Stressed kids & tech managment

Thank you for TSG – it’s the first thing that has bought sanity to our home – I do need still some help building trust and some trouble shooting on how to set up house and work expectations as all my children chafe at doing their chores and only do the minimum and then they don’t play nicely together.

Miss 13 is away on a camping trip and I am planning on removing her option to work on her iPad in her room when she returns. The truth is that everyone bothers each other and she finds it noisy and distressing to be downstairs with the other children who all fight and can’t focus and she is a good girl so I let her work alone in her lovely room and she does good work but she also hides out and I see that it’s a dangerous pattern to be alone with tech! I don’t think she’s doing anything worrying at the moment but her brother 10 is jealous and now wants to sit in his room on a device. To make it “fair” I plan to have devices down stairs & art upstairs. I don’t know how they will go having conversations on the phone all in one room??

They all have a lot going on & we all find it hard to get out of the house for school with lunches packed – & don’t seem to get quality time with especially miss 13 each day – I find myself burdened by chasing my younger ones off technology and not going to bed.

None of them really do a good job at anything & chase at any correction rate socially miss 5

Miss 13 used to make lunches and cook and order shopping but she’s been working on some big projects like publishing a story and the stress makes her hide – I think she doesn’t want to burden me – she has a job to Vaccum and we did it as she wasn’t home and 3 buckets of fluff later and my husbands like “she’s not doing her job at all!! “ 🧐😵 when we ask her she says she is… but always has to be walked around the house to point out where it’s not happening…

I am reviewing the principles, going to have our family standards printed for her to review when she comes home:

I would love to say that downstairs will be and pleasant workspace to use her device and work on her projects but it’s often chaos with the other children who seek negative attention from eachother by correcting eachother and competing all the time!! 😝 praying for wisdom about how to set up our space & interactions