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Is Hovering Necessary?

Hovering gives a message of not trusting.  If he thinks that you don't trust him, he will think of himself as a dishonest person based upon your behaviors.  Hovering is also a form of a power struggle. So,... more

Teen Detachment: What Is Normal?

In generations before ours, youth age 12-18 were beginning their adult lives.  They started apprenticing for real professions.  They began intense studies. They had vision.  All of these youthful feelings a... more
Boy jealous of brother

Sibling Squabbles

Two sisters, Becky and Sara, don’t always get along.  On the day Sara got baptized, Becky approached her older sister and said, “I think it’s stupid that you got baptized.” From this communication it... more
Showing success

What Are Your Successes? Part One

Stories of success from others is always a good boost of confidence for ourselves. If you have success stories, feel free to share! We love you hear how Teaching Self-Government is going for you! Here's some th... more
boy waiting

He Won't Clean His Room?

I'm having trouble figuring out a good consequence beyond time out for my 3 yr old.  He and his brother who just turned 6 share a room.  I gave them an instruction to clean their room this morning, and he lef... more
Happy and sad face girl

Do You See What I See?

Over the last year, my niece has gone through a change.  The once happy, helpful girl changed into a whiny, depressed, girl that didn't look at life the same.  One day I got left home with the all the childre... more
Father sending child to her room

Speed Things Up

"My daughter takes 10 minutes to actually say 'OK' to an instruction.  How do I speed things up?" If it's taking 10 minutes for the daughter to say "Okay" to an instruction, then she is having a power struggl... more
Girl explaining something to Dad

The Why's To Disagreeing Appropriately

When I see my children are getting frustrated, I gently remind them that they can disagree appropriately.  I even tell my children exactly how to disagree with ME sometimes.  The point of the skill is to lear... more
Little boy folding his arms and sulking

When To Give Consequences And Do Corrections

When and how do you give consequences?  For example, if you instruct your son to go clean his room (assuming you've prepped him for accepting a consequence) and he whines and says, "I don't want to do it... more
Son won't listen to his parents

Establishing Consequences

"...We taught the 4 basic skills and the kids had a lot of fun role-playing the way to respond to the different situations, they especially loved disagreeing appropriately! :)  Well, I hadn't determined what... more