TSG in the middle of a power struggle

I am a serial engaged in power struggles. I start them, I engage my youth in them, and I have taught them to engage in them. I agree with you that I lecture and that I engage in power struggles because I desperately want my children to agree with my point of view. Not just understand, but agree with me. I want us all on the same page and to say “okay mom” and go do it because they agree. You telling me that they do not have to agree has been a good thing, but now, breaking the habit. My question: How do you stop the power struggle when it has already begun out of habit? How do you disengage from the power struggle when you are in it 1-3-6 minutes in and realize what you have done and desperately want to end it and restore relationship, respect and credibility with your youth? I engage in power struggles with my 4 kids ages 9-14 and want to break this habit ASAP. How do I use TSG in the middle of the power struggle? Thank you.