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When To Give Consequences And Do Corrections

When and how do you give consequences?  For example, if you instruct your son to go clean his room (assuming you've prepped him for accepting a consequence) and he whines and says, "I don't want to do it... more
Son won't listen to his parents

Establishing Consequences

"...We taught the 4 basic skills and the kids had a lot of fun role-playing the way to respond to the different situations, they especially loved disagreeing appropriately! :)  Well, I hadn't determined what... more
Guy hugging girl

Appropriate Touch

"You mentioned you have touching rules for friends, family, and neighbors–do you mind sharing them?" There are rules and boundaries for touching for different groups of people. Know what they are and make su... more
Confused/thinking boy

The Children Want To Know Why...

"My 14 yo son is quite a thinker. He always wants to know "why?" about everything. And isn't that wonderful? ...lately we've been having a little trouble with respect for authority. He questions why, but the au... more
Girl in doorway

The Times We Live In Part 2

"My husband works at a jail and just a few weeks ago a man we both know from school and church was brought in on sexual charges. His niece was supposedly the victim. Both of us were very surprised, as we wouldn... more
Little girl covering her eyes

The Times We Live In Part 1

A reader wrote to me telling me about a young neighborhood child that introduced things of a sexual nature to her daughter.  This is not a fun subject.  I have been avoiding putting it on the site, but the mo... more

Whose Fault is It?

About five years ago I met a couple who seemed to have happiness in marriage completely figured out.  They shared some of their secrets with me.  One of them has made a huge impact on our home.  It is called... more

Age 13 -- And Defiant

We talked about changing hearts rather than changing just behaviors and they really liked the role play of following instructions, accepting no answers, accepting consequences and disagreeing appropriately. My... more
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Should They Fight it Out?

There are sometimes when an argument is a natural consequence of a bad behavior. Do I stand back and let them or continue to be a referee between them?... more

Adult Chore Chart?

A reader loves the chore chart we have for our children and wants to try it, but also wants to know if we have a chore chart for us, the adults. ... more