Regression

What happens when a child earns all three consequences, but continues to and scream and be disrespectful. We are in a hotel room. My son refused to go to bed. He earned a major maintenance. He then lost all control and told me to take back his major maintenance or he would scream, and not stop screaming. My husband, if he were here would’ve given him a spanking which would’ve stopped the disrespectful behavior right away. At this point once I finished the rule of three he said that there was nothing that I could do to him. My eight-year-old almost 9-year-old was screaming from 10 PM to midnight and we share a room with the four of us with three little ones. There are so many people in this hotel that every room is packed. He screamed for two hours. I finally told him that we were going to return his birthday present which finally made him stop.

Things have improved since we implemented the five minute calm down and stop stacking chores. This type of meltdown used to happen every day and it is occurring maybe once a month. We talked about it a couple months ago, and you asked if he has ever accepted the consequences and the the answer is no. Once he earns any part of the role of three he does not accept consequences for days. He can generally avoid it if he is given time to calm down, but sometimes he doesn’t take that time. I like the rule of three because it keeps him listening on a regular basis, years ago before TSG, when I would give an instruction it would take 14 to 15 times for him to listen and now I just have to threaten the role of three, get him to calm down, and he’ll listen. However, it feels like it has some limitations because once he earns any part of the role of three, it creates drama for days.

When he woke up this morning, he proceeded to tell me because I homeschool my kids , I am a leech and I contribute nothing to the home and since I did not buy the birthday presents, I am not entitled to return it. He also proceeded to tell me that if I don’t give it to him, he will find his grandmother who will buy it for him. He then went on and said that I do nothing worthwhile for him. I feel so disheartened and hurt. I feel like we are raising an entitled Child. We have literally eaten beans and rice for the past month so that we can pay for this trip because he made Nationals and we are trying to support him. After what he said, I do not want to give him the water backpack. I got him anymore. What would you do?