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Angry Children

When Is It Tattling?

"I agree that there are definitely times I want my kids to tell me about what's been happening, and you mentioned that you make sure your foster kids know the difference between the two--how do you that?  Some... more
Mother giving high five to daughter

Praising For Real

A reader said that praising doesn't come naturally for her.  In fact, praising seems fake and annoying to this mother.  She asked:  I don't want to be a cheerleader, always saying "Good job" no matter what-... more
Tantrum Face

Poopy Pants and Tantrums

Nicholeen, I have one problem I have not figured out how to resolve.  My son (6) is a great kid, but there is one thing that sets him off every time to the point that he hits, kicks, screams, says unkind th... more
Child with hand to ear

Don't ...

      A lot of children have selective hearing; have you noticed?  Some of this selective hearing is planned and some isn't.  They really don't hear us correctly sometimes.  We can do something to make... more
Grumpy Children Doing Dishes

He Won't Do His Chores?

Nicholeen, " I have a question concerning my 9-year old son, Colin.  What do you do when a child is not doing his 'regular' jobs.  Colin earned a couple extra jobs today (we're working on accepting consequen... more
Baby Crying

“Crying Doesn’t Bug You, Right?”

            A few days after I gave birth to my fourth child I found out that I didn’t have enough milk for him.  This was very stressful.  (Which I am sure didn’t help me make more milk.)  I... more

What Does It Sound Like?

April asked how the song is supposed to sound so that she could use it.    All the words to the song are : Every time you're silly  (Hold this last y note for 3 counts)  somebody always gets hurt.   ... more
A Bug's Life Leaf

There Are Other Ways

A few years ago, Paije, my daughter who was seven at the time, asked me, “Why do all the ants get flustered when the leaf drops in their path on the movie Bugs Life?”  What a question.  I had never really... more

Who Wants Realistic?

When one of our foster daughters came to live with us, she did something that the others hadn’t done.  She spent the first few weeks intently watching me.  She watched the way I kept house, the way I parent... more
Mom And Little Boy

Important Things

Those voices all around me; “You’re wasting time,” they say. The yard, dishes, big project... more