence

How does 24 hours loss of privileges work in your house?  Let's say a 13 year old boy doesn't want to get on board. But he shouldn't be allowed to just hole up in his room away from the rest of the family!... more

Time-Out Talk

I should have corrected him right there, but for some reason, I let him whine at me. It is always better to correct all negative behaviors as soon as possible.  ... more
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4 Year-Old Stress

We got home late.  My four year old fell asleep on the way home.  After waking up, he came in to go potty, get dressed and go to bed.  From the bathroom I heard crying.  He was in there for a long time. He... more

Is Hovering Necessary?

Hovering gives a message of not trusting.  If he thinks that you don't trust him, he will think of himself as a dishonest person based upon your behaviors.  Hovering is also a form of a power struggle. So,... more
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What Are Your Successes? Part One

Stories of success from others is always a good boost of confidence for ourselves. If you have success stories, feel free to share! We love you hear how Teaching Self-Government is going for you! Here's some th... more
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He Won't Clean His Room?

I'm having trouble figuring out a good consequence beyond time out for my 3 yr old.  He and his brother who just turned 6 share a room.  I gave them an instruction to clean their room this morning, and he lef... more