Marriage/motivation

Hello, thank you so much for the great content. You share on, YouTube, and in the boom, and in the TSG course.

* What do you recommend for couples who are lacking, unity and closeness… Having contention and not making enough space for friendship and Building one another up and working together.

If one spouse isn’t willing to do Couples Therapy, are there other things you recommend a couple to do without therapy or in conjunction with therapy if that is something that comes to pass at some point.

I feel like the dynamic in a marriage, can have a negative effect on the kids for a lot of reasons, including problems with roles and lack of piss and vision and stability in security that would come from knowing your mom and dad love each other, as well as the example that they are setting.

* my other question is how do I motivate an 11 year old who doesn’t want to do anything including a major maintenance or even simple chores that would be a consequence. It seems like TSG is great in theory, but very difficult to make it happen in my household and with my kids. How would you work with a kid who just sits there when he is supposed to be doing a chore that he has earned for example. Thank you so much for any help.