Son that is destructive

I have a just turned 9 year old son that is very destructive but also angry. He is very curious and how things work but also breaks them when using them. He disrespects most things in our home and takes things without asking and Dosn’t put them back. For example he took my husbands tools and went into the woods, used them left some in the dirt. I confronted him and told him this is a NO answer we know we are supposed to ASK before taking things and especially being this is not his but his fathers, he broke a clear boundary. He takes random things out of the garage like string, rope throws them in the tree. Or broke a screen or scratched his closet door. He is pretty much daily doing disrespectful things, damaging or leaving things out, like this multiple times a day. I feel like he is always getting extra chores and many of them a day to the point he is very upset with me and gets angry/ throws things even lately. A lot of yelling and anger. What scares me most is he has been very cruel to animals. He once caught a frog w/ his cousin and showed his cousin how he was going to kill the frog. He crushed it in his hand. I am worried that he is becoming bitter and angry from my constant being after him about his behaviors and it’s showing in some of these ways. He also took baby bird eggs once out of the nest and threw them down and cracked them.
I feel terrible and feel at fault as I know we need to repair our relationship. I don’t know if he needs “therapy” or what you even think about that route or if there is something I can do to address this as well as fix our relationship through THG. I think he can feel i am becoming more resentful toward him bc of his challenging behaviors and therefore he is even more challenging if that makes sense. I want to embrace him more with love and ease in our relationship but I feel he makes it hard bc of his constant choices. I welcome any advice & am grateful for your program.