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Grumpy Children Doing Dishes

He Won't Do His Chores?

Nicholeen, " I have a question concerning my 9-year old son, Colin.  What do you do when a child is not doing his 'regular' jobs.  Colin earned a couple extra jobs today (we're working on accepting consequen... more
Baby Crying

“Crying Doesn’t Bug You, Right?”

            A few days after I gave birth to my fourth child I found out that I didn’t have enough milk for him.  This was very stressful.  (Which I am sure didn’t help me make more milk.)  I... more

What Does It Sound Like?

April asked how the song is supposed to sound so that she could use it.    All the words to the song are : Every time you're silly  (Hold this last y note for 3 counts)  somebody always gets hurt.   ... more
A Bug's Life Leaf

There Are Other Ways

A few years ago, Paije, my daughter who was seven at the time, asked me, “Why do all the ants get flustered when the leaf drops in their path on the movie Bugs Life?”  What a question.  I had never really... more

Who Wants Realistic?

When one of our foster daughters came to live with us, she did something that the others hadn’t done.  She spent the first few weeks intently watching me.  She watched the way I kept house, the way I parent... more
Mom And Little Boy

Important Things

Those voices all around me; “You’re wasting time,” they say. The yard, dishes, big project... more

Are You Assertive?

If you are going to effectively learn how to govern yourself, you have to be assertive.  Teaching Self Government is essentially teaching how to act assertively as oppose to agressively or passively.  Are you... more

"It's Time To Go To Bed."

Nicholeen, I have a 9-year old boy. He is a typical 9-year old boy, I believe, in that his mind (and mouth) is constantly going 200 miles an hour. His siblings are always waiting for him to stop talking so they... more

Tell Them What to Say

Even after we teach our children how to follow an instruction or how to accept a NO answer, our children will sometimes forget that they can choose to say, "OK".  The other day I told my son that he needed to... more

Communicating Honestly

Nicholeen,  I spoke to you in Herriman about my 8yr. old daughter.  She doesn't tell me things or talk to me or anyone for that fact (other than day to day stuff).  I told you she wouldn't even tell me wha... more