The negative effects of praise in vertical versus horizontal relationships in Adlerian Psychology

In this book, The Courage to be Disliked by Ichiro Kishimi and Fumitake Koga, praise is discussed as having a potential negative effect by supposing the relationship is what is described as vertical and the goal is described as creating horizontal relationships instead. In this way, encouragement is said to be the goal and more effective.

I’m curious how this ties in to TSG, and I find myself questioning our dynamic within our family system. Our 16 year old son has responded negatively to praise, and expressed in the past that I am being condescending. Lately he might make facial expressions of mocking or not truly accepting praise given. This seems to align with the view described in the book, and Alfred Adler but seems to conflict with TSG and other resources which promote praise often.

I wonder if this is less effective depending on temperament or personality of the child, or the specific family dynamics. Or, is it more about distinguishing between encouragement being the goal (which other books and resources I’ve read have talked about teenage youths looking for a consultative or advice type relationship with a Father or mentor).

Any thoughts would be appreciated because I’ve found myself avoiding “making a big deal” so to speak by praising things like chores and consequences being accepted because of our son’s negative responses but I feel it might be more about him learning to accept praise and not see it as condescending but rather in the spirit of encouragement. I have been trying to focus on why the actions are beneficial choices to our son and his growth and interests, not focus on me being happy or feeling good about his choices which I think is more what is advised in TSG.

Thank you